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Original poster

for being so pissed off??

176 replies

clueless1 · 26/07/2011 20:57

had a 'mates' kids today, 3 of them age 4,6 and 9. she had to work and her childminder called to say she was ill.and cant have them the rest of this week. i said i could have them for the rest of the week but only until 3.15 at the latest today. as my 5 yr old had an appointment with the hospital at 4.10 and i need to get me and the 3 kid to the hospital. all fine she says, she will be here before 3.15.
3.15 comes and goes, as does 3.20. at 3.25 i get a text off of her, she cant leave work as she has had to fit in another meeting.
WTF???????????????
i call and according to her receptionist she is unavailable to take calls.
her mobile is off and i dont have her busbands number.
so i have to take my 3 plus her 3 to a bloody hospital appointment.
her 3 behaved terribly and the poor consultant was a little bit more than shocked looking.
i got home at gone 5.30 to find her on my door step. she then moaned that my phone had been off,( turned off in the hospital, forgot to turn it on with 6 kids to walk home) and she had been at mine since 5.
i was fuming.
she then had the cheek to ask if tomorrow when i look after hers can i make sure they can go to their swimming lesson??? HELL NO.
now i am fuming,( been stewing over this all evening)
would i be totally unreasonable to tell her im not having them the rest of the week?? cause i have a horrible feeling that after today it is just gonna get worse!

OP posts:
NorfolkBroad · 26/07/2011 22:10

happygomummy! I love it! Isn't it weird and incredible what some people think of as reasonable behaviour. Poor Clueless, what a day! Personally i would go to the trouble of getting up very early and getting the kids out of the house to avoid her in the morning. Either that or call her.

Marlinspike · 26/07/2011 22:15

Echoing what everyone else has said - very well done for telling her to bog off. You are braver than I would be; I would be the one grudgingly having her DCs for the rest of the week whilst inwardly fuming. You go girl!

Being out tomorrow morning just in case would be a good idea - I would hate you to have a doorstep showdown.

Keep us posted!

HPonEverything · 26/07/2011 22:15

OMG that's outrageous! So glad you let her know as well, even if you did have to do it by text

Whenever I read a thread like this I feel depressed that women who act like this manage to have such good and loyal friends like you, whilst I hardly have any friends and those that I do have would never help me out like you have.

Collaborate · 26/07/2011 22:19

Stand firm if she turns up tomorrow. Can't believe she had such little regard for you when you were helping her out. Do report back.

LoopyLoopsTootyFroots · 26/07/2011 22:21

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androbbob · 26/07/2011 22:27

Blimey - she took the mick there. I agree that she had no intention of being at yours at 3.15 to collect them and she will probably be at yours in the morning.

I would have to go out early or close all the curtains and take the battery out of the bell and pretend to be asleep while she tries to leave kids with you.

Could be interesting tomorrow.

CustardCake · 26/07/2011 22:41

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Teachermumof3 · 26/07/2011 22:55

What a crap 'mate' she is being! Please update us...

hairfullofsnakes · 26/07/2011 23:00

I don't get why you just didn't tell her - have a go at her - about the fact she did not pick her kids up on time?! Why not? Why aren't people just honest about these things?!!!!!

So frustrating

By the way she is a twat for doing that to you

hairfullofsnakes · 26/07/2011 23:02

Oh and text/call and tell her why you are so pissed off - it's not too late to do so

magicmummy1 · 26/07/2011 23:03

As everyone else has said, she is taking the piss. Don't help again!

NellieForbush · 26/07/2011 23:07

She is no friend.

OrdinaryJo · 26/07/2011 23:08

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essexmumma · 26/07/2011 23:17

I would be the same as avoid confrontation at all costs but this makes me mad at myself tbh. I definitely think YADNBU.

I am a working mum and would never ever do this. I race home on time to get my DD. Let us know how it goes.

TinyPawz · 26/07/2011 23:22

OP come out come out where ever you are!!!!

AnnieLobeseder · 26/07/2011 23:30

OMG!! If my childcare fell through and I had to ask a friend to look after my DDs, I would make sure I collected them, to the second, when I was asked to, and I would feel guilty all day for asking for help in the first place. I would also never ask one friend to take them all week, and I would never expect said friend to ferry them to activities as well!

Your friend is taking the piss in a huge way, I can't believe her gall.

TheGrimSweeper · 26/07/2011 23:32

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ZacharyQuack · 27/07/2011 04:27

It's not too late to call her......

Original poster
clueless1 · 27/07/2011 07:26

Sorry for the late reply. The reason i am up and messaging now is that she just woke me! She called to say she only just got my messages. And she couldn't possibly get someone else to help now. I know the texts,(more than 1) that i sent last nightwere delivered, all had delivery reports. And i tried calling for bloody ages and she wouldn't answer! So i told her it wasnt my problem and that if she hadnt been so rude and dismissed my request yesterday then maybe i would have been more helpful.

OP posts:
HPonEverything · 27/07/2011 07:30

You're awesome.
That is all.

DandyGilver · 27/07/2011 07:36

Well done. Your "friend's" sense of entitlement is staggering.

Why on earth does she think she can treat people like that when you are doing her a favour?

Chandon · 27/07/2011 07:40

hope you won't have them again, it is taking the piss in a BIG way.

Please don't, please don't please don't

DuelingFanjo · 27/07/2011 07:47

good for you for saying no. I wouldn't have taken them in the first place!

effingwotnots · 27/07/2011 07:49

Brilliant!!Grin

IDontDoIroning · 27/07/2011 07:51

Well all those posters who said she would turn up today were almost right then.
I think she ignored the texts and calls hoping you would cave this morning.
Well done for refusing to be guilted into having them today, maybe she will take people for granted less often. The friendship might be over though but that's probably no loss.