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Original poster

to think oh should have deleted his teenage porn use

111 replies

bumbelinarara · 31/05/2011 18:22

So that me and the kids were not subjected to it first thing this morning when I went on Media Player. Should I be worried that it is 'teenage?'. He reassures me it is fine and just a title but I do feel quite uncomfortable.

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LiverpoolLeap · 31/05/2011 18:24

Seriously?

Um, yeah, probably you should be worried.

GypsyMoth · 31/05/2011 18:25

yes,i would too...

GypsyMoth · 31/05/2011 18:25

were they teenage children? or adults posing as teens?

WillYouTellMe · 31/05/2011 18:26

oh yuk. Did your children actually see it?

I bet he reassures you it's "fine". I think it is awful and it would seriously disturb me if DH did a search for teenage pornography.

LiverpoolLeap · 31/05/2011 18:26

Adults posing as teens would be legal, but still yucky. Really yucky.

saffy85 · 31/05/2011 18:27

I am in no way anti porn but I would be livid if that popped up on my computer, especially if DD was hanging around as she often does.

As for the teenage in the title, from what I can gather, most of them haven't been teenagers for a good long while, they're just dressed like them because it appeals to certain people.

In short YANBU. He should have deleted it.

TidyDancer · 31/05/2011 18:27

I'm one of the ones who has no issue with porn per se, but I bloody would have an issue with this!

Him leaving it for you and the children to find is more worrying than the title tbh, but that does concern me too.

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bumbelinarara · 31/05/2011 18:28

adults posing I guess but does that make it OK?

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LiverpoolLeap · 31/05/2011 18:28

If you suspect they are actually underage, that's a whole different (and awesomely disturbing) situation.

And frankly I wouldn't be so concerned about him deleting it, more about him using it in the first place. And telling the little woman that it's just fine.

saffy85 · 31/05/2011 18:32

It's legal for someone to pretend to be a teenager getting fucked senseless, but anyone under 18 would be very illegal indeed.

Only you can decide if you're fine with your DH using porn. It doesn't bother me if my DP does as long as I don't find the evidence of it and more importantly, our DC don't. Your DH has no right to tell you to be fine with it, or that you should be fine with it. I'm a firm believer in different strokes for different folks. Not everyone feels the same about this stuff. Nothing wrong with either opinion.

EricNorthmansMistress · 31/05/2011 18:37

Even if they weren't actual teenagers, isn't it pretty disgusting that the idea of teenagers turns him on?

I'm not completely opposed to porn per se but I could never ever enjoy something where 1) the women looked, or were described as, or treated as young or 2) there was any kind of degrading language or actions. I think there is something odd about enjoying that.

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bumbelinarara · 31/05/2011 18:38

i guess it is the word teenage i have a problem with. We are both in late 30s. Also i am very cross it was left for us all to find, but that was obviously an accident.

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squeakytoy · 31/05/2011 18:39

isn't it pretty disgusting that the idea of teenagers turns him on?

depends on his age... if he is in his 20's then no.... if he is in his 50's, yes.

HorseWhisperer · 31/05/2011 18:41

Yanbu. I think being turned on by the idea of teenage girls is very weird.

worraliberty · 31/05/2011 18:48

I've got no problem with porn at all and as someone else said, most of these 'teens' haven't been teenagers for a long time!

But leaving the kids to find it is bloody irresponsible.

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bumbelinarara · 31/05/2011 19:04

apparently I should just be letting it go

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Hassled · 31/05/2011 19:06

I wouldn't bloody let that go. Teenage porn, FFS? Left so your kids could see it? What a twat.

GypsyMoth · 31/05/2011 19:07

he likes women who dress as children!!

MmeLindor. · 31/05/2011 19:07

YABU to be only concerned about the fact that he did not delete it.

"Teenage" porn - why would a 30+ man want to see that?

worraliberty · 31/05/2011 19:07

Hasn't he got a personal laptop or something he can use? I mean other than the family computer?

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bumbelinarara · 31/05/2011 19:09

He is apologising til he is blue in the face!... And he loves me

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worraliberty · 31/05/2011 19:10

How do you work that out Tiffany? I see little difference to how teenagers dress compared to women in their early 20's.

Bear in mind, the 'teens' are over 18.

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bumbelinarara · 31/05/2011 19:11

In his defence, I don't think they were teenagers ( I looked) but the title sends shivers down my spine "All Star Teens"

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TheOriginalFAB · 31/05/2011 19:11

Calm down ILT Hmm.

Teenagers are not children in the way you mean.

YANBU and he should have definitely not have left anything that your children might see.

GreenEyesandHam · 31/05/2011 19:14

I'd be spitting feathers. It wouldn't make any difference if the participants weren't actually teens, just that he'd searched or even clicked on it would be enough for me.

To then leave it for you and the children to find shows a complete lack of respect and responsibility

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