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To think a fathers day card to my dear husband is creepy?

81 replies

lesley33 · 19/06/2011 11:54

I was looking at acrds and came across one that said Happy Fathers Day to my Dear Husband. AIBU in thinking this is inappropriate and not understanding who would want to send this type of card anyway?

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GwendolineMaryLacey · 19/06/2011 11:56

Not creepy, just the sort of card you would send on behalf of a young baby I think. You're reading too much into it.

PredictableDullard · 19/06/2011 11:58

yes it is creepy. most fathers day card are though. did it have a picture of a racing car on front?

DilysPrice · 19/06/2011 11:58

I think a lot of women would like to mark their DH's "first" Father's Day. Some of them will write a card as if from the baby, but some will think that's a bit twee - this card is aimed at the latter group.

twinklypearls · 19/06/2011 12:00

I don't buy a card for my dp on father's day. However I do someting nice for him to thank him for being such a fantastic father to our daughter. I am sure other women feel the same.

sims2fan · 19/06/2011 12:02

It's just a money making ploy by the card shops. I have also seen father's day cards from the dog. The more cards there are, for/from different groups of people then the more money can be made.

RitaMorgan · 19/06/2011 12:02

I got DP a Father's Day card from the baby.

Original poster
lesley33 · 19/06/2011 12:04

Yes from the baby is fine.

OP posts:
mouseanon · 19/06/2011 12:05

Creepy?! Confused

No, not creepy. Cynical money making ploy yes. Creepy no.

pinkhebe · 19/06/2011 12:05

and fathers day cards from The Cat. These aren't as popular as the ones from The Dog. Obviously cats aren't into sucking up to their owners.

KenDoddsDadsDog · 19/06/2011 12:20

My friend's wife bought him one from their dog. What is that all about ?

AuntiePickleBottom · 19/06/2011 12:22

it's weird, you Husband is not your father or even a father figure

RitaMorgan · 19/06/2011 12:26

Your husband isn't your father, but aren't these cards more about you letting your husband know you appreciate what a good dad he is to your kids?

twinklypearls · 19/06/2011 12:27

I agree rita.

TrillIanAstra · 19/06/2011 12:34

I'd assume you'd send it from a child who was not old enough to do a card themselves.

Or perhaps an unborn child

I don't think it's in a "who's your daddy?" kind of way.

Clytaemnestra · 19/06/2011 12:41

I don't see what's wrong with it. I wished my DH a "Happy Father's Day" this morning a card would have been an extension of that sentiment.

I did get him a card directly from DD which she chose (I think because it looks like Mr.Tumble's spotty bag!) and while I wouldn't have got him a second card from myself as I'm tight, I don't see an issue with it if that's what you want to do.

beanlet · 19/06/2011 12:43

I sent DH presents with gift cards from our DS, who, given he's 11 mths obviously didn't write them himself. I love that he's the father of my son. What,s creepy about that?

FWIW he welled up a little bit and was so touched.

Only someone who's a bit of a nob would think it's creepy.

ineedabodytransplant · 19/06/2011 12:45

I have two daughters and got three cardsShock

Thankfully the third card was from my grandson, not an unknown child somewhere(be a flaming miracle it there was though)

it said 'from your grandson, grandad. Happy Fathers Day'

ChairOfTheBored · 19/06/2011 12:45

I dunno, I'm with the OP, and saw that and shuddered a bit. I do get the point about it being a thank you to your DH for being a good father, but still I think the undertones of marrying your father overrule that to make it too icky for me.

Might be best to ignore me...

ineedabodytransplant · 19/06/2011 12:45

if not it...

MsGee · 19/06/2011 12:48

I got one for DH (and he already had one from DD who is 3).

I wanted to recognise that he is a great father to our daughter and that it means a lot to me. I also wanted to thank him for doing most of the parenting in the past month as I have been greiving for the loss of our baby / pregnancy. And to thank him for being our rock during this time and gently ensuring I stay connected to DD and not judging when I couldn't.

nobiggy · 19/06/2011 12:48

I have heard of parents sending father's day cards to their grown sons as they are "potentially fathers in the future".

Issues upon issues....

strandedbear · 19/06/2011 12:48

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leftblank · 19/06/2011 12:50

It's saying Happy Fathers Day to a Father, not your Father

I wouldn't though as where does it end?!

Birdsgottafly · 19/06/2011 12:51

If you have a DH that likes to get cards what's the harm in getting one. My DH had no choice but to work away from home and i used to send him such cards. Being apart, i think, made us apprieciate each other more and we saw such occassions as family celebrations, he also gave me extra presents from him on Mothers day.

My DP (i was widowed) has always wanted the breed of dog that we now have and i have just got him a personalised card from her, it has put a smile on his face on what was a difficult day (first FD without his dad).

bubblecoral · 19/06/2011 12:57

If it's not for you and your family, then just don't do it.

If other people want to use them, thats' up to them. There's obviously a market for it, otherwise shops wouldn't sell them.

FWIW, I gave my ex a Fathers day card, and just said thanks for being a fab Dad to our children and for being a fab co parent. He started it off by doing it for me on Mothers Day a few years ago. I was really touched and thought it was a lovely thing for him to do.

We still appreaciate eachothers efforts as parenst even though we are not together anymore. If you think that's creepy, then fine. But I actually quite like feeling that my ex, the father of my children, appreciates what I do for our dc and as I feel the same about him, it's nice to reciprocate.

Where's the harm? Nobody ever got to the end of their lives and thought 'I wish I'd done less to be thoughtful and kind and shown appreciation to the important people in my life'. But I'd guess the opposite has happened.