To whomever asked: What do women want?
The original Four Demands of feminism were:
(1) Equal pay for equal work
(2) Equal education and equal opportunities
(3) Free contraception and abortion on demand
(4) Free 24 hour nurseries
The first and the second have been achieved in law, but not so well in practice - the above dispute about women soldiers is an illustration, as is the need for a quota system to get equal representation amongst board executives of FTSE100 companies.
The blocks upon women receiving "equal pay for equal work" and equal opportunities are many and, more often than not, semi-subtle. In my old job, for example, some of the male bosses made no secret of the fact that negotiations were finalised in the gents' loo. They also used a golf club where men played separately from women. (I left in 2003; don't know how much of that's changed in ye olde business world, if any.) In that particular industry, too, deals were made at lapdancing clubs. I went to some, but not daily or twice daily like some of my male colleagues.
The third demand is fragile and under increasing attack. When women lose control of their own reproductive capacity, women are extremely vulnerable to manipulation and oppression.
The fourth has only happened fleetingly and partially. When women cannot be sure of adequate childcare, they are not free to make their life choices on a rational basis.
Of course there are alternatives to nursery care - I favour genuinely equal pat/maternity benefits, plus a radical restructure of working practices to make them more flexible and 'lifestyle-friendly'. But nursery provision would be a good start.
On top of the original four demands, we have the need for enforcement agencies to carry out their duties of protection towards all vulnerable people, including women, This protection is currently insufficient. We need big cultural changes, so that women's freedoms honestly equal men's. In short, a fifth demand might be about respect and freedom - though it could be phrased a lot better than that!