Just found my husband with someone else.

[morewinevicar]

I walked straight out, but have nowhere to go. No stuff. My little boy is asleep in the house. I was away on a course but couldn't stand to stay at the rubbish travel lodge for the night so drove for hours and just got home. Andmy husband was on the sofa with a woman. Very blonde but didn't see much else and they were drinking and looked like they'd just jumped apart when they heard the door. I'm shaking. I don't know where to go. My son is in the house. How could he?????

Thinking of you this morning, more wine. Hope last night was too horrific for you, and that your DWanker behaved.

Today is another day, you are so beautifully brave and strong,x

morewine.
have read this thread this morning for the first time. so sorry for you. how bloody awful, and what a cowardly, heartless man your husband is appearing to be.

am wishing you strength to get through these early, very raw days. x

That should obviously be wasn't too horrific-that'll teach me not to check posts first.

Hope his visit wasn't too bad thinking of youx

I have nothing really helpful to add.

But what a fucking prick.

still thinking of you, I know you must feel completely wrung out by now and the emotions will be swinging from anger to upset in the blink of an eye.

keep repeating that he is a fucking wanker and you are well rid.
take care X

I have just read this thread and I feel awful for you.
What an utter shite he sounds. You, on the other hand, sound far far too good for him.
I have no advice to add, I just hope that you are doing as well as can be expected in this horrible situation.

How are you this morning, morewine? Hope you managed to get some sleep and your DS is ok.

Aslo thinking of you this morning. Hope you're feeling alittle better and have some clarity regarding this mess. Chip up :)

Thinking of you this morning too!

Hope you and DS are doing ok this morning? Thinking of you both xxx

Vicar

I'm so sorry that this is happening to you. Be kind to yourself, take time to heal.

In the meanwhile, quickly send his stuff over to MIL, agree on a schedule for him to see your DS, and see a lawyer to represent your interests in the divorce.

Normally, I would be for working through the problems in a marriage rather than divorce, but I don't see how you can continue with this marriage after last night, and especially his complete lack of remorse or effort to win you back

and me - i hope you managed some sleep and that your ds is bringing you comfort.

and me thinking of you this morning, that is (how quickly intervening posts appear!)

Hope you and ds are ok this morning

Hope you're ok this morning OP. Just checking in and reminding you that we're all here for you. x

Thinking of you this morning. Hope last night gave you some of the answers you must be needing.

(hugs) [and can't think of anything useful to say]

Just read this entire thread. Am so :( that this is happening to you.
You've been given some great advice so have nothing more to offer I'm afraid except to add that we're all thinking of you and your ds.
Am glad you have such a good rl friend to support you through this x

Yes, your friend is a real rock, kudos to her.

Hope you got some sleep last night, and big cuddles to your DS.

Just read this thread, so sorry for you and ds. Hope your ok and have managed to sleep.

Just read through this whole thread, so angry for you OP. Adding my voice to the rest, thinking of you and hugely impressed with the way your dealing with things, you're being fantastic.

Stay strong

Just unbelievable! What an idiot that man is. All I can do is send my best wishes and say well done for behaving with such dignity

so sorry vicar, can't believe his reaction. it's shit, very cruel and leaves you thinking wtf did i or any of this mean to you.

my ex dh was similarly selfish and cold.

remember this is about his lack of, his shit. not about you or what you have deserved. there will be chinks of light in the dark and everyone is here to support you. I hope you got some rest last night?

hugs