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aibu to think that mate selling wedding dress so shortly after wedding strange?

203 replies

Wamster · 10/07/2011 09:25

My mate married last October in a full-on white wedding. I spoke to her friday and she announced she was now selling dress. It is a beautiful dress - a proper fairytale number. AFAIK, there are no financial difficulties. I worry for my mate as I think this is a bit strange. aibu? Not thread hitting and running, just going out and won't be able to get back to thread for a while.

OP posts:
BabyDubsEverywhere · 10/07/2011 19:27

Im too big for salad trousers Sad I have to wear pudding pants instead Grin

Original poster
Wamster · 10/07/2011 19:34

Mn is a place where people can (among other things like sharing knowledge etc) can be honest about how they feel. Just because I think it is a bit chavvy to sell dress when marriage not in trouble or in financial dire straits does not mean to say that I'm going to hate my mate for it or anything. I'm not going to tell her how I feel and ruin the friendship.

I asked a question: people have responded by saying there may very well not be anything sinister about her selling the dress. End of as far as I am concerned.

OP posts:
AgentZigzag · 10/07/2011 19:37

How are you going to fare bottling up all that anger you feel towards your friend wamster?

Some is bound to leak out at some point.

Why do you feel so strongly about it?

trixymalixy · 10/07/2011 19:41

Classic AIBU.

OP:AIBU

MN: YABU

OP: No I'm not!!

Northernlurker · 10/07/2011 19:46

Wow just worked through the thread.

OP - you're an odd little thing aren't you?

Probably best just to say 'no' the next time you're asked to be a bridesmaid. This session seems to have driven you madder than Mrs Rochester.

happygilmore · 10/07/2011 19:47

I don't understand why you would want to continue the friendship anyway. Your posts make it sound like you detest her.

LRDTheFeministNutcase · 10/07/2011 19:58

'I asked a question: people have responded by saying there may very well not be anything sinister about her selling the dress. End of as far as I am concerned.'

Except, it wasn't. You went on a rant about how chavvy she was instead, right after someone had explained her friend did the same in pretty sad circumstances.

You're not coming across very well, frankly.

AgentZigzag · 10/07/2011 20:02

Now would be a good time for the OP to post a 'clincher reveal' wouldn't it LRD? Wink

Leave it any longer and she risks losing the window of opportunity as posters get bored and drift away.

Got anything you'd like to add wamster

oldqueenie · 10/07/2011 20:04

ok......

are you her mil by any chance? ("friend" being used for disguising purposes)

squeakytoy · 10/07/2011 20:08

This thread is hilarious! Grin

OP, did you hope that your mate would give you the dress maybe?

You dont actually seem very worried about your mate at all, just the dress.

I can just see you bidding away to sabotage the auction Grin

happygilmore · 10/07/2011 20:09

Yeah come on, put us all out of our misery..You're sleeping with her husband aren't you?

CurrySpice · 10/07/2011 20:09

I'm avoiding work bored zig zag what can I say Blush

squeakytoy · 10/07/2011 20:37

I reckon the OP sneaks round to her mates house "to water the plants" and tries this dress on regularly... and is gutted that it will no longer be there to dress up in... Wink

TillyIpswitch · 10/07/2011 21:27

Grin to this thread.

OP - YANBU to wonder about selling the dress so soon afterwards, but you most certainly ABU to jump to the conclusion that the marriage is in trouble.

It's almost like you're projecting, since you don't like the bride very much. I'm sure you're not, but the way you've been on this thread does make it seem like that!

There must be more to this than meets the eye.

TheSmallClanger · 10/07/2011 21:29

I think the OP has hidden something valuable/sensitive/illegal inside this dress somehow, and now fears being revealed/arrested.

GwendolineMaryLacey · 10/07/2011 21:31

Damn, and I'm not allowed to say that anyone sounds unhinged :(

GwendolineMaryLacey · 10/07/2011 21:32

Maybe the OP is the dress? Now then I could understand her being pissed off :o

BabyDubsEverywhere · 10/07/2011 21:43

Oh, i get it now, this is like when someone posts about being a teenage unreasonable sod to their mom, and it turns out to be the mom....the OP is the dress!! How would the dress feel about being sold? I get it, well done Gwen, great detective work! Grin

DirtyMartini · 10/07/2011 21:43

Are you not, Gwen? Don't worry. Someone else said it for you downthread Grin

GwendolineMaryLacey · 10/07/2011 21:58

Goodo, would hate to think an opportunity had been missed :o

So has the dress OP come back yet?

bumpsoon · 10/07/2011 22:15

I took mine to the charity shop the day after i got back from my honeymoon , couldnt satnd it and what it represented so wanted it out of the house as soon as possible

sunshinelifeisgood · 10/07/2011 22:36

OP, I think you are hiding resentment rather than concern for your friend. I personally would not even have a discussion with her regarding her wedding dress because she will definitley see you in a different light..

Catslikehats · 11/07/2011 07:41

bumpsoon ?? Take it the honeymoon didn't go well then Shock

AgentZigzag · 11/07/2011 11:47

Oh dear bumpsoon, what happened for you to feel like that about it?

Welshexpat · 11/07/2011 11:52

Not good planning in this day and age to sell the dress. An American friend of mine kept hers and with a few cosmetic alterations used it in her second and third weddings. Neither of the two later husbands knew it was sustainably recycled.