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AIBU?

to suggest that my sister could cover boobs with a scarf....

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chocolatehobnobs · 31/05/2011 22:13

Sister has 2 DC 2 and 5 months. I am pg. She reckons she is the world expert on child rearing, never afraid to comment on other's parenting. We went for lunch at the weekend at Wagamama's. Staff were lovely and helpful offered highchair etc sis was vocally demanding a certain table and being a bit precious IMO. We were sitting next to 6 young guys (same table) Sis whips boob out and BF baby. I (and our neigbours who were eating) could see boob, dripping nipple. When she announced loudly that baby had bitten nipple I offered to pass her a scarf to save the boys blushes. She refused and said she was often complimented on being a good role model for BF. AIBU to want to do things differently or is she right?

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Teenytiny · 01/06/2011 16:23

As I've said before i dont see the need to whip your boobs out for all to see whilst breastfeeding. its attention seeking, embarresing & unnessesery!....
i breastfed DD2 for 14months and fed many times in public places but never once got them out for all to have a good look, i wouldnt feel comfortable and im sure plenty of other people wouldnt...

Teenytiny · 01/06/2011 16:24

when people are saying dont like it dont look, its not the breastfeeding people dont like its the boobs out!!..its difficult not to look when someone is sitting in front/right beside you with their boobs out.

as i said its unnessisery!!..

RitaMorgan · 01/06/2011 16:31

I didn't realise breasts had some magnetic draw - do you find yourself staring at other parts of the body or is it just nipples?

When my ds was tiny I did worry loads about being discreet, fiddling around pulling tops up and down, getting flustered and usually getting a rubbish latch too. Now after 10 months of breastfeeding I just pull a boob out and get on with it - much quicker and easier.

Because actually, I don't care if some person staring at me sees some breast - no more than I care if they see some arm or ear. I'm not going to make my life more difficult just because some twat can't avert their gaze and is desperate to be offended.

BooyHoo · 01/06/2011 16:33

no it isn't difficult to not look at someone's breast. look at their bloody face instead!!! and if you aren't sitting at their table having a conversation with them then you have no reason to be looking anywhere near them, concentrate on your own food then you'll finish quicker and be able to get away from the crime against your senses!!

and can you PLEASE tell me how the fuck soemone 'whips' a boob anywhere? what is this whipping all about? nobody whips their boob out, the just remove the area of fabric that was covering it. no whipping involved.

Flisspaps · 01/06/2011 16:36

The fear of someone seeing one of my boobs and making some sort of remark to me was enough to stop me from breastfeeding; having to stay indoors to contstantly feed DD was starting to drive me bonkers and so I moved on to FF so that I could get out of the house. DD was just not possible to feed 'discreetly' and at 7 weeks we were still both getting the hang of it, there was no way had I fed her in public that someone wouldn't have seen something. Using a scarf just made it even trickier as I couldn't see what I or DD was doing.

Good on the OPs sister.

Teenytiny · 01/06/2011 16:40

Rita it is not difficult to breastfeed discresstly......its easy when you know how ;-)

CrapolaDeVille · 01/06/2011 16:41

Come on people, this is about balance. I think women should be able to bf wherever and whenever they like, but they are not the only people in the world and a baby would not suffer from a simple raising of a garment over a fully exposed breast. I wouldn't advocate a scarf tbh, but until I got the hang of feeding my children I ensured there was somewhere to feed them. I know that many people do find it embarrassing, whether they should or not is frankly none of my business.

CrapolaDeVille · 01/06/2011 16:42

Actually it is difficult to not look at an exposed breast, just like it's hard not to look at loads of things we don't see everyday.

Teenytiny · 01/06/2011 16:47

fliss its sad that you felt you had to give up breastfeeding because were worried what people would say!!....

BooyHoo · 01/06/2011 16:50

i see two exposed breasts everyday. i never feel my eyes being drawn to them. they are flesh the same as my face, arm, thigh, foot. ok so no two sets of breasts are the same but we all no the basic blue-print so what is it you think you are missing by not staring at a visible breast?

BooyHoo · 01/06/2011 16:50

know the basic blue-print

Teenytiny · 01/06/2011 16:52

I couldnt, i would be very uncomfortable people seeing my bare boobs out whilst feeding!!

CrapolaDeVille · 01/06/2011 16:55

It's not about what you're missing, I live with five penises but if I saw a naked man in the street I'd still look.....wouldn't you?

CrapolaDeVille · 01/06/2011 16:55

Just to add there are boys and men attached, I do not have a large collection of vibrators.

Teenytiny · 01/06/2011 16:55

agree with above

BooyHoo · 01/06/2011 16:56

tbh no!! penises are not pleasant to look at i wouldn't feel something drawing me to gawp. i have seen enough to know what they look like. i guess i just don't have an obsession with 'forbidden' body parts.

HaughtyChuckle · 01/06/2011 16:58

I envy people who BF in public I couldn't my rack is of a certain size where discretion would have been impossible.

but dripping nipple eurgh, not in a place where people are eating.

CrapolaDeVille · 01/06/2011 16:58

Perhaps you're a naturist Boo? I still find I'm drawn to such things, I have a curious mind.

Teenytiny · 01/06/2011 17:01

haughtychuckle do you mind me asking how big yours are??

to the other poster if i didnt like looking at my df penis i wouldnt be a lesbian lol

BooyHoo · 01/06/2011 17:03

had to google naturist there to make sure i was thinking of the right thing! erm, no, not a naturist. i feel the cold too much for that!

Teenytiny · 01/06/2011 17:05

muslin cloth's are great for breastfeeding to help you cover up a little

HaughtyChuckle · 01/06/2011 17:10

"haughtychuckle do you mind me asking how big yours are??"

a G cup why? are you a fellow busty girl

I don't doubt some people have suceeded but I would have had to grab my whold boob out and he took a while to attach IYSWIM alot of 'exposed time'

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Teenytiny · 01/06/2011 17:13

Yes busty not that big though lol. its a nightmare at first and i would get all flustered incase my boob pooped out i would be mortified. but its easier as time goes on. people stare when your not showing anyways lol

BooyHoo · 01/06/2011 17:18

" people stare when your not showing anyways lol"

which i think proves that it isn't the unsightly breast they object to. it's what the breast is doing.

HaughtyChuckle · 01/06/2011 17:19

I never get stared at lol

master of elusivity

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