To ask why some women don't have sex with their husbands enough?

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Just from reading some threads I think some women don't realise how much a man needs sex. Totally on a different level to how we do but making that bit of effort not to think about how tired we are (I am most of the time) but just from my experience they don't want firework inducing experiences. Its just how men feel close and connected is by having sex. Shouldn't we make the effort to make the effort?

I do understand and agree with what you're saying OP.

There will always be reasons like ill health, new baby, pregnancy, lazy unromantic husband etc...

But when none of those reasons apply and it's just a case of putting more effort in, it's worth putting that effort in because it's all to easy to get used to not having sex. That's ok if both are happy...but more often than not, one person isn't as happy as the other about it.

Well all mine has to do is ask, but as he hasnt for 9 months and turned me down when I asked him, I am not holding my breath....................

of course dear

I also like to bring slippers at the end of a long day's work and make sure the martini is just right. Because the needs and feelings of a woman are far less important than making sure he gets his leg over as much as he wants.

OP's post at 22.54

'the input from dh in other areas has been huge'

Very funny thread Mr Spiders, I think you've made your point - is bumsex once a fornight not enough???

Really - & your psuedonym's shit.

I'll keep believing if you stop playing shit music.

I know I'm childish but you mentioning a BJ and gagging in the same sentence has made me snort

Flork1, I assume you have seen my profile photo so thanks for that.

If I want insults about how i look I will ask for them.

OMG there's nothing wrong with your photo at all Bogeyface..you're very attractive

As long as you don't insist on being called Bogeyface in real life, I can't see the problem

You so did, Kerry

Thanks Worra, feeling a bit sensitive post birth atm!

He calls me "boobs" :o

Interesting that the gorgeous & irrestisible flork has no profile....

I imagine it's to keep the desparate hoards away.

x post Kerry

You are gorgeous Bogey (feel a bit strange telling a Bogey it's gorgeous....)

I took Florks post to be a bad joke reference to your name.

If our DD (1) would stay out of the bed I would be ripping his clothes off. No chace for it during the day as also DS (12) and DSS (8). Although I do sometimes 'help' getting him changed out of his work clothes

I also took florks post as a joke (silly one) as you are prettier than the average tired/stressed out mum!

8 days post birth, I may be a bit sensitive so if it was a reference to my username then.....erm.....i feel a bit silly!

I wasnt begging for compliments btw, but thank for them! They have perked me up no end :)

But why when there is a lack of sex in the relationship does it invariably fall to the Woman to put it right. Dress up, regard chores as sexual favours and be so damn grateful you suck his cock.

It's all bollocks this Men as visual sexual creatures who would fuck a hole in the wall, I'm sure some men, who don't have children, or who don't have any responsibility for them are like this. men who have children and take an equal stance in their upbringing are as knackered as us and grateful for the 3am whack off.

Not every man is sex mad, some women are sex mad. Please stop with the pathetic stereotypes. Men are actual people with you know emotions and shit, the fuck 5 times a day types are in the minority.

Is it half term again, already? Wasn't that last week?

I like Boiledfrog's post. That pretty much sums up my attitude to the OP.

And Kerrymumbles, your post did make me laugh - the juxtaposition of 'BJ' and 'gagging' - yes.

We have sex because we are ttc #2. If we weren't, it would be a real chore. As I discovered last week when I came back after 3w away, with DS, and was ragingly horny. It was shit. :(

This place has gone to the dogs :o.