To think that you don't just drop your child off at hospital then FUCK OFF OUT!

[KnowItAllMummy]

Exactly what title says!

I found out someone I know's son got poorly and got taken into hospital, she got him there in the early hours of the morning and then got the earliest train to go out to a festival! W.T.F??

Am I being unreasonable to think she is a bad mum?

Christ on a bike! I have been a single parent in the past, and DS2 has chronic asthma and has almost died 3 times through it. The day before his 3rd birthday, he was rushed to hospital. I was a single parent at the time. I have no family support, ds2's dad (my ex) wasn't answering his phone, and I had 2 older, school age dc to look after. I CALLED MY FRIENDS. I stayed by his bedside 23 hrs a day, the other hour was spent with my other 2 dc in the hospital canteen (and my friends' 2 dc) while my friend was sitting with ds2. That was purely so I could eat a meal as our paeds ward doesn't feed the parents, and so I could spend 1hr a day with my other 2 dc. You do what you have to do - and that DOES NOT include swanning off to a car festival while your dc are in hospital.

I judge. With my judgypants pulled up to my armpits. In fact I think I might even have to wear two pairs of judgypants for this one. There is just NO excuse for this.

I feel devastated for the parents on here who say they had to leave their children in hospital to go home and look after other children but that is not the same as going to a car show.

Mothers and fathers who beat their children often do it because they can't cope. I still don't have any sympathy for them.

I can see both sides of this.

Its through a very sad experience. A boy I cared for had a life long condition. He needed 24 hour care and received this over school, parents and carers in the home.

He had been doing very well and then had a bad few weeks and eventually was taken into hospital. His mum/dad were both there during day and 1 at night - always.

He was stabilized - had a minor op and was back to being very well again - no risk. His parents were persuaded to get some sleep and made a very difficult decision to return home at midnight and leave him. He was deemed well enough to return home that very day and as they needed to care for him constantly it was felt they needed a good nights sleep and prepare the home. He died suddenly and unexpectedly 3 hours later and there is an investigation.

They have said they'll never forgive themselves .

So I know the most loving and devoted parents can leave their children - for whatever reason. (be what we would call valid or not)

It sounds like this boys mum needs support. Please OP - help her get it for her and her DS sake.

My DD had plastic surgery aged 6 months. No way I would have left her for a car festival

Someone earlier commented on a girl going in for tests during school holidays - as if that was a bad thing (hospital being used for free childcare). However as a parent I'd probably ask for tests to be done during holidays if poss, so as not to disrupt school time

Oh FFS @ all the "You don't know what her life is like.... walk a mile in her shoes..... she might have been desperate" etc.

Or else, she might be a shit mother who used the hospital as a babysitter.

Even if she was at the end of her tether, it wouldn't excuse her leaving a SICK child.

No wonder child abuse etc is so rife, with the likes of earnest, woolly-headed MN'ers bleating things like "Well, until you've had PND, you can't say for definite that you WOULDN'T drop your child off the roof of a car park"

Get real. You've got to be a special sort of arsehole to leave a sick child in hospital and go to a festival.

takeitonthechins some sense, hoorah!