oh shit oh shit oh shit

[ohmycrap]

oh shit, just come in. bit drunk. did a pregnancy test which was left over from ages ago because i was a few days late didnt really think i was but i fucking am. oh fuck, oh fuck oh fuck oh fuck.

Actually unless he actively knew there was a problem with the pill and ABs (which I would not expect a man to know unless they teach it in school) then it's not his fault at all.

The OP says he did know and was equally irresponsible, in which case she shouldn't be worried about his reaction at all.

Why the hell does everyone think they are qualified to judge people?

I joined this site 6 years ago & it has changed so much!!

I totally understand you not believing in abortion, I don't either.

I couldn't go through with it, no matter what the circumstances were or what the ramifications would be.

To all those spitting about you making a mistake - people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones.

Even though my children were planned, I still had the oh shit, oh shit, oh shit thoughts!!!!!!!!

Gooseberrybushes - OP posted for support, not to be told she was stupid. AND, FWIW, to start a sentence with "I'm sorry I have to say this" when you obviously aren't sorry, is, actually, a crock of shit.

gooseberry whether he stays or not is kind of irrelevant, my children are happy and healthy, well behaved, most importantly they know they are loved and love in return, since when did having a big house with lots of money equate to being a good parent. are you now implying that a single parent can not raise children well?

Out of interest Gooseberry - do you have children?

You sound like my mental sister in law, who, although has neither chick or child of her own, tries to force her own opinions of parenthood (and suitability for parenthood ) on others.

Goosebury it is taught in schools so he should know (assuming he paid attention)

Plus all sex carries a risk, the only 100% contraception to is to not have sex at all so I fail to see how this is all omc fault.

She posted in AIBU, not Pregnancy. I was sorry to say it - I'm not sorry to hold these opinions. I am not sorry that she may, possibly (but probably not, by the sounds of it) have a pinprick of discomfort amid the wallowing and sympathy that perhaps she really has been irresponsible and it isn't just a case of "shit happens".

Frustrated: mental? Someone who disagrees?

But, WHAT THE FUCK is it to YOU if she is pregnant or not??????

She hasn't asked you to support her family, has she?

gooseberry i didnt say i hadn't been irresponsible in fact if you read the thread i called myself an idiot. that does not change the fact that i am unwilling to end this pregnancy on the basis that i should have made my bf wear a condom.

It's actually considered mentally defective to think that a single mother of three who falls pregnant through carelessness is not behaving in the most responsible manner on the planet? "Mental"? Are you aware how offensive your use of the word is, let alone the ridiculous opinion it is meant to represent?

Although the op was on ABs, perhaps we should maybe consider the fact that it just might not have worked!? Gooseberry I am looking in your direction! I am currently 4 months pregnant with number 4 and I was on the pill when I conceived. I also had a teenage shouting match as you put it, and that is with being with DH for ten years. However, neither of us believe in abortion so that was never an option and we are both, fwiw, shitting ourselves. we will manage though and although unexpected will be no less loved.

Op I am in a slightly better situation than you with regards to the length of relationship, however, whatever the outcome you and your children will be fine with or without your man.

I don't know Frustrated, let's check. Ohmycrap, are you financially independent of the state?

i am not single gooseberry i am in a relationship.

And before anyone shouts Daily Mail, I wasn't the person to bring it up, and I don't care. If this is responsible, I'm a banana.

Gooseberry there are no guarantees in life at all. Some people don't go about their lives in terror of everything falling apart if things happen that they didn't plan.

OMC, wishing you strength and courage, and good health. You sound like a capable and loving person and your children are lucky.

But thank goodness for the people that do plan, and take responsibility. Or we'd all be in a mess.

I've never commented before, but couldn't believe the attitudes of people on here. Childish? Did you do it deliberately to move on your relationship? Irresponsible? Seriously, some people should read what they have written, and hang their heads in shame.
If you had a contraceptive mishap, well, I only know of one 100% effective method: abstinence! :) But this is the real world, and these things happen. Your three are lucky to have someone who loves them and is doing her best, and also someone who doesn't want to terminate this pregnancy just because it'll be awkward. Good for you.
All the best.

hahahahaha oh well i saw that one coming, well i suppose that depends on what you consider to be financially independent of the state. no i am not on jobseekers or do i sit and watch Jeremy kyle every day if that is what you are trying to impy. i am studying as my previous post states and have just finished for the year. i do however claim child tax credits, child benefit and dla for my dd who is autistic.

Gooseberry, you being unbelieveably nasty. Why would you speak this way to someone who's in a difficult situation? Why are you taking it like a personal affront? I just don't understand your vitriol.

Gosh - it must be lonely up there on the moral high ground Gooseberrybushes!

I used to be all judgemental and self-righteous when I was young - but not any more. Life has a habit of biting you on the arse and tripping you up when you are busy preening yourself.

ohmycrap - I wish you luck and hope things work out well

Regardless of whether OP was irresponsible or not -which she herself has basically admitted, but as much as he was IMO, do you think men are stupid Goose? - having an abortion is not an option AT ALL in many peoples mind. It is NOT a choice they see themselves to have. It is not 'taking control', in my mind it is simply murdering getting rid of an innocent child 'problem'

Okay...so what if the OP (indulge me OP, I don't really mean what I am about to say about you just making a point) is a gigantic idiot and sleeps with 3 men a night and has fallen pregnant, is being a twat to her going to help anyone? If she neglects her children and doesn't clean her home....is telling her she's foolish going to help?

Methinks Goose is just trying to make an impression, any impression at all.

ohmycrap. Are you making plans or still in shock?

Crapola, mother of five...three of which were planned!!

I am shocked and horrified that a slightly pissed op who just wants to talk to someone can come under such attack, by vindictive and self serving posters.

OP although this was bloody awful it may have helped you get your head staright about what you want (or more importantly what you don't want).

The bloody tory government has managed to convince the dm readers that they have a right to intefere in any one's life if they take a penny from the state. They've got the nation exactly where they want it, fighting one another and letting them get on quietly with a systematic job of dismanting it.

I hope things go well tomorrow, when you discuss it with your partner, Good Luck and congratulations a child is always a blessing.

no crapola shock is worn off feeling fairly positive now, if still a bit omg this is really happening. because if there is nothing i hate more in this world its being pregnant, it doesnt nothing for me i am sick, the whole time. but hey there will be a baby at the end of it so that will make up for it.