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to suggest that my sister could cover boobs with a scarf....

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chocolatehobnobs · 31/05/2011 22:13

Sister has 2 DC 2 and 5 months. I am pg. She reckons she is the world expert on child rearing, never afraid to comment on other's parenting. We went for lunch at the weekend at Wagamama's. Staff were lovely and helpful offered highchair etc sis was vocally demanding a certain table and being a bit precious IMO. We were sitting next to 6 young guys (same table) Sis whips boob out and BF baby. I (and our neigbours who were eating) could see boob, dripping nipple. When she announced loudly that baby had bitten nipple I offered to pass her a scarf to save the boys blushes. She refused and said she was often complimented on being a good role model for BF. AIBU to want to do things differently or is she right?

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nannyl · 05/06/2011 22:27

ohnoudidnt youd be very welcome to move tables if i was breastfeeding too.

I'd have no issue with you (or anyone else) moving either.

Of course your attitude towards my baby feeding would be what made you decide to move.

World health organisation recommends babies should be breast fed until 2 years (with other foods from 6 months) so I dont get why people have a problem with even 2 year olds feeding, when its what WHO recommend to all human beings on this earth Confused

Cosmosis · 06/06/2011 09:17

I don?t understand trying to wean babies and toddlers from comfort items either, we seem far far to keen to get children to grow up in this country ? and then complain when they are ?mini adults?.

chipmonkey · 06/06/2011 09:35

They are still babies at two though. You wouldn't stop giving them cuddles at two or take their teddy away, would you? With ds3 and ds4, I only gave up bf because I couldn't get pg again while bfing ( I know some women can but I coudln't!) and it was very upsetting for me to see them so upset.

happy4eva · 06/06/2011 21:17

I thought it was 6 months thats what everyone says though... There is no reason why you have to give up when they are on a full diet but you also do not have to carry on

nannyl · 06/06/2011 21:20

but milk is the MAIN component of the diet for the 1st 12 months

before 12 months food is for fun and its milk that really counts.

After 12 months, they need LESS milk, but even then breast milk is best and what WHO recommends until 2 years

happy4eva · 06/06/2011 21:20

dummies and bottles are discourage at around 2 so are blankets im not sure why somthing about helping toddlers get out of the baby pharse
I know my 1DD stopped her horrible trantums when i got her off her bottle she would scream and throw herself on the floor but when we got rid of the bottle she suddenly just stopped .. :)

happy4eva · 06/06/2011 21:23

no i do not agree with that maybe in some under ones.
My 1DD went down to 2 cups of milk a day at 7 months because she would not drink anymore she prefered her meals.
2DD is now 11 months and is on one cup a day three meals and two snacks .
Do not see how milk is the MAIN source in their diets.

TimeWasting · 06/06/2011 21:24

Putting the milk into a cup instead of a bottle is very different to stopping milk altogether.

happy4eva · 06/06/2011 21:25

no i was just saying it was not their main source of nutrition

TimeWasting · 06/06/2011 21:31

That's the thing, it is recommended that children have milk in their diet until they're at least 3 (or maybe it's 5?) even though it's not their sole source of nutrition.
Human milk is better for them than cow milk, and if they get comfort too, then all the better. Smile

happy4eva · 06/06/2011 21:43

each to their own i guess :)

O and it would not bother to see a mummy bf by the way although in my whole life i think i have seen it about once lol.
And even that time it was not out in public it was a friend. :)

But maybe thats because most mothers i know including myself go into a another room not because we have to, i just prefered it being quiet so it was just me and baby. :)

happy4eva · 06/06/2011 21:44

nobody like a lot of noise when eating :)
And i defo do not like being starred at lol

RitaMorgan · 06/06/2011 21:49

The recommendation is 6 months exclusive breastfeeding, and then breastfeeding alongside food til 2.

At 6 months milk is 100% nutrition, at 12 months it is 50/50.

Obviously you don't have to breastfeed at any age, there is always an alternative - so whether you don't breastfeed at all or breastfeed for 6 months or 2 years is a personal choice.

You're recommended to get rid of the bottle by 12 months as it is bad for their teeth, and dummies can also effect teeth and speech development. Luckily breastfeeding doesn't have these drawbacks, so it is a great source or comfort as well as nutrition Grin

Basically there is no need to wean a child off the breast at 6 months, 12 months, 2 years etc, and it still has benefits - it's up to the mother and child.

happy4eva · 06/06/2011 21:54

At 6 months milk is 100% nutrition

Sorry this was not the case with mine
If it was then i must of straved my children it was their choice not to drink much but they were nutrtional full up with their food.
So they must not of needed it as they are healthy and happy still to this day. :)

RitaMorgan · 06/06/2011 21:55

OK, sure - I'm talking about the official NHS/WHO guidelines though rather than an individual baby.

happy4eva · 06/06/2011 21:56

and personally i think 2 years is too old to still be breastfed there is no need you will just get a separation issues alot worse when you stop.

StewieGriffinsMom · 06/06/2011 21:57

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RitaMorgan · 06/06/2011 21:58

Most 2 year olds still need milk happy.

TimeWasting · 06/06/2011 22:00

You may personally think that, the World Health Organisation and millions of mothers and children with experience if it would certainly disagree.

Sorry, but all opinions are not equal.

happy4eva · 06/06/2011 22:03

Ask a doctor honest you will get a different answer and i follow doctors rather than "scientists" or newspaper articles.
We as adults also need milk ... so thats abit of a dull argument

happy4eva · 06/06/2011 22:04

And my thoughts on a subject is just as equal as anyone else. :)

5DollarShake · 06/06/2011 22:04

happy4eva - this is not true. I am not an attachment parent myself (or at least not 100% although I do agree with many tenets of it) but I think you will find that children of attachment parents are less clingy; not more.

I would also venture that you're at serious risk of embarrassing yourself by making such declarations about breastfeeding when you have no direct experience of it. People are free to do whatever they think is best for their children; what you may think there is 'no need for', others will vehemently disagree with, as they are entitled to do. :)

If you agree that two year olds can and should drink milk as part of their daily nutrition, then there is no better milk than from their own species. Of course there are alternatives which i myself used, by why are some people so desperate for our own species' milk to be seen as something to be moved away from? Confused

RitaMorgan · 06/06/2011 22:05

No happy, adults don't need milk. Milk is for infant mammals - adult mammals don't need milk. Some societies don't drink animal milk, it is just a cultural thing.

nannyl · 06/06/2011 22:05

well said timewasting Smile

Happy4eva thinks its too old, fine, but WHO and almost all medical proffesional world wide who have researched extensively conclude other wise.

Im with WHO on this one too. Grin

wondering how many 2 year olds who have still been breastfeeding at 2 years Happy4eva is basing her opinion about seperation issues on?

StewieGriffinsMom · 06/06/2011 22:06

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