oh shit oh shit oh shit

[ohmycrap]

oh shit, just come in. bit drunk. did a pregnancy test which was left over from ages ago because i was a few days late didnt really think i was but i fucking am. oh fuck, oh fuck oh fuck oh fuck.

Of course it is irresponsible Math. Of course - there's no question about it. Certainly not nasty and vile to point it out. If everybody did it we'd all be swimming around asking someone to financially look after our children. Except there wouldn't be anyone to ask any more. If we are a human family, there will always be the looked after, but there have to be some lookers after too. I hope the boyfriend sticks around too. If he's nice.

If you couldnt have the coil and were waiting for sterilisation why would one not then have the implant/injection if that serious about not getting pregnant? The whole thing smells fishier than mermaids thong tbh.

I am repeating myself only because so many here deny it, which I find astounding. Not you, of course. I suppose I'm belabouring it to them.

Because you are at the present juncture, OP, in a weaker social position than them and they are bullies. Don't stress about it.

implant/injection makes me crazy as a horse with ticks. depression etc. was going to get copper coil. pill was short term while i was waiting to go on the coil. not fishy my dear circumstances.

I am surprised at the twattishness of some of the posters on this thread. Actually, no I'm not. Mumsnet is full of twats atm. Sometimes I wonder why I bother coming on here any more. And I don't give a fuck if I get turned on for saying it, it will prove my point. Good luck OP. I hope you are sensible enough to know that some posters on here are talking utter bollocks. Noone is perfect - as is demonstrated every time one of these posters types one of their inane comments. I assume people in their lives forgive them their twattishness, or perhaps they don't have the nerve to talk such shite in RL? Who knows, but I wish you well. x

I am not a bully. I was rather a lone voice, and I have certainly not resorted to abuse and name-calling, which have been thrown around rather by the larger group.

I repeat: you are here because this is AIBU and you have folded your arms on the doorstep and become abusive. There is support needed elsewhere but you are building a bbq and calling names.

Realhousewife demonstrates well. I could have cued her on the thread.

gooseberry-you are not alone

I'm reassured that not a single person who dares to think this is not an ideal situation has actually lowered to name-calling and abuse.

Pink: I know - which is rather unusual for me. I must iron now.

Good luck OMC, I hope all works out well for you.

You know Gooseberry anything can happen in life and one day you could be left relying on the state to support you and your family (god forbid anything like that should happen of course) You have NO idea about this womans background and the fact that she is studying to better herself if extremely admirable. She has excepted what has happened and been very positive about it.

Also OP has said numerous times she is not a single parent she is in a relationship with the father of this baby for all you know the father of her other DC could of been an abusive drunk. You are too quick to judge I think you should accept that and take a good look in the mirror. BTW do you have David cameron as your screen saver?

accepted** Stupid auto spell :o

Gooseberry, you know absolutely nothing about this woman aside from what she has posted here. You are making massive assumptions about her character, her ability to adapt, her finances, her strengths as an individual, and her children's ability to welcome a new addition to the family when you cast her as irresponsible.

It is nasty and vile to keep on harping on about the alleged 'irresponsibility', to wish her children luck so pointedly, to see society going to hell in a handbasket because one more baby is on the way -- apparently welcomed by a loving mother who sees babies as a glass half full by comparison to your gloomy glass half empty scenario, with people like you paying for everyone else's fun. But the hints that the boyfriend may vamoose are even nastier.

Really and truly, vile is the word, and absolutely none of your business what someone else does with her own body.

And you would be paying for an abortion too, but obviously that doesn't faze you. What if every pregnant woman in Britain decided to terminate tomorrow, and use the NHS? All that swimming around asking to be financially looked after?

Very nice post :).

OP, I've just caught up with this thread. I'm sorry you've been given a bit of a hard time.

What's happened has happened,there's no turning back the clock. You're not the first to have a surprise pregnancy and won't be the last. If you are going ahead, you will manage, all of your DCs will be fine and so will you.

You need some time to think and come to terms with your pregnancy. Talk to your partner, friends and family. They are the people you need around you now.

Good luck

@gooseberrybushes - who is denying what, exactly? Some people have proffered congratulations. The reasons for this have passed you by, perhaps? - no, the situation is not ideal at the present time, which is a large part of the OPs anxiety. But many kids are born into less-then-ideal circumstances and both they and their parents go on to do really well. Like my brother for example, born when my parents were still living in a bedsit in the 70s, now an aeroplane captain flying for BA. Paying loads of tax, as you're so bothered. I don't believe my parents' second child, the doctor of biochemistry, was planned either, and I'm certain my husband (works for a charity, pays his taxes too as y'all are so interested in everyone's contribution to society) was unplanned also, and he was certainly poor growing up, though his parents worked bloody hard, actually.

So yes, congratulations are in order, I'm sure that the new bubs will bring loads of joy and happiness to the OP's life. And support an aging population while you're utterly dependant upon others in your declining years.

sorry hang on some one said taking antibotics doesnt effect the pill?

antibiotics and the pill

from the nhs choices site

"It depends on which type of contraception you?re using.

It?s now thought the only types of antibiotic that interact with hormonal contraception and make it less effective are rifampicin and rifabutin"

www.nhs.uk/chq/Pages/843.aspxCategoryID=60&SubCategoryID=178

ummmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

ohmycrap - it sounds like your medical history has been complicated to say the least!

You do not have to apologise or defend yourself for what has happened. Like I indicated to Gooseberry a while back it's easy to judge and preen until you get pulled up short in some way - life has a habit of doing that to people.
Gooseberry - you sound like you have all the "answers".
Irresponsible? Really? It's irresponsible to do all sorts of things - like drive, ski, play rugby, sledge, smoke or over- eat. Do you castigate people who do all this too? - because they could end up rueing the day they made these choices and did these things then ended up injured and in need of care.
But I expect then you could come along and say "I wish your children good luck" ......... and obviously it's their own doing so they are not worthy of help.

You OK OMC, I'm sure this is all abit much?

Good point Howling (can't quite bring myself to add "bitch" in there!! ) - hope OP is OK!

I'm always afraid of my name ofending people ! It's actually howling bitch as in a female wolf. It's from a series of books by the author Robin Hobb. So don't be afraid to type the bitch part! I (hope) am not a bitch. :o