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For being furious at DH telling DSD that my degree isn't a real degree?

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TooFarGone · 12/07/2011 12:20

So DH is sat down with his DD taking about careers etc. He says to her "these days, you need a job that pays at least £20k a year but at the same time, you don't want to be stressing yourself out with difficult degrees and stuff. You want to enjoy your time at uni. That's why I think nursing would be ideal for you! you get to go to uni, you don't have to do a difficult degree and you get a well paid job at the end of it!".

So DSD says "But isn't a degree in nursing going to be just as difficult?" and he replied "no course not, they call it a degree but its not like a real degree".

I'm furious as I worked bloody hard to get my degree and he knows this. It isn't an "easy option" at all. I had it out with him and he apologised for upsetting me but still maintains that nursing is an easy alternative to doing a "real" degree.

OP posts:
Wamster · 17/07/2011 10:44

I don't mean 'just' in a derogatory way.

wideawakenurse · 17/07/2011 10:54

Has it not occurred to you though that even the most senior nurses are happy to be called just a nurse?

I have reached a senior post in the profession. However, I always tell people I am a nurse. Because, despite what you say I am very proud of it.

Hermionesjumper · 17/07/2011 10:58

The job you once loved Wamster has changed - I have explained that the Nursing degree course isnt to make students than current nurses but to bring them up to the standards required currently.

Think about it - If you had continued to practice would you have stayed at the same level or would you have studied to study /do courses .
There is no such thing as .

Sad if you loved it so much that you ended up leaving.

Hermionesjumper · 17/07/2011 11:02

Sorry

Hermionesjumper · 17/07/2011 11:05

me too wideawake
The point I was trying to make is that nurses dont qualify and then go off and nurse forever and never see the inside of a book again - the public think that is it and have no idea how much study nurses undertake after qualifying.

Hermionesjumper · 17/07/2011 12:19

Wamster Am I allowed to ask what you are doing now ?
Are you a NQT ? not sure where I got that idea from ...

Chen23 · 17/07/2011 13:59

"I don't mean 'just' in a derogatory way."

Sorry, but it's pretty clear that you do.

ohanotherone · 17/07/2011 14:06

Yes, she is a nurse, because it is perfectly prossible to combine research/further study and practice in a split post, just as I do as an Occupational Therapist. Why can't you understand this????

VivaLeBeaver · 17/07/2011 14:50

Wamster - I'm a midwife rather than a nurse but for all intents and purposes its the same as far as NHS structure (and even public perception) are concerned.

I have 2 degrees, doing a Masters and will probably do a PHd after that.

I consider myself "just" a midwife. I'm a bog standard labour ward midwife, bottom of the rung. I'm not in management, nor do I have a research post. Though I have had articles that I've written published.

I think its important that midwifery/nursing are degree subjects. When I did my training we were taught to evaluate research. All my practice has to be research/evidence based but its important that I can pick out the decent research from the crap and base my practice accordingly. Its important that I'm aware of current research, guidelines, different ideas so when a Dr makes a shit decision I can politely point out that why don't we do xyz instead. Drs aren't God and the majority of them are aware of this and are happy to work as a multi disciplinary team where everyone works together.

If there wasn't the academic part of the training then I don't think that Drs would have the same respect for midwifery staff that they normally do have. I don't know if I'd have the confidence either to argue my case.

SauvignonBlanche · 17/07/2011 17:26

"Just a nurse" - how patronising! Angry
I may be practising at a senior level, be doing my masters but I am proud to be (just) a nurse.

cory · 17/07/2011 20:18

Can anyone explain to me how acquiring a degree would make a person incapable of passing a glass of water?

twinklingfairy · 17/07/2011 20:30

Jezo!
I came in here assuming the DH in question meant an arts degree ( I have one of those and get a lot of, what a cop outs) But to call nursing not real!!
Shocked, doesn't cover it!!

MissKittyEliza · 18/07/2011 10:34

Viva.....love your name. So apt in your profession Grin

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