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to suggest that my sister could cover boobs with a scarf....

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chocolatehobnobs · 31/05/2011 22:13

Sister has 2 DC 2 and 5 months. I am pg. She reckons she is the world expert on child rearing, never afraid to comment on other's parenting. We went for lunch at the weekend at Wagamama's. Staff were lovely and helpful offered highchair etc sis was vocally demanding a certain table and being a bit precious IMO. We were sitting next to 6 young guys (same table) Sis whips boob out and BF baby. I (and our neigbours who were eating) could see boob, dripping nipple. When she announced loudly that baby had bitten nipple I offered to pass her a scarf to save the boys blushes. She refused and said she was often complimented on being a good role model for BF. AIBU to want to do things differently or is she right?

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nannyl · 06/06/2011 22:08

Happy where do you think doctors learn and get their information from?

They are all educated in medicine, BY what scientists and other proffessionals have found.

newspapers are rubbish yes, but peer reviewed stuff is what the doctors use to make their opinions and advice.... and the doctors and specialist scientists are THE people who review it and make the guidance in the 1st place

5DollarShake · 06/06/2011 22:08

Your opinion is your opinion - it is not backed up by rigorous data and research.

TimeWasting · 06/06/2011 22:10

Adults don't need milk. They can drink it if they like. They don't need it.

And no, your opinions are not as equally valid. You have no experience and no understanding of the research. You have nothing to base your opinion on.

happy4eva · 06/06/2011 22:10

lol okay :)

molly45 · 06/06/2011 22:24

Do not feel dishearted HAPPY!

I do not agree with it either. 2 years far too old.
Do not feel bad for your view which of course is EQUAL. :)
How dare anyone say it is not!
SHAME ON YOU!

You have to bear in mind , some mums belive what they belive and will put down anyone who belives different :)

So chin up girl :)

StewieGriffinsMom · 06/06/2011 22:28

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TimeWasting · 06/06/2011 22:30

When studying for my degree we learnt that our opinions on our subject are not equal to those of the experts we referenced in our essays and dissertations.

No shame here sorry. Grin

Surely the person feeling shame should be the ones who know fuck all about this subject telling other mothers that what they are doing is wrong. Like you just did Molly.

5DollarShake · 06/06/2011 22:30

I didn't breastfeed DS until he was 2 but am still supporting those who did or are are doing so - so your rationale that 'some mums belive what they belive and will put down anyone who belives different' is complete nonsense molly45.

If you don't want to breastfeed until 2 years of age then don't, but don't tell others they are wrong for doing so. Especially when the World Health Organisation also recommends it.

molly45 · 06/06/2011 22:36

It is a equal view.
It was her view so it is just as ALLOWED as anyone elses which makes it EQUAL!

There is nothing wrong with bf a toddler but you do not have to.
It is the early stages of life that is the most important.
If you choice to then thats your own feelings but is not a must for baby.

molly45 · 06/06/2011 22:37

And not all experts belive it is right you know.

TimeWasting · 06/06/2011 22:40

So you just do the bare essentials when caring for you child then Molly?

It's not equal. Saying it is doesn't make it so. The WHO guidelines are based on lots of scientific research. My opinion is based on having read and understood the guidelines, plus having actually experienced feeding a toddler.
Happy's opinion is based on...?
Your opinion is based on... ?

TimeWasting · 06/06/2011 22:40

Which experts?

StewieGriffinsMom · 06/06/2011 22:44

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molly45 · 06/06/2011 22:53

The American Academy of Pediatrics advises mothers to breastfeed their babies for the first 6 to 12 months. The academy recommends beginning solids by 4 to 6 months and holding off on feeding babies cow's milk until they're one year of age. If breast milk is not available, infant formula is the only acceptable substitute. Dr. Ruth Lawrence, speaking for the AAP, says that no guidelines exist for when to stop breastfeeding--although around 12 months is most advisable as no more nutritional benifit is held it becomes a comfort which in many cases is hard to break and causes emotional distress for the child.

molly45 · 06/06/2011 22:54

:) everyone has different views you are not always right so lay off other mums who do things different ok

StewieGriffinsMom · 06/06/2011 22:55

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molly45 · 06/06/2011 22:57

i do not think we were just giving a differnt view then being told it was not allowed :)
people do it
people do not
Noone is better than anyone else so its ok :)

happy4eva · 06/06/2011 23:01

Thank you Molly i wouldnt of bothered with putting in a different "Exspert" view though do not think it will make a difference. Other peoples view are not equal
lol :)

molly45 · 06/06/2011 23:08

:)
It shut them up though didnt it.
Learnt the world is not so black and white :)

happy4eva · 06/06/2011 23:10

I was not being horrible , It was just somthing i had not really heard about or seen at such an older age was all :)
but each to their own

theinet · 06/06/2011 23:14

The behaviour in Wagamma is absolutely disgusting.

I've nothing against breastfeeding, but people are sat on a communal table, eating a meal.

Your sister should have had some respect for them instead of selfishly imposing herself like that.

The only upside is i expect breastfeeding the baby kept it from crying and ruining their meal that way.

chipmonkey · 06/06/2011 23:19

happy4eva, having bfed two of mine past two, I can tell you they have had no issues whatsoever with being separated from me. They have both, in fact, attended nursery since they were 6 months old and ds3 was definitely not clinging to my legs on the first day of school, unlike his little friend who was formula fed from birth (NOT saying it was formula that caused the clinginess, she was just that sort of child!Grin)

Longtalljosie · 06/06/2011 23:20

Sorry Molly, views are not "equal". They're not a free-for-all. I wouldn't walk up to an eminent scientist and tell him I "reckoned" he was wrong just because "all views are equal". Nonsense. If they are, what's the point in going to school. You'll find on MN if you state something as fact, you'll be expected to back it up with a source, so people can evaluate it's merit. In this case, I think the AAP woman is talking utter nonsense. If giving up breastfeeding is traumatic for some children, it'll be far harder pre-12 months before they can understand or be distracted. The advice also runs contrary to the WHO advice.

theinet · 06/06/2011 23:21

Breast feeding needs to be discreet and done with dignity. Your sister did neither, she showed off her dripping breasts in public to young men, purely as shock value.

Longtalljosie · 06/06/2011 23:22

Gah! Bloody iPhone. ? after school and its not it's