To feel utterly betrayed and let down by my family

[letdownagain]

My DS has been going through a really bad time. He's suffering from severe depression and has been having a really hard time. My family have never really helped him in any way.

Recently he met a woman online. He asked my sister to put them up whilst they were in the London (the first time he and this woman would have met- he was looking forward to it). It was hard for him to ask my sister as he doesn't see her or her kids often (maybe once a year). My sister is younger than me with young children and she made up some exuse not to have them stay with her.

Unfortunetly that relationship with the woman he met online didn't work out. They didn't meet in the end because she dumped him for someone else she'd met on line, he was devastated.

Now he has met someone new. He asked my sister again if he and his girlfriend could stay. He is in desperate need of a break and he and his girlfriend could really enjoy being away together.

My sister has said that whilst it would be fine to have him there it would be difficult for them to come as a couple as her kids (2 and 5) haven't met the girlfriend and she'd feel 'uncomfortable' with the kids going in to the frontroom (she doesn't have a spareroom) and playing etc whilst they were asleep/ together.

WTF!

I have always been so generous and kind to her kids and thought we had a good relationship and I am so hurt she has rejected my DS in this way.

I have told her this and said it hurts that she doesn't trust my DS. I have told her I am not speaking to her.

She say's she doesn't have the space (what room for one but not a couple ) and that because her kids use the frontroom to play in it would be difficult.

I just feel it's another example of my family happily taking from me and not giving to my children in any way.

AIBU.

And as for 'utterly betrayed' - oh do get a grip!

yabvu
if this was a long term girlfriend of your ds's, then, yes, you would have a point. but someone he has either just met, or hasnt even met yet? around young children?
not happening!

Is this a thread about a thread? Sure there was one recently about someone not wanting to provide a B&B service for relatives.

Anyway, YABU. I wouldn't want someone staying in the same situation.

Can't they get a cheap hotel, more romantic and private.

Are you for real! Your sister isn't running a knocking shop hotel. It sounds like your DS barely knows this woman. Why on earth would your sister let a stranger into her home especially with such young DC of her own YABVVVU

YABU did he "meet" this women online too? if so have they met in rl? I wouldnt want a stranger staying in my house over night either!!!

sorry I have to agree I would not want a complete stranger staying and it really does not sound like she has the room.Can he not book a travel lodge or similar.Also will his new girlfirend not feel a little uncomfortable spending the night with him in his auties front room?

He hadn't even met the first 'girlfriend' and you expected your sister to have them both stay?

I think as well, letdown, you might want to suggest to your son that his new girlfriend might not feel very comfortable to be put up on someone's sofa in the early days of her relationship? Is it at all possible for you to lend him money for a B&B?

Your son had not met the first woman?
Your son has not met this woman?
Your son sees your sister once a year?
Her children barely know him?
Your sister does not have a spare room so will have to put either her children or the 'couple' in a sitting room?

Are you for real?

Your sister is absolutely right not to put up your son. YABU, very very unreasonable. Good for your sister to putting her children before a nephew and a 'girl friend' even he has never met.

YABU. I would be very pissed off if someone wanted to stay at my house purely to spend time with their other half rather than to visit me!!!! How rude!

OK so he has met this new girl but she's still a stranger to your DSis.

Can he book into a B&B? Does your sis live in a holiday resort?

OP, pay for them to stay overnight in a hotel

problem sorted

He should book into a B & B.

Why do they want to stay at your sister's place anyway? It seems an odd choice; surely they'd be much more comfortable at a b&b or hotel?

3 weeks? Thats not very long before you're expecting your DSis to have her stay in her home. Perhaps you could go and stay and they could have some time alone in your house?

YABU

YABVU, even if they did meet in real time. She's a new girlfriend your sister doesn't know, and she's not running a B&B. They need to Get A Room in a hotel.

I have 2 very young LOs and I would be really pissed off to be asked, so your sister is much nicer than me. It is nice of her to have your son, but very unreasonable to ask for a couple.

How old is your DS?

It doesn't matter anyway, as YABVVVVVVVU, and sound like abit of a loon tbh.

No-one wants their toddler walking in on 2 cheapskate horndogs shagging on their living room floor!

Oh my goodness YA absolutely BU, I wouldn't want a coulple using my house like a hotel for a potentially dirty weekend especially with young children.

YABVU. Your DS only sees your sister once a year, but wants to use her house to meet up with random women from the Internet. She isn't a B&B. Plenty of those in London if your DS needs 'a break'.

YABU - odd that you can't see that!

This is what Travel Lodges are for.

You are joking right..?

DS is a grown man? why oh why on earth would he want to kip on his aunt's floor with his new GF anyway.

Come on, people!

I agree the OP is BU.

I wouldn't be surprised if this is a reverse-AIBU.

But if it's not, she has a son with bad depression who's just been knocked back by his date - she's feeling protective of him, it's natural. She's being a loon, but she's being a loon with an excuse - imo, anyway!