the problem with vile views like debi's is - where do you draw the line with that?
I had hyperemesis when pg with dd1. I could not even keep down water, right up until 7 months pg. undoubtedly at times, she was a bit flooded with my stress hormones, like when i was repeatedly hospitalised due to dehydration, or just the simple worrying I did re: not being able ot eat. stress in pg has been linked to ASD, so clearly dd1's ASD is my fault.
when I could eat again, all I ate was: plain pasta with cheese grated on top, or, to push the boat out, I out some tuna into it too. ate my "allowance" of tuna regularly every week.
dd1 has a heavy mercury load, and is unable to cope with gluten and dairy products - they make her autism worse. so again, clearly my fault.
thanks for that debi, just what I needed - will never mention how difficult my life is again, since I so clearly brought it on myself 