to think that DD is promiscuous and unreasonable?

[dangerousdebbie1]

DD, been going out with boyfriend for six weeks. She only turned 17 nine days ago. DD met her boyfriend at a guiding / scouting convention and they hit it off. Unfortunately, he lives 81 miles away in Nottingham. Anyway, just had a blazing row with DH and DD as DD announces that boyfriend is coming to visit next weekend and when I asked her where she thought he would sleep, she looked at me with aghast, and said in my bed of course.

Rightly or wrongly, I said over my dead body. I told DD in no uncertain terms that this was our home and not a brothel. DH says i'm out of order and reminded me that this is 2011 and not 1951.

I have been in tears over this. Sorry, but it wouldn't matter if she was 17 or 21, she isn't married so I will not let her share a bed in my house. Am confused.

tethersend:

Some people are discreetly trying to belittle your razor sharp wit. Thankfully, most of us can see your true genius.

"What is so wrong with me being against sex before marriage? We have the highest teenage pregnancy rate in Europe, ffs."

Funnily enough, the lowest rates are mainly in countries where they do not have the same negative attitudes towards sex before marriage.

"I'll be even unhappier with a pregnant daughter of 17, with no future."

Which is why you don't want to be a in a position where you can't talk to your dd about contraceptives.

Just because she has inter ourselves with her boyfriend, doesn't mean she will get pregnant. There are millions of people out there who have sex and don't. It's called USING CONTRACEPTION.

Tethers makes a very valid point.
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Op have you considered buying a wig just in case?

The majority of 17 year olds are having sex, yet a minority get pregnant. Go figure!

That's a shame LeQ :( you should have come to the meet up and watched FellatioNelson dance to The Rolling Stones.

What exactly does her dad have to say about things?

@ TethersEnd.

OP, buy your DD one of these and keep her in it for the next fifty years.

HTH.

Saggyoldclothcatpuss what is "inter ourselves"?

Sounds like a yoofemism to me

DH and I had sex 6 weeks after we started dating and had known each other for 4 months. We were both 16. I never got pregnant, we both finished our education and got good jobs.

Both my mum and dad had no problem with dh staying in my room because as they both said, to not allow us would make them hypocrites. My mum even said that she preferred us to be in the house safe, than in the places and situations she used to end up because her parents wouldn't allow boyfriends in the house. As dh had much younger brothers and sisters and shared a room, it would never have been appropriate to stay there so we never even asked.

We are still together, we married when we were 20 and ds followed a year later. I'm not religious, just preferred to do it that way round.

I consider that we never ran into any trouble because we were both well educated by our parents about safe sex.

To call your daughter promiscuous for having 1 boyfriend is ridiculous and YABVVU on that front! However if you do not want him staying then it is up to you. They will find other places to have sex though and you can't stop them.

Errr... promiscusous means sleeping with lots of different people; not with your bf but it's your house so your rules.

intercourse! effing iPhone!

Careful, LeQueen! Sounds a bit promiscuous to me

Interesting that you are so convinced your DD will wind up pregnant - do you have so little faith in her? You also seem to have zero confidence in your own parenting and the influence you have on her - how sad.
I remember being inept at raising this issue with my mum as a teenager and handling it very badly - i'm glad she wasn't as incendiary as you.
You're entitled to feel strongly but in the heat of the moment you over reacted massively - your DD is at an age where she is still learning how to negotiate adult relationships - and that includes with you..

Yes Mrs Taylor must have been quaking in her boots. I expect Mrs Le Bon was having a wobble too, one whiff of your artfully arranged mohair and softly lit lamps those Duran boys would have been hungry like the Wolf.

Oh I do love a good Threadjack :o

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Contraception is not healthy or natural especially for a young girl of 17. Much better be taught how to have self esteem and not be common.

Op my patents had the same views and he slept on the sofa. And of course I never went downstairs in the middle ofctge night

Oops serious cross posts I cannot keep up.