Just caught up with this and saw the post to me by BimboNo5.
To answer your question, I am lucky enough to have a partner who already is a fantastic father because he cares greatly about his child, whether she has actually been born or not.
He has been to every midwife appointment and scan (leaving work early to be there each time and working weekends to make it up), been working super hard the last six months on a training programme to secure a job with a good contract and scale of pay so he feels secure that he can adequately provide for our child and me for the first year so I can be at home with our child unworried, has been a comfort and reassurance to me when I have freaked out over not feeling the baby move and taken me to hospital, has come with me on many a tedious shopping trip and carries everything home, is learning to cook so I don't have to worry about that when the baby first comes home and to make sure I'm eating well now (he can make amazing American style pancakes now), is learning everything he can about babies so he can help me, has his wallet open everytime I need something for the baby (or myself), Is going to redecorate the whole house with me to make it child friendly, is learning to drive this summer to make it easier after we have our child (we live in central London so wouldn't need to otherwise), even ties my shoelaces because I get too uncomfortable when I bend down.
The list goes on.
My DH may not be a perfect guy, but when it comes to his impending fatherhood, he takes it seriously and has already put in an amazing amount of effort for this baby's sake and our family's future. It may be vomit inducing to you, but I appreciate it because I consider myself bloody luck, he does what some men would never even have an iota of sense enough to consider being selfless enough to do.
If you don't get that someone can be a good father before the baby is in their hands then that's fair enough, but your comment actually made me feel a bit sorry for you.
And to everyone else, sorry for using the term bubs so many times in my original post, just read it back 