to think that DD is promiscuous and unreasonable?

[dangerousdebbie1]

DD, been going out with boyfriend for six weeks. She only turned 17 nine days ago. DD met her boyfriend at a guiding / scouting convention and they hit it off. Unfortunately, he lives 81 miles away in Nottingham. Anyway, just had a blazing row with DH and DD as DD announces that boyfriend is coming to visit next weekend and when I asked her where she thought he would sleep, she looked at me with aghast, and said in my bed of course.

Rightly or wrongly, I said over my dead body. I told DD in no uncertain terms that this was our home and not a brothel. DH says i'm out of order and reminded me that this is 2011 and not 1951.

I have been in tears over this. Sorry, but it wouldn't matter if she was 17 or 21, she isn't married so I will not let her share a bed in my house. Am confused.

Totally agree with garlic butter!

listeningstick

I'm with you here. What I find most unnerving, is the fact that people should think i'm a troll. Well pardon me, if I don't want my home treated as a seedy hotel. Yes, I have priniples, which I genuinely believe in. What is so wrong with me being against sex before marriage? We have the highest teenage pregnancy rate in Europe, ffs.

If my mum spoke to me like that id be well pissed off.

I don't think you're a troll. I think you're a bigot. Does that help?

erm - tethersend - I don't like to intrude, but {whispers} did you know you are talking to yourself???

I met DH when I was 16 and we will be sharing our 24th wedding anniversary next month.

We were not allowed to sleep together when he stayed and in fact I was not allowed to sleep in my own house that I paid the mortgage on before we got married - DH had moved in two months before we got married.

I will not be like this with my sons.

Oh, I missed the bit about tether's sock

Anyway, my reply stands - for the illumination of any residually Victorian parents who might actually be thinking to Lock Up Their Daughters

Sorry but not having sex before marriage is stupid, you need to know you are compatible sexually, nothing worse than waiting until the wedding night and finding out he has three bollocks and no cock, or he is adverse to giving head and it's all lay on your back shit.

Sorry, sex before marriage is a must.

Dangerousdebbie - if you're a real poster then why are you obsessing about one or two people calling you a troll, and ignoring the good advice of hundreds of posters who think that comparing your daughter to a prostitute is a totally unacceptable way to behave?

Or did you just post on this thread to get lots of cross responses and a tete a tete with the one person on mumsnet who registered specially for the opportunity to agree with you?

Oh Fabby that did make me

sex before marriage.......you sound draconian!!!

theyoungvisiter

Most bizzarre.

Yeah, yeah. Sex before marriage is sooooo out there. I mean, just watch the Jeremy Vile show!!

what's bizarre is that you started this thread saying you were in tears adn confused - yet you've completely failed to respond to any advice about treating your daughter with respect, and instead you've just posted one line thank yous to a single poster who happens to agree with your every word.

What exactly did you hope for in starting this thread?

Well folly they might be tiny! and not know what to do with it!

theyoungvisiter

For sensible advice not silly posts.

Can't you be a bit more arsey DD ?

Throw a few more insults around ?

I hope they fuck on the sofa in front of the frankly insane OP.

I thought this site was for rational discussion not character assassination...

Or should that be rant-ional discussion!

Are there a couple of pissed MNers frantically name changing backwards and forwards whilst giggling drunkenly to each other? I am really, really confused.

tethersend:

I can't believe some people think you're talking to yourself. Ignore them.

You got plenty of sensible advice. You ignored it all.

Or did you only want "sensible" advice to chuck the kid out and trash all her possessions, after performing a home clitorectomy? Or advice on how to arrange a shotgun wedding before the weekend?

Hmm?