AIBU to think urinating in the bedroom after a night out drinking is far from normal

[marl]

OK, hoping here to get some wise advice from any of you that know about this, personally, medically or alcohol related. After a week of having hardly any sleep due to DS2 and 3, I was woken at 2.30am by DP throwing things around the bedroom and then crouching at the end of the bed weeing. I ended up turning all lights on, screaming at him and speaking to him like a child (but much more rudely) and eventually making him get to the toilet. He was so drunk after a night out with a friend that he really didn't seem to react appropriately to any of this and I ended up stomping around clearing up the carpet, as I didn't think he'd be capable.

I am so fuming and disgusted about this I can hardly speak to him. Added to which while he had no memory of it this morning and has apologised, he doesn't seem to be very disgusted and he says men who are pissed often do things like this eg in the wardrobe. I have never known him do this, and certainly no other men in my past.

He is someone who does seem to suddenly tip over the edge when he drinks alcohol and get very silly and beligerent - almost like an allergy. When I first met him some years ago I did wonder if he might be/become an alcoholic - I thought he seemed to have a strange reaction to it. But nothing has ever materialised on that front and on a normal week he just drinks reasonably 'normally', though when he has a big night out he still seems to have the same reaction. Amusing to some but certainly not last night. Thinking of decamping to my mums tonight in protest and also to get an unbroken night after being woken up by him and both DCs last night...

Thanks all. I selected several choice phrases from the above and used them in a long discussion today. It did help me stick to my guns with some initial reticence from him to fully join in the conversation and we are now at the point where he does recognise quite how unacceptable this is and I am about to turn in for a child-free sleep at my mums!

Using that many capital letters can't be good for your blood pressure.

More healthy than PISSING on the carpet - nAtter!

I'm with animation. My dog doesn't piss on the carpet and he eats poo.

Oh ANIMATION, have a drink & remove the stick

My family and friends are quite big drinkers so this kind of thing is quite 'normal', as in it has happened to most people i know once or twice in their lives.
Fortunately never to me, but i have had to wee between cars in the street on the way home after a skinful and once, when i had sewn myself into my satin (yes that was 15 years ago!) trousers for a night out, i couldn't get them off in time and just had to stand in the shower and wee through them before locating scissors to cut them off!
Everyone i know has at least one 'hilarious' pissing themselves story. I would say if it happens more often than once or twice it would need to be addressed.

Buns - what stick's that then?

Hang I need a piss.

Ah too late....

It's all over the fucking carpet - bloody hell!!

I've come across this a number of times - mostly among male friends in their late teens or early twenties. As far as I'm aware it was pretty unusual (happened only once or twice to each individual) and was the stuff of much piss taking and legendary story telling.

I do think that a man with a family should be able to control his drinking enough to be able to make an informed decision about where to wee. Imagine if next time he confused the bathroom with the DCs bedroom and pissed over their beds? Yuck.

DP peed on the front door once (inside the house, not outside on the doorstep), many years ago.
I still haven't let him live it down.

My stepfather pissed over the dog in her bed once. Mind you, he did have a drink problem.

It really is amazing what people will excuse as normal when it comes problem drinking.

The number of people who say he barely drinks anything, when several times a week he has multiple beers or a bottle of red.

That's heavy drinking. That combined with pissing on your bedroom floor and thinking it's pretty much fine that your wife had to clear up after you as though you were a dog, is a sure sign of a drinking problem.

I've only come across this twice and found it hilarious in the first instance and revolting in the second.

The first instance was a lad I was at uni with who would often drink until he'd pass out, and then while still lying on the floor/bed/sofa/pavement would fumble his willy out of his trousers and whizz everywhere like a fountain. Funnily enough he was never very popular with the ladies but it did amuse me - probably because I was a stupid drunk teenager too and he was nothing to do with me, and I never had to mop up after him.

The second instance was my XP. He came home, threw up and collapsed on the hall floor and then peed himself too. I was really worried (and disgusted) but he was fine the next day and apologised. Then he did it again a few weeks later. And again the next time he went out after that. I stopped being worried and got mad, finally concluding that he had some real alcohol issues and dumped him.

If this really was a one-off, well it is disgusting and I hope he grovelled, but it is not something to worry over as a single incident. If he makes a habit of it though... then you have something to be concerned about.

my oh did it once he pissed in my washing basket full of clean washing. when i found it in the morning he tried to blame it on the cat! i went mad he still argues he didnt do it, but i can certainly say a cat cannot produce that much urine!

No one was excusing it, as far as I can see - just saying it's not uncommon. That is, that many people do something like this once or twice in their lives, not that they make a habit of it.

That is just absolutely disgusting and vile. I've only read the first page and I am VERY shocked that people think this kind of behaviour is normal. spookshowangel's post, is just completely nasty, bordering on child abuse.....I am SHOCKED PEOPLE THINK THAT IT IS OKAY TO DO THIS WHEN DRUNK, ARE THERE NO STANDARDS LEFT TO BE MET IN SOCIETY ANYMORE?

This is the reason why I don't drink, and neither does my DH. We enjoy are life alone and with our family and friends without drinking, because alcohol is not the be all and end all of everything. Infact, nearly every post about abusive behaviour on here has alcohol at it's heart.

Men do love to blame cats for things eh maybells?

My DH once blamed our cat for walking across my freshly mopped kitchen floor with dirty feet... I told him that unless the cat has taken to wearing size 10 shoes and really striding out then it wasn't the bloody cat!

Some wise words that I can deliver.
Anyone who wee's/poo's around the house is definitely addicted to alcohol. They can't stop drinking and become out of control. I know this because I've been there and also have friends the same.
This is how we solved it: Whenever I am going out on a big night out (about once a month now with DP and DS at home,) I arrange to stay elsewhere so my partner and son don't have to cope with the aftermath. This works great. Of course if I don't end up getting too wasted after all I just come home. Hope this helps :)

Ah, I've got a pissy past.

It's not great.

Never been with a man who's done this so no I don't think it's normal disgusting 🤮