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oh shit, just come in. bit drunk. did a pregnancy test which was left over from ages ago because i was a few days late didnt really think i was but i fucking am. oh fuck, oh fuck oh fuck oh fuck.

I seriously do wish her children luck.

Good luck with whatever decision you decide on. FWIW, I wouldn't let a bunch of strangers decide the fate of my unborn child.
I know which way I would go and it isn't your way. My opinion though.

Congratulations.

Madhousewife quite

gooseberry - actually there aren;t words. Well tehre are but I'm not allowed.

OP, you will mange it. Four kids is impossible to change your life with? crap, I sat finals with a 5 weekd old ds4. I've almost completed my MA. A fourth is extra love, even more reason to fight.

I wish you luck. And I am sad that it seems mn no longer offers support.

good luck, I hope you make a decision that is your own and not based upon the advice of strangers.

peachy its cool, i sat an exam for my degree the day before i gave birth to ds who was no 3. i start final yr of degree in october so it should be an interesting year all in all. appreciate the support thanks.

I am assuming a termination is not an option so Congratulations!!

It will be hard, but there are things you can change and do to make it possible. I may consider a new house!!

I have five, four is a walk in the park!!

i would agree with that isit 2 to 3 was an eye opener.

I thought 0-1 was a bloody nightmare but now have 3.

You sound like you'll do just fine. Congrats and good luck!!

I agree Peachy - there really aren't.

just remember when you tell him that you have had days in which to think it over, come to terms, accept it

it will be an enormous shock for him and his immediate reaction may not be the same as his thoughts after he has had time to reflect

How would he know that you were not protected because of the AB's? How could he have known that?

I'm sorry I have to say this. You have three children, you got yourself pregnant with the fourth with a man you barely know and you come on here like a teenager shouting OMG OMG OMG. Someone with such strong views about abortion needs to be more careful about contraception and the lives which will be affected by the lack thereof.

hello :) I had a similar shock yesterday, found out i am pregnant with DC5. We will both be FINE, I dont say this often on here because I dont want to upset people but my view is that all life is meant to be and things ALWAYS work out if you let them. Im sorry its a shock but its not as dramatic as it seems - it never is :)

if i had found out today i would not have have come on shouting like a teenager as you put it, finding out when you are a bit pissed is not the way to, reaction magnified to put it lightly, but hey we cant always be perfect. i over reacted to the situation because i was inebriated so sue me. he knows about the reaction of the pill with antibiotics he is not an idiot, we have had this concern before and used condoms when i was on them, this time for what ever reason we didnt.

This boyfriend is having parenthood thrust upon him. There are three other children to be considered and she is bringing them all up alone. If you think this is to the benefit of her other children and the boyfriend of a few weeks, she's done a great thing. Otherwise she's been self indulgent, selfish and irresponsible. Laxity about contraception coupled with firm principles against abortion are childish.

"Hey we can't always be perfect."

I am certainly not perfect, not by a very long way: however I don't think it requires perfection to not behave in such a way.

a few weeks ok 9 months is not a fabulously long time but neither is it a few weeks.

It doesn't matter: stability is the issue.

gooseberry he is not having parenthood thrust upon i assume he was present while they were having sex? even taken perfectly the pill is not 100% if he has sex (especially if he KNEW she was on antibiotics) then he has to accept the possible consequences.

sorry gooseberry what stability do you think i can not provide just out of interest?

For all that, I don't want things to turn out badly for you, because then they would turn out badly for your children.

I hope he stays with you and there is some stability in your life for the children. I hope your children stay happy and healthy and do well at school. I hope you don't act so irresponsibly again.