To wonder what constitutes being posh?

[BumWiper]

Because having an au pair seems to be considered posh.I have one out of need,not out of choice.
DC2 has SN and health problems which could very well mean a midnight ambulance trip (already once this week and its only Tuesday),so by having an AP it means precious time is not wasted in getting a babysitter,as DH travels a lot.Also there are many appointments,so it means I can go and not have the other children distracting me or annoying anyone.

But no,to others I have an AP because I'm posh.

More of a rant than AIBU.

Yes Siamo, that is a better phonetic spelling (never had to write it before tbh!)

No I don't think it makes you posh. I was paying over a grand a month (all my salary) in nursery fees for my two - I'm not posh and we are certainly not wealthy. I just wanted to keep my foot in the door at work. It would have been much cheaper for me to get an au pair, but I couldn't bear the thought of having someone else living with us.

BumWiper

I started reading this thread untill I got to your post
"But having money and being posh are seperate things.Posh implies being a bit snobby and that is one thing I certainly am not."

You answered your own question within a few posts. I think you just like to show off

Nice one Dawnybabe :-)

People tend to confuse money with class. Obviously some very posh people have a lot of money, but then a lot of people that have lots of money are just grafters who are proud of their working class roots. Doesn't make them posh (however hard they try!).

I have no money and am also not posh.

I know my place.