In thinking it's strange not to want me at his house?

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Been with DP 2 years. I moved in with him briefly last year as I had nowhere else to stay (landlord of my house went bankrupt etc) but he moved again and I took over the tenancy of his house. So we do have a lot of history, it's certainly not a new relationship. I helped him move etc and stayed the night at his new house so I know he didn't move in with another woman or anything. Since then though he's been really funny about me going to his house. The only time he's ok with it is if I give him plenty of notice (like a few days notice).
A while ago he invited me around (this is very rare) during the day, he made me lunch etc and I put my shopping in his freezer but I forgot to take it home, not realising until later. I text him saying I'd pop around for my stuff and he was all like "No no, I'll bring it to you". So I told him I was going passed his house anyway so I might as well just pick it up and he made excuse after excuse and in the end insisted that he bring it to me???

Same thing happened again with something else, I said I'd pop in after work and pick it up. He protested, made excuses, acted strange but I pushed it this time because I was starting to wonder what he was up to and in the end he agreed but wanted a specific time in which I'd be there.

He bought me a cake a couple of days ago. Came around to my house but forgot it. I said "No worries, I'm going passed your house tonight on the way to the opticians, I'll pick it up" so he went on with his excuses, trying to get out of it, saying he'd bring it to me, even tried to say he'd drop it in at 5am on his way to work!! I was like "err no, that's just stupid, I'll just pick it up" so reluctantly he agreed but again wanted a specific time and text me an hour before to ask if I was still going and would it be the same time still. I was in a shit mood when he text so I replied saying "actually no, I have to much on tonight, sorry. I'll pick it up tomorow when I leave work". He agreed and seemed relieved. SO I was supposed to be picking it up this afternoon and I've just had a text saying he's leaving work early so will go home, pick up the cake and come back to mine to drop it off!! this is really going out of his way!! why?? I know for a fact he's not married lol, so why the urgency in keeping me away from his house?

Stupid question alert,

if you mark your place on here how do you get back to your last post read, iyswim, im fed up having to come one go to the page i was last on then scroll down to find any new posts, is there an easier way i dont know about?

you can book mark... then it fast forwards to the place you were.

Izzy Were you reading Beesimo's threads? That reminds me of the marks travellers would leave for others to know where to get water etc. I second an underground MN network replete with codes

OP - no announcing, leave phoned turned off in car, as suggested, take the Trojan hot pizza Lottery suggested.

You need to know - he might just be peculiar about his space (I can be sometimes and others have said the same) but a lot doesn't add up and you don't want to waste any more time on him if he is stringing you along for whatever the reason.

Totally That is so v sad about your ex (lucky escape for you though)

Tallulah I read your posts on this thread and took note of them, as they stood out from the crowd. I remember everything I read. It's a burden, to be honest.

oh sorry, i thought you were picking me out! It was more the use of the word "certain" in scurrys post that made me disagree tbh, no one knows anything on here for "certain".

how do you bookmark then? do you mean just in the fave bits where you add to favorites on your browser or is it an internal MN bookmark thingydoofer?

Marking place in case OP comes back with news because i'm a nosy bitch

oh blimey - sounds dodgy!
marking place

Haven't read the whole thread so apologies if I x-post but it seems really really obvious to me that the reason he wants you on facebook is so that he can rest assured that you are online, therefore at home and not likely to turn up on his doorstep whilst his wife/boyfriend/dealer is there. He panics when you go quiet on FB or sign off because he doesn't know where you are.

FGS if you are going to go round and surprise him DON'T warn him first!

Tallulah- go up to "Customise" at the top of the page, then scroll down until you get to an option to bookmark- select yes. Then when you're on a thread, hover your mouse over the bottom right-hand side of the post you want to bookmark, and lo and behold, a little "bookmark" box will pop up for you to click.

Ok, so now we know where we're going with this...

We park up outside his home, ring his doorbell, present him with an Avon catalogue, ask to use his loo, go through his drawers/cupboards/computer history/mobile etc, and rip up his floorboards. Sounds like a plan to me.

OR the OP calls unannounced, stark bollock nekkid under her mac except for a large strap-on, clutching a steaming hot pizza and shouting 'Surprise!'.

I'm ashamed to say I didn't get the idea from one of She Who Must Not Be Named's interminably tedious theads Hell - I lifted it from a rancid article in the Daily Fail ages ago

I'm dying to know what happens next! Im craving krispy kremes like Homer Simpson at the moment, I'm in on the stakeout!

LBB - love the Avon idea

Sounds like he is a bit of a fuckwit (to quote Bridget Jones ) who likes to have his cake and eat it.

Go and find yourself a Mr Darcy who will not behave like a fuckwit and treat you far better than he has.

What about your house? Has the rent arrangements been done officially? Make sure if it goes pete tong you are covered

Theoretically, we don't need to do an actual stakeout Pudding unless there's a burger joint nearby. We can scoff the Krispys on the way there or on the way back or, preferably, both

I'm thinking donuts on pavement, women in car with fishing rods to catch donuts. Perfect. Won't look suspicious at all.

It would drive me nuts not knowing.

Won't look at all suspicious if the mini's got a double sun roof - but where will we store the Krispys during the journey Totally?

Sounds to me like you place this relationship higher than he does, bet he has someone else on the go too!

Does he definitely live there? have you seen any mail with his full name and the address on? Is his landline in the yellow pages with his name and address?

Do go round there but do it without warning, otherwise it's pointless!

The one time I was told I could not drop in on my boyfriends house - actually we were having a 'break' at his insistence, but on the basis that no relationship was allowed with anyone else while he thoguht things over - it turned out he was having an affair with someone who had just moved into the house (we were students, it was a house share). (She thought we were no longer together).

now ex-boyfriend, btw.

This all sounds very odd.
I'd just turn up - or text from near his place, saying you're nearby and are calling round. Then if he says no, pretend you didn't get the reply and bang on the door anyway!

FetchezLaVache thank you, i could kiss ya lol, x

The Krispys can sit on the bonnet (attached with blu tack) on the journey and be all lovely and warm when we get there, although possibly covered in tiny flies.

JudysJudgement is SO right -- he wants to see OP on Facebook so he knows where she is.

My cheating XBF would call and always ask where I was. Of course, what he was really doing was making sure I wouldn't catch him with OW. Bastard. And I thought it was "sweet" that he'd call "just to say hi."

Those devious buggers . . . .

Im betting another man

Izzy - I think both is the way forward

Totally - not sure if I can eat flies while PG, under the bonnet will keep them warm and fly free

LittleBB The Chinese takeway on Green Lane in Dronfield sells food in those little boxes. Not too far from Sheffield.