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oh shit oh shit oh shit

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ohmycrap · 18/06/2011 01:12

oh shit, just come in. bit drunk. did a pregnancy test which was left over from ages ago because i was a few days late didnt really think i was but i fucking am. oh fuck, oh fuck oh fuck oh fuck.

OP posts:
SpecialFriedRice · 19/06/2011 17:11

Hope breaking the news has gone well OMC.

Congrats on the news anyway, although it wasnt planned I'm sure your baby will be as loved and cherished as your other children.

CareyHunt · 19/06/2011 17:26

Bloody Hell...remind me never to come on MN if I need a bit of support.

Gooseberry, What the fuck are you basing your assumptions about the op's parenting ability on. The fact that a baby is planned does not make it anymore loved or cared for than an unplanned baby.

A low income and a small house doesn't make a shit parent either. I am sure that the OP's initial shocked response was based on evaluating ALL of the factors, including the effect on her other children. I think her trepidation shows a huge amount of responsibility, and an awareness of reality of her situation. She has not taken the decision lightly.

I can't be the only person who has also thought 'fuck oh fuck oh fuck' on finding out I was pregnant with a PLANNED baby. It's a scary, life changing moment and the feeling of responsibility is huge...and then you take a deep breath and get on with it, just as the op is going to.

I also had a very much un-planned baby, when I was very young, and everyone around me predicted disaster. It was the best thing I ever did, and he is now a wonderful teenager. (despite the small house I raised him in) No, I didn't plan, but I bloody well took responsibility, and for what it's worth, my unplanned child is doing extremely well at school, and is very happy and healthy.

Congratulations OP, and the very best of luck.

ScarlettIsWalking · 19/06/2011 18:13

The op has had loads of support on here.

MilaMae · 19/06/2011 18:39

Op I fell pg with dd naturally when my IVF twins were 6 months.We were living with my parents, dp was facing redundancy and I suffered severe hp(morning sickness) with the twins (ie I'm crap at being pg).

Even after my 7 year IVF rollercoaster I sat on the loo crying and said "oh fuck".Actually I think I said "fuckity fuck".

Obviously abortion wasn't ever going to be an option for me.I was totally shitting myself,sobbed when I told dp,then we both said "fuck".

Anyhow I digress.I had my beautiful girl.It was bloody tough but she's gorgeous and was so worth everything, and more.

Op unplanned pregnancy can happen to us all(even us infertile beings)only a fool wouldn't say "fuck". Having a baby is life's biggest responsibility,it's bloody scary. I've had 2 pregnancies 1 planned and longed for,1 unplanned. All 3 kids are adored and are the light of my life.My dd is proud of her determination to be created and thinks our shock is funny. She knows how special she is.Smile

I hope it goes well today.

mathanxiety · 19/06/2011 18:42
onebigchocolatemess · 19/06/2011 20:53

See, this is why you have to brace yourself when you post in AIBU Shock Grin

Now Chat, or Pregnancy would have been safer, and more comforting I agree, so choose it at your peril! Hmm

Hope you're OK OMC I admire you for studying whilst caring for your 3 children which can't have been easy, you sound like you are made of strong stuff and will be absolutely fine. I hope you get love and support from BF

CheerfulYank · 19/06/2011 21:15

I hope it went okay...I've been thinking of you OP!

Wuckingfonderful · 19/06/2011 21:37

Wow there are some jumped up twunty fuckwits on here atm.
Good luck OP.

Saggyoldclothcatpuss · 19/06/2011 22:01

Good luck and congratulations.

madmomma · 19/06/2011 22:08

OP you sound like a woman who has her head screwed on and is a pretty kick-ass mum and role model for your kids. Sure you'll take this baby in your stride and your kids will adore him/her. I think you are pretty cool for not taking the incessant judgemental and childish passive-agressive bait offered by certain posters. Plenty of us are rooting for you. Hold on to the positives - a new member of the family to love! -and keep smiling. Sounds like you're doing a fantastic job.

Emmerybored · 20/06/2011 00:23

she is an amazing strong woman and a fantastic mother we will be blessed to have another member in the family.
for the judgy mc judgersons out there i dont doubt this child will be as happy, loved, cared for and be as bright as the other 3 beautiful children she has.

ohmycrap · 20/06/2011 01:59

well it went better than i could have hoped, he was amazing. said he couldnt think of a better person in the whole world to have a baby with. we hugged i cried a bit, first time he has ever seen that, not likely to be the last over the next couple of months. we went out for dinner to celebrate. he was amazingly reassuring ask how i wanted to tell my kids, did i want him to be there etc. as the evening went on he just got more and more lovely about it. so i couldn't have asked for more.

OP posts:
Awomancalledhorse · 20/06/2011 02:19

Awww, yay! Grin. He sounds lovely!
Glad it went well OMC, good luck with the pregnancy & telling your kids!

Congratulations.

BitOfFun · 20/06/2011 02:24

That's really nice to hear, ohmycrap...perhaps a namechange is in order now? Grin

spookshowangel · 20/06/2011 02:27

well since my sister has twigged me any way it was a bit pointless changing my name, apparently she knew it was me right away Grin

heleninahandcart · 20/06/2011 02:31

Yay! so pleased for you OMC, I've been lurking all the way through. You sound lovely, a great Mum and your man sounds great too. Congratulations :)

CheerfulYank · 20/06/2011 02:55

YAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY! I was really hoping it would be okay. I'm so happy for you. :)

Tortoiseonthehalfshell · 20/06/2011 03:26

I'm so glad to hear this, spookshow! I'm sure you and your family will be very happy.

chimchar · 20/06/2011 06:50

hooray! i love a happy ending. Grin

congratulations to you all!

LastTrainHome · 20/06/2011 06:55

A big congratulations from me too - so glad it went well! Very happy for you and your family, wishing you lots of luck and happiness :)

onebigchocolatemess · 20/06/2011 07:57

Woohoo! Love a happy ending! Brilliant news!

Hoping you get a good pregnancy this time too

CrapolaDeVille · 20/06/2011 08:03

I second the name change!! Congratulations what a lovely ending!!!!

Ah see Spook!!

I even welled up reading this, so happy for you!!

Gooseberrybushes · 20/06/2011 08:03

Genuinely pleased it went so well (and not for Daily Mail type reasons). I hope you feel better during this pregnancy than the others.

Gooseberrybushes · 20/06/2011 08:05

And you sound so very happy and content.

winnybella · 20/06/2011 08:06

That's great Smile

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