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Dh want's me to take kids on hol with His family without him

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CoffeeDog · 11/08/2011 12:23

Had a chat with DH last night and he thinks IABU

Due to go on a week long caravan hol with DH entire family next week...

MIL booked it as a 'treat' for us back in jan as we cannot afford to go this year.. she annouced last month that she her DH - her mum and dad will also be sharing the caravan with us making 6 adults and 3 kids in one caravan - with all our kids squished into the little room and me and dh on the fold out bed bit in the living room.
SIL & her DH have a caravan there and will be there with therir 7 kids - shes 7mth pregnant and isnt very mobile so MIL idea is that we entertain the kids while SIL has a break..ermmmm what about me?

DH isnt really good at speding alot of time with his own family (due to probs when he was a kid) as said last night that he thinks he will stay home and decorate for a few days while me and the kids go and have fun...... I have told him NO way i am spending a week being the glorified au par with no sleep(Dh grandad gets up at the crack of dawn and his mum with be at the bar till late )
I have said if he want the painting done i will happily stay behind on my own and paint the house whilst he takes the kids after all its HIS family and he has never had the kids on his own and just come back from a fishing trip with his dad - would be lovly to have the house to myself!

He thinks i ABU as i get on with his family better than him..???

OP posts:
Blu · 15/08/2011 09:30

I have thought of a possible drawback to the BonkingMIL in lounge solution:

Your 5 year old going for a wee in the night and encountering an acrobatic display from BonkingMIL and BF...

skybluepearl · 15/08/2011 11:32

I NEED to know what happened

Pandemoniaa · 15/08/2011 11:41

Shame I'm so busy this week. I'm betting I know the location of this holiday from hell and am but a modest drive away from either of the places I think it might be. Could have rescued OP briefly otherwise! Instead, I remain glued to updates.

InfestationofLannisters · 15/08/2011 12:21

Hastings, youarekidding I haven't been before but there seems to be plenty to do off-park and it's within, "fuck it - we're going home" distance Grin

Also checking in for updates.

youarekidding · 15/08/2011 12:35

I went to Rye - about 12 miles from Hastings. We spent the day in Hastings when it pissed down with rain and it looked lovely. We went in the arcades, had breakfast and wander down the beachfront when rain eased. The beach looked nice, there was loads to do for children.

I would recommend a day at Camber Sands beach. There's a all day car park for £5 (cheapest option), there is lots of lovely sand and a very large tide. It is very busy but for us with 6/7 yos wasn't a problem as they wouldn't wander off, it is shallow enough for them to have a swim though and and for an adult to stand in the water to supervise without actually having to get in!! I did swim mind and it wasn't too cold. There is killer sand dune to walk over to get on the beach. The sand though is beautiful.

Have a great time.

InfestationofLannisters · 15/08/2011 12:57

Oh thank you for that! I'll add Camber Sands to the itinerary Smile

Along with watching for pissed-up MIL, dogs and police sirens.

bibbitybobbityhat · 15/08/2011 13:04

lurk

bigTillyMint · 15/08/2011 19:44

OMG Shock

Come on, where's the latest update? Grin

We are doing the family caravan holiday the right way next week - DH and I drop DC with nanny, grandad and uncle(s) and go off to a hotel miles away for 3 nights, then home for 2nights ON OUR OWN before they bring them back! That's the way to do it Grin

Zimm · 15/08/2011 20:24

What happened OP???

LordOfTheFlies · 15/08/2011 21:38

I've just finished reading through all the answers (and you would still be mad to go,Nothing on here has convinced me otherwiseGrin)

Just a thought though OP, before everyone rolls up.

Is your caravan over- populated? I'm sure they are quite strict regarding number of occupants: to berth size.
(Due to fire regulations mainly)

And will they allow dogs? Most don't unless it's a specific dog friendly caravan. Or maybe she booked a dog friendly because she intended taking the dogs from the start....Hmm

singforsupper · 15/08/2011 23:11

Come back OP, all the stars are waiting here fighting for the lead roles. They say they'll do it for free. I keep telling them we haven't got the script yet but they won't listen...

bibbitybobbityhat · 15/08/2011 23:16

Have just come back from a caravan holiday with my dh, dd (10) and ds (7).

We did feel a tiny bit cramped in the caravan, tbh, as the entire floorspace of said habitat would have fitted in our kitchen.

Ds and dd shared the second bedroom. There were bunkbeds and a single bed in there.

Dh and I had the double bedroom BUT a couple of nights when his snoring was really bad I kicked him out to sleep on the sofa bed on the living room - just like home then.

One morning at breakfast I idly said "so, they reckon these caravans can sleep 7. That would be like inviting your Mum & Dad and my Mum to come with us". There then ensued, between dh and I, how much money it would take to bribe us to go on holiday for two weeks in France (in the unpredictable rainy part) with these three extra guests.

My price was shamefully low (£5,000). Dh wouldn't do it for £10,000 but then he does have a job and earn a reasonable living, whereas £5,000 is a lot to me.

That op of this thread would be willing to do it and more to show loyalty to her dh and his family, and to not let down her children, is just plain AMAZING to me and I am full of admiration.

Would be v grateful for an update when you are safely back home Coffee Grin.

MrsTerryPratchett · 15/08/2011 23:17

Seriously. Enough suspense now.

Blu · 15/08/2011 23:51

She's going away for a whole week. Then she will need to convalesce, undergo counselling etc. So we won't hear for a bit.

bibbitybobbityhat · 16/08/2011 00:06

I am picturing her crouched, in the light Sussex drizzle, around the back of the caravan just below the bathroom window, posting desperately on her iphone, craving support/sympathy and practical tips on living with approx 6 square inches of living space to yourself for a week.

ledkr · 16/08/2011 08:22

With a vodka in one hand and a fag in the other Grin

Snorbs · 16/08/2011 10:00

I'm picturing her sitting in the corner and rocking while eating her hair and weeping quietly.

EldritchCleavage · 16/08/2011 11:32

No, she's already killed the dogs then trashed the caravan. After going feral like something from the League of Gentlemen, she is now hiding out in a hedgerow somewhere, babbling.

PinkSchmoo · 16/08/2011 13:21

I'm making banners saying "Free the Sussex Slayer" - bound to come in handy before the end of the week.

barbiegrows · 16/08/2011 13:48

AND CUT!

Scene 2

Grandma has decided to have another 'early night'.

Grin
Jackstini · 16/08/2011 15:09

She will be on the local news later gibbering "stay away" and waving a frying pan from the caravan door....

TennisFan · 16/08/2011 15:14

I have pictured the scene at breakfast, everyone in a really bad mood as they got rubbish nights sleep, and poor coffeedog having to make everyone a cooked breakfast, with those bl**dy dogs getting in the way.
And its probably raining too

clam · 16/08/2011 15:24

There is No. Way. On. This. EARTH. you would ever get me to go on a "holiday" like this.

And that was before the dogs and the noisy sex Grandma came up.

EuphemiaMcGonagall · 16/08/2011 15:41

And what's worse, there's evidently no internet coverage where she is! Grin

Ormirian · 16/08/2011 15:59

The woman is a saint!

DH and stayed with SIL and BIL and their huge slobbery moulting alsation in a tent once in the Brecon Beacons. It rained. BIL and SIL bickered the entire time. We used to go shopping in the local Woolies to escape. That was when we invented the car park game. DH faked a badly sprained ankle so we could go home. I had to drive out of the car park while they waved us off -even though I didn't have my glasses with me - and stop 100yrs down the road so he could get in the driving seat.

But we only managed less than 24 hours. Not a week.

A saint I tell you....