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AIBU?

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I just don't want their dog here

450 replies

WinkyWinkola · 17/07/2011 11:18

Pil are coming to visit this weekend. They stay in a hotel as our house is too small to accommodate them.

Mil has this ancient dog that is blind and well, imo, ready to be put down. She wants to bring it with them. It will have to stay with us whilst they are in the hotel.

I don't want the dog here, especially not a disabled one that will probably poo and wee every where. We don't have a garden as it's currently a building site.

If I wanted a dog, I'd get one. I don't so I won't. I've got 3 dcs and that's really enough for me. Plus all the cooking and hospitality for pil this weekend - which of course I don't mind but I think bringing the dog is an imposition.

Aibu?

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EndoplasmicReticulum · 17/07/2011 15:58

Claw - people who really love dogs sometimes find it hard to believe that the rest of us might not be so keen.

DooinMeCleanin · 17/07/2011 16:00

No, I wouldn't. I don't leave my dogs with anyone. People are not even allowed to walk them for me without me having panic attacks. I lost a dog to a RTA when I left her in the care of soneone I thought would be able to cope with her.

My dogs stay in a pet hotel in the middle of nowhere, far, far from any traffic when I go away. I would not go away if I had an elderly dog. Unless it was to visit my parents, who would be more than happy to care for my dogs, no matter what stage of life they were in.

I'd also be more than happy to care for my parets pets in my home no matter what stage of life they were in. DH would have no choice in the matter, if it meant I would not get to see my parents.

LineRunner · 17/07/2011 16:03

Claw3, I love dogs (obviously) but I would never attack the OP like some people have done because I was thinking about the problem from the dog's perspective.

So I'm puzzled too.

I also think that ownership of a dog is a massive responsibility and there are times when you just can't leave them.

Shell85 · 17/07/2011 16:03

I can see both sides as well.

It would be compleatly different if they were also staying with you, but they are not, so they shouldn't just expect that it is okay.

If it were me I would just politely suggest that they find a pet friendly hotel, you could even do a search yourself then suggest some appropriate hotels.
I would just say that I have no experience with dogs and I wouldn't feel comfortable with the responsibility of caring of an elderly sick dog.

Claw3 · 17/07/2011 16:05

Endoplasmic, i love dogs, i have one of my own, but i wouldnt expect anyone else to accomodate him, especially if he was old, feeble and incontinent.

I wouldnt want to look after the PIL's dog either.

Claw3 · 17/07/2011 16:06

Ditto Linerunner.

Claw3 · 17/07/2011 16:24

LOL@ the suggestions of OP staying in the hotel, to accomodate the dog at her house. Seriously are you people for real!!

OriginalPoster · 17/07/2011 16:28

Yes, if this situation arose in my life, I'd love the excuse to have a night away with free babysitting Grin

it's a win-win solution...

OriginalPoster · 17/07/2011 16:29

In fact I'd have thought of it even if the dog didn't exist Grin

MsPlaced · 17/07/2011 16:30

Dog-people are utterly bonkers. Any sane person knows that you don't bring a dog to someones house who doesn't want it there and expect them to care for it while you are in a hotel. And you certainly don't bring a elderly blind incontinent dog to someones house and expect them to mind it. Can't believe that needs sating, tbh.

Dog-lovers on here often seem to like to equate dogs with children (as in "you wouldn't rehome your kid, why a dog" sort of stuff), so think of it that way. You're going to visit friends or relatives for a weekend, you book a hotel for you and DH and then hand over your toddler to them, saying, "oh you don't mind do you, just change nappies and feed it and give it a walk, no trouble". Would you?

OriginalPoster · 17/07/2011 16:34

I have left dcs with pils while we go to a hotel, they are all happy spending time with each other. My mum and dps mum have no problem with nappies or feeding dcs.

Claw3 · 17/07/2011 16:37

I like your thinking Originalposter, perhaps the OP and her DH could leave their 3 children behind too for the PIL's to look after, as Msplaced said "oh you dont mind do you, just change nappies, feed and walk, no trouble is it" Grin

MsPlaced · 17/07/2011 16:37

yes, but would you do it with someone you know didn't like children and didn't want them there, that being the point rather obviously.

Cedise · 17/07/2011 16:46

Good grief, I'm Shock at everyone who thinks the OP should suck it up and take the dog.

She doesn't own a dog. She doesn't want a dog. Regardless of the age, health or condition of the dog, she is perfectly in her rights to NOT want a dog in her house. I'm allergic to dogs, but that's beside the point - if someone, yes even my MIL, wanted to come and visit and bring their dog, I'd tell them to make other arrangements.

The MIL is being completely out of order to assume the OP will take the dog for the weekend.

VanillaRooibos · 17/07/2011 16:49

It's only for a weekend

EndoplasmicReticulum · 17/07/2011 16:51

Vanilla - are you volunteering to look after it?

Claw3 · 17/07/2011 16:51

I think we have to accept

  1. Not everyone loves dogs.
  1. Not everyone wants a dog, pissing and shitting on their carpets, where 3 dc's might want to sit on and play at some stage.
  1. Not everyone wants to have to carry around a dog who is blind, especially if you have 3 dc's to care for.
DogsBestFriend · 17/07/2011 16:52

I think I've just worked out what Alouise called lachesis and which was deleted by MN.

If I'm right, did it perchance begin with c?

Because if I am right, then so was Alouise.

LineRunner · 17/07/2011 16:54

A weekend plus the journeys is a long haul for an elderly, sick dog. It really should be kept at home with its own 'people'.

NoobyNoob · 17/07/2011 16:55

OP - I don't think YABU.

At all, actually.

ScarlettIsWalking · 17/07/2011 16:56

" I have scraped better off my shoe"

Grin because she doesn't want an incontinent dirty dog staying in her house? Good lord!

OriginalPoster · 17/07/2011 16:57

Claw3

Exactly, they could look after dog and dcs, I really don't see the problem.

DogsBestFriend · 17/07/2011 16:58

Endoplas..., at least 2 people on here have said that they'll look after the dog for the 3 days.

Alouise was one, I'm another. No big deal.

Kladdkaka · 17/07/2011 17:01

DogsBestFriend, I would too but I'm in Scandinavia so that's not much help.

Claw3 · 17/07/2011 17:01

OP, i think the problem could be:-

"2. Not everyone wants a dog, pissing and shitting on their carpets, where 3 dc's might want to sit on and play at some stage."