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for being so pissed off??

176 replies

clueless1 · 26/07/2011 20:57

had a 'mates' kids today, 3 of them age 4,6 and 9. she had to work and her childminder called to say she was ill.and cant have them the rest of this week. i said i could have them for the rest of the week but only until 3.15 at the latest today. as my 5 yr old had an appointment with the hospital at 4.10 and i need to get me and the 3 kid to the hospital. all fine she says, she will be here before 3.15.
3.15 comes and goes, as does 3.20. at 3.25 i get a text off of her, she cant leave work as she has had to fit in another meeting.
WTF???????????????
i call and according to her receptionist she is unavailable to take calls.
her mobile is off and i dont have her busbands number.
so i have to take my 3 plus her 3 to a bloody hospital appointment.
her 3 behaved terribly and the poor consultant was a little bit more than shocked looking.
i got home at gone 5.30 to find her on my door step. she then moaned that my phone had been off,( turned off in the hospital, forgot to turn it on with 6 kids to walk home) and she had been at mine since 5.
i was fuming.
she then had the cheek to ask if tomorrow when i look after hers can i make sure they can go to their swimming lesson??? HELL NO.
now i am fuming,( been stewing over this all evening)
would i be totally unreasonable to tell her im not having them the rest of the week?? cause i have a horrible feeling that after today it is just gonna get worse!

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ZacharyQuack · 27/07/2011 07:52

You rock, clueless. Now screen her calls for the rest of the week.

BeerTricksPotter · 27/07/2011 07:52

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

MigratingCoconuts · 27/07/2011 07:53

well done!

I know a mum who has done this with her DD since she was a baby. Its such a nerve and most mums won't have anything to do with her now.

Its the kids
I feel most sorry for.

LoveBeingAtHomeOnMyOwn · 27/07/2011 07:55

You ate the person I want to be Grin

LoveBeingAtHomeOnMyOwn · 27/07/2011 07:55

are

MigratingCoconuts · 27/07/2011 07:57

I prefer your first post love Grin...very random!

HPonEverything · 27/07/2011 07:57

Same here, Clueless should give assertiveness lessons - I'd attend!

Georgimama · 27/07/2011 08:01

As a so called working mum I would never dream of imposing on a friend in this way. If my usual childcare let me down for some reason I would take time off work, or DH would. Simple as that. She knew she was taking the piss, and is clearly not really a friend. Drop her.

Whatmeworry · 27/07/2011 08:07

So, has she appeared on the doorstep yet then - we are all dying to know :)

diddl · 27/07/2011 08:07

Well done!

But I assume it´s not just today that you have refused but the rest of the week also?

HPonEverything · 27/07/2011 08:09

Yes indeed Georgi, there is no way the OP should feel bad or like she's been thoughtless or 'let the kids down'. The "so-called working mum" has other options that don't rely on taking the piss out of her so-called mates and mean she has to [shock horror] take responsibility for her own kids.

HPonEverything · 27/07/2011 08:10

I have an image of the OP opening the door to check her post in a couple of hours time and finding 3 stray children sitting on the step playing on their Nintendos...

ZillionChocolate · 27/07/2011 08:15

What time did she drop them off yesterday? Are you in the clear yet OP?

ensure · 27/07/2011 08:16

Well done standing up for yourself!

CheerfulYank · 27/07/2011 08:18

Good for you, OP!

Btw I love the phrase "taking the piss." We just don't have its equivalent in American English.

ClaimedByMe · 27/07/2011 08:19

I would go out now or hide so she doesnt come round and try and dump and run!

squeezemebakingpowder · 27/07/2011 08:19

Wow, the cheek of the woman completely astounds me!
I echo all the pp's posts by saying you are so very brave standing up to her and would attend your assertiveness classes should you ever do them! :)

sunnydelight · 27/07/2011 08:28

Oh well done you! I want to scream at people here sometimes who are just too nice for their own good and let people take the piss, I do love when people are assertive Grin

Avantia · 27/07/2011 08:29

Just read this thread - well done OP !

Do you think that is the end of it however ? Wink

like the image of 3 abandoned children on doorstep playing on with Ninetendo .

thefirstMrsDeVere · 27/07/2011 08:36

Well done.

What a cheeky mare. Waiting till the very last minute to call you. She has clearly done this sort of thing before.

You dont want to pop over and sort out my neighbours and the 'gym' they are building in my back garden do you?

PrincessJenga · 27/07/2011 08:36

Yeah! Go clueless! You're now high on my list (with KungFuPannda) of
'people who don't take shit'. And LoveBeing, you get the 'best ever typo' award Grin

itisnearlysummer · 27/07/2011 08:37

Wow have only just found this thread.

The next time I feel pressurised into doing something I don't want to or someone tries to guilt me, I am going to remember Clueless.

What a star!

MrsCampbellBlack · 27/07/2011 08:39

As a so-called SAHM I am in awe of you. I think I must give off distinctly unfriendly vibes as no one would ask me to look after their children for that long and I'd have wanted a lot more than a bottle of wine!

Right now much catch up on MrsD-V's gym thread.

Collision · 27/07/2011 08:42

more info needed now!

What did she say? Was she cross?

I luuuuuuurve this thread!

Go Clueless!

clueless1 · 27/07/2011 08:42

just checked. there are no stray kiddos on the door step!!

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