Husband of a friend telling off my child

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I was invited out this morning with some neighbours who are good friends. The husband is known to be snappy and to have little patience with his own children.
In the space of an hour, he told my 4 year old daughter to 'stop whining' and in a cafe, he snapped at her to 'OI, STOP THAT' when she kicked him under the table ( she was doing it playfully). My daughter burst into tears and came and sat on my lap. When his wife, who is a good friend, commented to him to calm down, he agressively responded 'Its not my problem if she's crying cos I told her off for not kicking me. She can deal with it'.

She is 4.

I said nothing as I didn't want to upset his wife, who I know was mortified.

I really want to email him tomorrow to tell him how inappropriate and uncalled for it was. AIBU? What would you do?

PS. The ironic thing is, he has an obnoxious daughter who is really badly behaved and I say nothing!

.... but it's in my profile :)

preettybird oh yes...:)

I visited there once ...

Enjoyed my trip very much ...I don't know it at all though...

When I get back to the UK, I hope to do a lot more trips!

I've been to Boston (long weekend), Vail (skiing), Miami (JC World Congress - met dh there), Texas and Wilmington (the last two on business so didn't see much)

"i think he had a right to tell her off for kicking. or you should have done it."

Yes, thanks, Skybluepearl. Back down to business. Anyone on our team want to take this one?

I'm just about to serve the evening meal here.

I have only been to California,and I live in Indiana.

You are doing better than me

Oh,forgot ,I did renew a passport in Chicago ...and I have been to Wisconsin too.

Animation ...I would ...but even I am tired of my purple posts on here...

(my colour choice)

Ooh I lived in Indianapolis for 2 years!

Did you? Boys are going (museum) in the next 2 weeks!

We live about 3 hrs from there ...we live in the sticks

But at least you know where the UK (and its constituent parts) is/are. I've met many Americans who don't know that much ("Is Scotland close to England?" "Do you have Universities in Scotland" )

Nearly fell of a chair lift in Vail when the American sitting beside me turned and asked "So what do you think of Margaret Thatcher's attitude to Europe?" (this was back in 1990)

We are heading for Dorset next year though, I am so excited to be coming home and to such a lovely place.

... didn't realise you weren't actually American (having insulted a whole host of Americans but not the sort that frequent Mumsnet )

prettybird I have no excuse ~ I am originally from London!

I get some funny questions too

My DH is American though, that is how I ened up here.

prettybird

Its not that lovely Joy! I loathe living here after being away for 4 years. But then that's London. There are some nice parts that still exist! :)

Ivor, you are in North London right?

My family came over to the South side from North London in'71 (when I was born)

They eventually recovered

Where did you live for those 4 years ...sorry, bit nosey...

I guess I will get used to it some day :( Blooming husband!

My parents took us off to France where we lived for 3 years when I was a teenager, then when I finished uni, I went off to teach English in Korea, Spain and Greece. I had always looked forward to coming home and being able to understand what everyone was saying but alas, I met my husband who wanted to work in London so............that was the end of that!!
Also stayed in west Africa for a few months.

Really North London isn't so bad, could be worse!! :) People have been more friendly than I first thought.
I really miss the outdoors life though,having proper summers etc
I also miss the villiage and family life you get abroad because I don't think that is appreciated in the UK.

Do you miss anything about here?

But then I guess I moaned about other stuff when I was living elsewhere!!
The grass is always greener! :)

Well, being a Londoner (albiet Wimbledon) I miss the suburbs (I am a little strange)

I don't miss 'proper' London at all ...I spent years stomping around the streets in central London,I wouldn't do that again

You have travelled a lot :) I did too (with my work)

I totally understand that you miss village life/family ...that is why we are coming home -for those exact same reasons :)

I am excited to be living in Dorset when we get back!

I hope to give a sample of that life to my children.

It is quite heartening to know that after 700 posts on something the 4yr old will have forgotten, people have got bored and moved on!

lol Exotic, yep! We are all friends now!

We are going on holiday to Charmouth! :)
My parents live in Somerset now. The South West does have lovely parts.
Do you miss travelling?
I still miss the thrill I think of going into the unknown, but I have become all 'responsible' now.
I thought I would find it very hard to settle somewhere but once you have kids I think that grounds you doesnt it.
I would love to do more though when I am 'old' and all the kids are grown up.

I was out all day-missed it all.

I havent been back long myself. I'm just a tagalong. :)

ivor no,I don't miss traveling one bit :)

I always hated it,but unfortunately it was a massive part of my job!

You are right,I believe it is the kids that make us stay put...for a bit

Actually the part of Dorset we are moving to,boarders Somerset and Wiltshire.

I am glad I tried the US, we would have always wondered what it might be like , if we had not.

Hope you have a lovely holiday :)

What do you do Joy (sorry if it's nosy!) You don't have to say!

No, :) I don't mind at all...

I was a fashion model/ TV commercial actress for 20 years (since a child)

When my youngest son was born I gave it up, as it was impossible to do the school thing (for me ,at that point) for my eldest.

In 2005 we came to the US and we had our little girl in' 08.

This year I will be 40,so a bit old to take up posing again

I will need to find a new job at some point ...:)