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To think that you don't just drop your child off at hospital then FUCK OFF OUT!

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KnowItAllMummy · 01/06/2011 19:40

Exactly what title says!

I found out someone I know's son got poorly and got taken into hospital, she got him there in the early hours of the morning and then got the earliest train to go out to a festival! W.T.F??

Am I being unreasonable to think she is a bad mum?

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KnowItAllMummy · 01/06/2011 19:41

The DC isn't even 2 yet! And father was abroad on holiday, so DC was left alone :(

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Loonytoonie · 01/06/2011 19:41

Wrong wrong wrong on all counts. Poor mite Sad


pigletmania · 01/06/2011 19:42

OMG that is awful Sad YANBU at all. Get your priorities right woman.


Happymm · 01/06/2011 19:42


CrapBag · 01/06/2011 19:42

Surely that can't be right.

What kind of parent would do that!


BluddyMoFo · 01/06/2011 19:43

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KnowItAllMummy · 01/06/2011 19:44

Poor DC has been in and out of hospital all his life, and she goes out as if she has no responsibilities, clubbing etc.

I was gobsmacked when I found out she still went!

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KnowItAllMummy · 01/06/2011 19:45

Is was a car thing called modified nationals, some thing to do with done up cars, she camped for the whole weekend Hmm

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pozzled · 01/06/2011 19:48

There must be more to the story though- surely? If the mum was already planning on going to the festival, who was supposed to be looking after the DS? Or was she going to take him with her?


gapants · 01/06/2011 19:48

wow, sounds like she used the hospital as some free childcare.

However, is that even legal/pemitted. I mean, surely there would have been a quick call to the on call SS to tell the woman to stay put. Don't they have to stay to sing congenital documents, consult with on treatment?

I am not saying you are telling fibs...but really really?


PregolaLola · 01/06/2011 19:49

strange thing to do, poor littlen.... but she did so not much to say really
hopefully there was a grandparent or relative there, not that it makes her own absence any less pants


sharbie · 01/06/2011 19:50

no it is allowed.
saw this all the time (and have posted on here about it too) when dd was in hospital.
its very very sad.


gapants · 01/06/2011 19:50

Blush sign documents to permit consent for treatment


TheRainInSpain · 01/06/2011 19:50




PregolaLola · 01/06/2011 19:50

gapants i didnt think they would allow it either to be honest, but hey ho....


sharbie · 01/06/2011 19:51

when we were in with dd - it happened with babies


mousesma · 01/06/2011 19:53

Actually you'd be surprised how often hospitals are used as free childcare. My old manager said in her nursing days it wasn't at all uncommon to find children left at the end of surgerys on a friday night only to have the parents waltz in saturday or sunday to pick them up.
They know hospitals have a duty of care and have to either find them a bed or get SS to look after them.


KnowItAllMummy · 01/06/2011 19:54

Her DM was supposed to have her DC, she had even taught her to use the dialysis machine especially (her and XP were the only people shown at the hospital) but afaik, her mum doesn't drive.

She has done this several times, and when he was in for long periods I used to think it was because she needed the break, but to literally drop him off then go? I couldn't believe my ears.

It's not even like it was something minor wrong with him, they thought he had an infection in the line that goes directly into his heart!

I don't really know any more details though I'm afraid, I just wanted to see if I was being unreasonable and to share my disgust!

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PregolaLola · 01/06/2011 19:54

sharbie ,must of been hard to watch i guess... two is still a baby aswell though really, some people hey ?!


SpeedyGonzalez · 01/06/2011 19:55

Unbelievable. If my kids were in hospital I'd be one of those annoying parents who insist on taking up residence on a bedside chair until their departure. I'd be very polite about it, but nothing would make me leave the hospital.

Poor child, what a horrible, selfish thing to do.


rainbowinthesky · 01/06/2011 19:57

Easy to judge but...

This may be her only chance of respite from what sounds like a 24 hours full on job with an ill child. Maybe she knew that if she doesnt take her breaks when she can get them then she simply wont be able to function and child goes into care.

Unless you walk in her shoes......


sharbie · 01/06/2011 19:57

yes it was.i really couldn't think what they would rather be doing tbh.
obviously the nurses couldn't take time out to look after them all apart from essentials (feeding obs)so there were babies in cots in seperate rooms all alone.


KnowItAllMummy · 01/06/2011 19:57

I would be the same speedy.

She has been awful since her XP left her though, always out, going off with any men Hmm

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BimboNo5 · 01/06/2011 19:58

I work in a childrens hospital and if childrens parents dont visit/spend enough time with the child it is refered on to the hospital social work team as they are not deemed to be meeting the emotional needs of the child.


KnowItAllMummy · 01/06/2011 19:58

Sharbie :(

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