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to not get why some women feel 'cheated' on when they find porn

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M0naLisa · 01/07/2011 11:28

Now I know most porn threads turn into a debate and article about why porn is wrong on many levels. I understand that part!!

BUT what I don't understand is why some women feel like there husband has cheated on them when they find porn mags, websites, etc

He's not shagging those in the films/mags whatever, so why do women get obsessed when it comes to their bloke watching porn films/sites or buying mags?

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ilovedora27 · 01/07/2011 14:39

I dont think anything is cheating as long as your partner is in to it to. Dont count anything as cheating that involves the mind personally if my husband wants to wank off over a celeb, one of my mates, someone from porn or some random woman on the street then go for it. I know I do it and its not like I have ever cheated on him.

Indigojohn · 01/07/2011 14:40

I must admit I would be rather perturbed if I found DH looking at donkey stuff . Adult women though, nope.

spookshowangel · 01/07/2011 14:40

was that the one i saw with the gold cock and the head smashing in to the ground and all?

glitterkitty · 01/07/2011 14:41

I myself have googled for naked Brad Pitt pictures (it was years ago) and I was bitterly dissapointed.

Now I am old and cynical -but I still dont care what DP thinks about when he is knocking one out.

spookshowangel · 01/07/2011 14:41

yeah donkey would be weird.

glitterkitty · 01/07/2011 14:41

gold cock smashing someones head in?!?! Shock

HowlingBitch · 01/07/2011 14:41

You have masturbated over one of your husbands friends?

spookshowangel · 01/07/2011 14:43

who?

glitterkitty · 01/07/2011 14:44

Yeah Howling, I have too! I'd DIE if he ever tried it on though. In my head I look perfect too, and sometimes it takes place in far away exotic places...

its not real

HowlingBitch · 01/07/2011 14:46

I was just asking! No need to be so patronizing. I know it isn't real.

ilovedora27 · 01/07/2011 14:47

We have played fantasy games using his friends and my friends and all types of random people. We think its fun and I have never met any woman that has made me feel threatened and I know there is no woman that could replace me tbh. Its not for everyone but its just admiring beauty and a little fantasy/role play. Depends on what you like to do dirty mind , how confident you are in yourself and your marriage.

glitterkitty · 01/07/2011 14:47

I like your name, btw Smile Starling?

Cocoflower · 01/07/2011 14:47

Back to the discussion.

Can I ask if your DH/DP's used one of this interactive websites/ tv shows where you use webcams with live women is this acceptable or crossed a line?

glitterkitty · 01/07/2011 14:49

I want to hear about the gold willy head smashing. Is it realistic series, I mean, or do the men wear mascara etc? Like that Henry VIII series with Jonothan whats his name?

TobyLerone · 01/07/2011 14:50

I'd think he was a massive loser if he needed to do a Leslie Grantham with some random woman from the internet. But it's still not cheating, IMO.

He's pretty enough that he's fighting women off every time he leaves the house, anyway, so I can't imagine he'd need to Grin

spookshowangel · 01/07/2011 14:52

i have masturbated thinking of my then h best friends.

ilovedora27 · 01/07/2011 14:52

I dont think thats cheating as long as the partner knows about it. Things are only cheating if your partner would have a problem with it imo

Cocoflower · 01/07/2011 14:53

But he is not a tosser if looking at porn? But is a tosser if a webcam

If so why?

( disclaimer: not having a go am really intrested to see how other people think about these things)

spookshowangel · 01/07/2011 14:53

he was wearing a mask and his cock was gold. the series not my exh best friend. its a series about the Spartans i am not sure how realistic you want it to be.

HowlingBitch · 01/07/2011 14:54

That's perfectly harmless. I was honestly just curious :o. I really admire peoples security in their relationships. I have complete confidence in my own. I just never entered my mind to do that so fair play to you! (No judgement honestly. I was really just asking)

Cocoflower · 01/07/2011 14:55

dora but if a partner didnt like the porn/webcams etc would it then be cheating?

ilovedora27 · 01/07/2011 14:55

I have no problem with my husband doing webcam tbh. We have done it together and him/me on my own with the other watching in the background. Again depends on what turns you on.

TobyLerone · 01/07/2011 14:55

Because if it was actually the interaction he wanted, rather than knocking one out quickly while looking at porn, he can either have sex with me or go and find someone else with whom to have sex.

I said 'loser', not 'tosser'. It's seedy and pathetic, wanking in front of a woman who will be laughing her arse off on the inside.

HowlingBitch · 01/07/2011 14:56

Shock Yes. Starling I have no idea why though. She always annoyed me :o.

ilovedora27 · 01/07/2011 14:56

I would never marry a man that had a problem with porn, sex toys or anything like that. I have a friend who is banned from rabbits as her boyf is threatened by the size Hmm I think its sad tbh and would want someone with a bit more confidence in themselves tbh.