My dh and I have one child together, because thats all we can afford. Dh is paying £590 per month for his son by ex wife. She left when ds was six months old. She then had three kids with bf, lost care of them after driving them all drunk, into a tree. In her own words, and told to us by ss, now 15, she had a few one night stands to get pregnant, to keep her benefits and house. She has now lost care of this fifth child.
She has never worked, never will, is racist, violent and drunk. She costs sociaty an absolute fortune, in child protection and court costs, as well as benefits. My dh and I pay 40% tax, I have chronic health problems but would never claim as I can get by, I just work when my health allows. Thank god I work from home.
These people exist alright. And she came from a family who worked. God knows what went wrong. I think she just got used to having a certain income and couldn't see herself coping on less. When they first split, dh paid her £1200 a month, whilst he lived in a bedsit. She pissed the 50K profit from marital home up the wall too, and lived rent free with my mil.
I like to think I wouldn't mind so much if she was raising great kids wth a positive future, but she is not doing such a great job so far. I love my ss though, and I pray the damage is not too deep. I know he feels responsible for her though. Thats the saddest thing of all.