to think that women with spanking fetishes and suchlike should be ashamed of themselves?

[saidthespiderwithahorridsmile]

ditto being tied up, rape fantasies etc

what sort of message does this sort of "fantasy" send to the male of the species? That really, deep down, women want to be dominated? That physical control is sexy?

Honestly. Women who indulge in this sort of twisted self-hatred need therapy. And to grow up.

I think Roo's mum is a contender. Was watching a disney Winnie the Poo with DD and it struck me how saucy she was in it. Very sexy voice.

All that home cooking and no Mr Roo.

Snow White and the seven dwafes ( sp ahhgg ! ) not there's got to something going on there

Dwarves lol. Snow White was obviously insatiable. Seven dwarves and a Prince. Insatiable, greedy, or possibly slighty unhinged.

Cinderella: A Foot Fetishist's Fairy Tale.

Pinochio !

Every girls dream .

Nooo, he's a liar. Nothing good ever came from a liar.

Sleeping Beauty - secret necrophilliac or the world's first misuse of rohypnol? And let's not even think about Beauty and the Beast.

A liar yes, but oooh that nose...

i think a switch relationship is best#
where both partners can take the dom role when required
and the dressing up in latex of pvc just adds to the intensness of the fun

Jessica: But not everyone wants to switch. What's best is a relationship where both partners like and respect each other and their sexual tastse comlement each other's, whatever those tastes may be.

My sex life would be shit if i didnt get the men i sleep with to spank me and push/pull me around a bit. I love being tied up, but i also love to tie my men up too. Nothing wrong with a bit of slap and tickle, i say.

agreed ladies but you gotta feel sorry for MNers who think its degrading and don't take part in alternative sex that their partner may really like!!! (or them too!)
best motto is
"don't knock until you've tried it"

HELP
I am a 69 year old lady, widowed and met a wonderful, caring, tender, understanding, tolerant male who knows where he is at, where he is coming from, what he wants and goes out and tries and gets it. In other words, a combination of being in touch with both the male and the female side of him

Now, I learn, that when he was in boarding school he was up for caning with three other boys. Those three boys got caned first, during which time, this man dreaded the thought of being caned himself but, it turned him on and, when it came to his turn to be camed, he came in his pants.

He has denied and lied about this all his life except to me and, firstly to his elder sister. He has been to psychologists (he assures me) and they tell him that the need to be spanked will always be there, not often, but it will be there and that there is no cure. Has anyone had this experience? Can you tell me whether it is ok to spank him when and if the need arises? How do I cope with something that seems totally "not me"? How can I overcome the feeling that if you love something you dont hurt it and to get to grips with the fact that if I love this man unconditionally, it is ok to hurt him? I am totally schyzophrenic about this. Any advice and understanding out there?

oh my goodness, what a quandary

I don't know what to say, really

You might not get many responses, as you have resurrected a thread from beyond the grave

Perhaps start a new thread in Relationships?

Welcome to MN

Got to love the Friday night zombie bumpers

Bless 'em!

I don't think people should be ashamed of what goes on in their heads, they should only be held to account for what they do.

I'm blaming Fifty Shades of Shite for this thread.

wistful for Friday night bumsex threads....

Funny thing, whenever I've had a leader's job, with a bit of power to it, I've had a real penchant for getting on the end of some smacking and filthy commands. When I'm not in charge in day to day life, I'm not so interested in being told what to do in the bedroom.

Could it be that the two are related, and, as they say, a change is as good as a rest, rather than me being the falsely-conscious lickspittle excuse for a real women you're painting anyone with such tastes to be? And could it also be that IT'S NONE OF YOUR FUCKING BUSINESS?

Who said Tiggys are fun and bouncy?

What I do in private in my own bedroom, kitchen, or at certain clubs are between me, the other person/people involved, and anybody watching either live or on DVD later.

OP NEEDS TO GET LAIDDDDDD

waits excitedly to be told off by OP for being a naughty girl

Just realised date of thread... Whoops.

I did that as well. Thought it was quite fitting though considering the Shades of Grey mania that appears to have taken over everything

People like the OP disgust me.

People with views like this are usually the ones with something to hide.

cough cough zombie thread

BDSM isn't abuse though

most couples have safe words. well ones who do it properly.

you would have to really trust your partner though.

Has the OP never heard of ""It doesn't make any difference what you do in the bedroom as long as you don't do it in the street and frighten the horses."?