To think a fathers day card to my dear husband is creepy?

[lesley33]

I was looking at acrds and came across one that said Happy Fathers Day to my Dear Husband. AIBU in thinking this is inappropriate and not understanding who would want to send this type of card anyway?

Happy fathers day to my dear husband is a bit odd, seen some more oddthings in Clintons (signs that say 'a girls first love is her dad' and stuff like that, hot dad cards etc).
I think it's all bollocks to be honest, I hate cards.

If he's not a father, then yes it's weird.

On the assumption that he is a father, and it's Fathers' Day and you hope he has a nice day, then no it is not creepy.

I bought my husband one, we cant have children and are going through infertility/adoption decisions. I bought him one to show that I love him and that I know that one day no matter what he will be a great Father.
But obviously lots of people think I'm weird and creepy......

COMPLETE money marketing scam by the card industry, as is the "to grandad" cards on fathers day etc etc

only fools will follow...

weird creepy and a fool! It's only a money marketing scam if you are pushed into it.

Why is it creepy? I got a fathers day present from me and bubs as I appreciate him not just as a DH, but also as a good father. Bubs isn't here yet but he got me a gift for mothers day too for the same reason. It's about showing recognition and appreciation of you partners commitment to you and your child, bubs can't speak for herself yet but my DH already puts so much into ensuring hers and my welfare that I wanted to say thank you for both of us. He is my husband and a father to my child.

I saw on that said Happy Father's Day to my boyfriend. WTF.

Oh and I know its a money making holiday, I don't celebrate Valentine for that reason, we just used it as an excuse to do something nice for each other this year. If these holidays didn't exist we would have done it anyway.

Got one for dh, its his first father's day. Its got yoda on the cover and is not creepy. I think saying that a fathers role in your famly is worth celebrating is a nice thing.

I did notice that most of the actual fathers day from wife to husband cards had a sexual element which seemed odd and not keeping with the feeling of the day. Also why give a card on fathers day that isnt appropriate to give in front of the children?

I buy my DH a father's day card. He is a wonderful father to my beautiful DC after all.

unless he's also your father
if he's you "husband" or partner and your father then it's okay

It's not creepy at all. I wouldn't buy it but I think it's just a way of wishing Happy Fathers Day to a father, your children's father. Just a marketing ploy for the gullible. The DC gave DH gifts and cards, and I cooked him a special meal because I appreciate that he is a good father to them. I don't have any creepy intentions by my gesture .

A close friend of mine gave that exact card to her husband. They are parents to an angel baby.

It wasn't creepy or weird for them, it was a way of acknowledging that although they didn't have their beautiful daughter with them (she was born sleeping) they are still parents.

This is the first fathers day since their loss, and I guess she didn't want it to pass by unnoticed.

Creepy?? YABU. Stop reading creepy stuff into what is for most people, a gesture of kindness.

Many people give their DH/DP a card to thank them for being a good Dad to the kids. If you find that creepy OP, I think you're overthinking things and not seeing the innocence in a kind gesture. What's the world coming to?

OFFS, I bought my dh one of these cards the year we lost our DD-so fuck right off with your oh its so creepy shit-sometimes other people have a need for other types of stuff to you-not creepy or yuck -just different.

LDN seriously- a card from bubs who isnt even here yet? How can he be a fantastic father? How do you know? What aspects of being a father are there when the baby isnt even born?

Not creepy, just sick making. Dh is not your father so why send him one.

i always buy my DH a fathers day card, like he always buys me a mothers day card to his Wife. nothing wrong with it i think.

We always have done inthe 6 years we have been together, when i was pregnant with DS1 we bought happy fathers/mothers day cards to each other from 'Bump'

Happy mothers/fathers day from 'bump' makes me vomit a little in my mouth

Yes, there's nothing worse than to-be parents who are over the moon with the pregnancy and still enjoy making each other smile

i don't understand why it's creepy. surely if you have a little one that can't write a card you could get a card for the father of your baby thanking him for being a great father etc.

i don't see it as creepy

then again i'm not british and this whole card-giving business is a bit odd to me!

I brought two cards with DD, one off her and one off the dogs :)
I would never send him a card off me,sounds rather silly.

Well each to their own imo. but i always send DH one and vice versa for MD.

I get a blank card (I mean not printed) from my husban every year on mothers day, thanking me for all I do for our children and telling me he thinks I'm doing a fantastic job.. I don't find it creapy at all!

Well it depends.
If it's signed "To Big Daddy from your Little Sugar" Then yes it's fucking creepy.

If it's "To my DH i think you're a wonderful Dad and love you for it and want to send you a card to say it" then what's the harm?