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to think oh should have deleted his teenage porn use

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bumbelinarara · 31/05/2011 18:22

So that me and the kids were not subjected to it first thing this morning when I went on Media Player. Should I be worried that it is 'teenage?'. He reassures me it is fine and just a title but I do feel quite uncomfortable.

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worraliberty · 31/05/2011 19:15

OP does your DH have a personal laptop/PC he can use?

thegruffalosma · 31/05/2011 19:17

Unless you're particularly looking for bored housewives or geriatrics the 'stars' are, in the main, going to be in their late teens/early twenties or at least fairly youthful looking. The fact he searched for teenagers means he wanted them to look young - very young. I would find that extremely disturbing.

ScrotalPantomime · 31/05/2011 19:19

Yuk. Yanbu

And I say that as someone with a much older DH - I was 15 when we met. He wouldnt even vaguely entertain the idea of teen porn though. Or any porn, to be fair.

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bumbelinarara · 31/05/2011 19:22

yes he does, but is a work one so he wouldn't dare look at it there. He knows I have posted on here and is feeling very victimised. This is the 2nd time i have found the word teenage regarding his porn use. He says it is no big deal and there are loads of titles like that, but surely there are loads of titles not like that. I honestly don't know what to do. Yes, my children did see a bit, and I clicked it off as quickly as i could under the pressure and mumbled that i didn't know what it was and quickly changed the subject. I don't really have a problem with porn, I think its a bit seedy on your own, but understandable at times. I don't know.

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bumbelinarara · 31/05/2011 19:26

you know, i really did hope that some comments would say iam bu as mumsnet can have loads of opinions. I'm not sure what to do with the fact that you all think it is gross!

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TidyDancer · 31/05/2011 19:28

Which part of this is he defending? I mean, is he saying it's acceptable that he left it to be found by you and the DCs?

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bumbelinarara · 31/05/2011 19:30

no, he has admitted that was unacceptable, which Ican forgive. It is the teen bit that he states he was not looking for, but which most sites are.

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worraliberty · 31/05/2011 19:31

We don't all think it's gross.

I just think he should not have left it for the children to find.

Other than that, as long as the models are over 18 I don't see the problem as you'll find most of them are really aged between 18 and late 20's.

thegruffalosma · 31/05/2011 19:34

That's bollocks. Teen and barely legal are specific categories for people who like to look at very young looking girls but don't want to risk breaking the law. There is plenty of porn that isn't like that because the majority of men don't want to look at girls that look below the legal age. Is he saying that he tried to look at some 'normal' porn and the teen stuff just came up with no prior warning? Because that would also be bollocks.

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bumbelinarara · 31/05/2011 19:36

They didn't look underage, but certainly not yet 20

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worraliberty · 31/05/2011 19:36

Well unless we see the actual website we'll never know if they looked very young or if they looked like the usual 20 somethings pretending to be younger.

LRDTheFeministDragon · 31/05/2011 19:36

He's feeling victimized?! Bloody heck, I've heard it all now.

Surely, if he knows that you feel uncomfortable with what he is doing, out of courtesy (if not for other, excellent reasons), he should stop? Saying 'oh, but there are loads of titles like that' doesn't make it ok.

He's only having a wank. I'm sure he can master the very difficult art of doing that without the aid of teenage girls if he really, really tries.

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bumbelinarara · 31/05/2011 19:37

I would guess 18/19. Still find it gross though!

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worraliberty · 31/05/2011 19:37

I'm confused now OP. How old would you say they actually looked? Bearing in mind they have to be legally 18 to work in the industry.

worraliberty · 31/05/2011 19:38

X Posted Smile

Pandemoniaa · 31/05/2011 19:38

I'm not sure there's any real justification for men who aren't teenagers themselves wanting to watch teenage porn. I'm open minded about most things but 30 year old men leering over (allegedly) barely legal girls is not one of them.

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bumbelinarara · 31/05/2011 19:38

I would say they are 18 or over. Please look if you are not offended.

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GreenEyesandHam · 31/05/2011 19:42

I'm sure many of them are mid twenties pretending to be teens, that's not the point (or it wouldn't be the point for me)

It would be that he was looking for 'teenage'. Urgh

TidyDancer · 31/05/2011 19:42

This seems to be entering the schoolgirl fantasy outfit territory that was covered the other day. But to a greater degree.

I have no problem with porn, as I said on the other thread, I also have no problem with dressing up, but I think if the OP's DH has looked at the porn specifically because the girls are teenagers (or pretending to be), there could be a problem.

GypsyMoth · 31/05/2011 19:44

TheOriginalFAB Tue 31-May-11 19:11:52
Calm down ILT .

Teenagers are not children in the way you mean.

oh reallyHmmhope YOU dont have girls then!! with that attitude.
go on then....what do i mean? theres a thin line...

op,i get what you mean. theres teenage stuff which is very specific (and my cafcass officer was concerned when i mentioned the ex viewed this)and there is the more normal,run of the mill stuff with older women.....20's,30's.
he had choices. he chose young,and how the hell does anyone know the true age of them anyway.

GypsyMoth · 31/05/2011 19:45

school uniforms?? children then!!Hmm

worraliberty · 31/05/2011 19:46

I don't know. Obviously I'm just thinking out loud but....

In the porn industry there are an awful lot of 'plastic' looking women. Implants that look like half water melons, botox, collagen lips, fake tans and fake hair etc...

Perhaps the attraction of 'teen porn' is that it's more 'natural' and 'girl nextdoor' type?

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bumbelinarara · 31/05/2011 19:49

He says he didn't deliberately choose this site because it was teenagers, but because the particular company makes good stuff. But he did have to click on those words. OK, thanks for your advice everyone, but what should I now do?

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TheOriginalFAB · 31/05/2011 19:52

Don't even go there ILT Angry.

magicmelons · 31/05/2011 19:52

Sorry "Teen" porn would be a massive deal breaker for me and i consider myself pretty liberal. Having met some 19-20ish year old strippers lately and thought that all that make up fake boobs hair extensions made them look much older than their years i can't imagine what the girls who are advertised as "teens" must look like or how old they are.

By all means search for girl next door porn if you like the natural look but not actively seek out girls acting out the fantasy of a guy shagging a teen.