DS is sat in his room and not allowed to play.

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He also thinks I've cancelled the holiday after pretend phonecall whilst stategically stood outside his bedroom.

I am finding him really difficult atm, thing is though he really isn't a naughty child and if asked to stop doing something he will. He is also quite passive and accepting of things and doesn't argue when I say 'we're doing x and then y and z this way'.

However he is just NOT engaging brain, doesn't seem to be treating anything with repsect and drawing on any bit of paper, packaging he see's when he has a draw full of it that I've made available to him.

The other day he was drawing a map and picked up his Infant school leavers assembly programme and began crossing out names and adding others. I told him he doesn't draw on anything without asking and he had ruined the last thing he has from Infant School. He had earlier on in the day takjen his leavers book into after school club - he is told repeatedly everything stays in his bag on the peg, because there's lots of children aged 4-12yo with free reign and it keeps things safe. He took it in left it by a sink and another child has soaked it by accident and it is ruined.

So today my mum takes him out and buys him a new scooter for holiday. I take it from box and put together, go to toilet and come back to find him drawing all over the box. OK, so not a biggy as it will go in the bin but I thought after ruining something important by the same actions he would heed my advice.

He had also taken again to coming to yell through the toilet door about needing food/ drink everytime I go. This morning he woke at 5:50am. I told him it was too early, to go to bed and watch a DVD and I would come and get him at 7.30am. 6.55am he comes in, sees I'm asleep so pokes and calls me repeatedly until I wake up wanting to know if he can have a chocolate from the box a pupil bought me. He knows this would not be allowed. If he had asked aproppriate time he would of been allowed but as it is he isn't having 1 at all all day today - I have told him this and explained why.

He gets lots of positive praise, but recently nothing is ever enough and as a struggling LP who's saved hard for 5 days away I'm really very sad.

AIBU to simply get him accept the pleasures he has or get nothing?

Sorry ranting a bit but at least I'm not yelling at him.

I think you will find that your OP came across very badly and that the way it was percieved was that you were being childish about your ds being a child. None of what has now come out was in your op so it wasn't suprising that we all jumped on you. You will notice that every single one of our posts said pretty much the same thing, which means that your OP was badly thought out and no it is nothing to do with your dyslexia it was the pettyness of the crime and the whining way it came across (sorry!).

So you have had a shit week, am sorry about that, sometimes shit things happen and it can be the end of the tether, perhaps if you had said you were having a shocking week you might have had a little bit more sympathy but you have to admit that you took this resentment out on a little boy. It happens to all of us at times its called stress and over reacting .

Re the answers whilst you were out, we had been out all morning and my children were exhausted and sleeping but then they aren't very old

Oh yes i forgot about that, while you were out, i was one of the parents you described, hadnt done a thing with the kids all day, i sat on mn, while the kids played on ps3, all of us still in our pj's!

princess thanks. I do have problems writing concisly and getting my point across and not easy when I'm cross. I agree I maybe should have said I was having a shocking week. But I suppose then people could have said it wasn't my DS fault and I shouldn't take it out on him - which is true. And tbh even though I've had a shocking week I don't think breaking things and ruining them after warning is OK, I may just not have been so harsh with him and just given the time out. Keep those PM naps as long as you can. DS stopped at 18 months. It was a huge

herb I am confused myself now. I just want DS to take care of things or at least try. He is probably a typical nearly 7yo tbh. I know lots of DS friends mums have said their 7yo have started answering back and being rude, being rough with toys and pretty much running riot but as DS is only just turning 7 in a bit I suppose I'm getting it now. I'll repeat the mantra 'its just a phase' until it passes and I'm sure we'll be fine.

But claw I love PJ days. It's just when people are accusing you of allowing your child to be bored when everything you do in life is for them is heartbreaking. I have MNed on a Sunday whilst DS on his DS, but I've never accused anyone of ignoring their child and them being bored. I wouldn't when I'm MN myself whilst he's awake.

Anyhoo really must go to bed. If DS is up with the larks again tomorrow I need to be ready. Mindyou there's no chocolates now so he may just wake me and happily make his cereal while I open my eyes.

I just don't get how you see drawing on things as ruining them to be honest....

Hope tomorrow is a better day for you both

Pj days are great arent they.

For the record i think your ds getting up, switching the TV on and making breakfast on his own, if he is able to, while you have an extra half an hour in bed, is fine.

Im lucky, mine dont wake up early, so im always the first one up. If they did wake up really early, i think i would just leave the chocolates on the end of ds's bed for his breakfast, for an extra half hour of sleep