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AIBU?

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Original poster

To not be ashamed...

304 replies

GirlFriendExperience · 22/05/2011 14:32

That I'm an escort girl/call girl/high class prositute (whatever you want to call it) ...

I love my job, I'm very good at it, I pay taxes, it's not illegal and I help a lot of people. So why should I spend my life apologising for it/lying about it/defending myself??

  • Yes have name changed in case I get flamed... which in itself is depressing!
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frantic51 · 22/05/2011 15:13

I don't know, LadyOfTheManor, I never think about it. I do people the courtesy of allowing them to live their lives and not judging them for it, unless they're actually criminals or what they do directly affects me and mine. I certainly don't go about preaching and projecting my values as the values they ought to have. Nor do I accuse anyone of lying if they tell me they're happy with something just because their life choice doesn't suit me

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GirlFriendExperience · 22/05/2011 15:15

Ahh god offered to send website (most independent escorts have one) to prove I'm not a journo!! Mazmus...am perfectly happy otherwise wouldn't have done this thread... name changed to avoid this coming back to bite be when I'm chucking my opinion in to other threads :-p Chose name change Girlfirend Experience, because its a service thats offered and is widely known in the trade - hasty namechange, many other acronyms I could have used!!

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ashamedandconfused · 22/05/2011 15:15

OP, of all the possible things you could have started a thread about today, why this? if you are totally happy with your life and decision to do what you do, but know it is misunderstood, frowned upon, or unpopular, why start an AIBU about it?

dittany · 22/05/2011 15:16

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GirlFriendExperience · 22/05/2011 15:16

bupcakesandcunting market for everything! you have my favourite name!!

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Nancy66 · 22/05/2011 15:17

Let's see your website then

dittany · 22/05/2011 15:17

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SecretNutellaFix · 22/05/2011 15:18

If you were not ashamed then why did you feel the need to start this thread? To brag?

I don't give a monkeys what you do, just as you don't give a monkeys what other people do. Hence this thread is just attention seeking. In my opinion.

FuppyGish · 22/05/2011 15:19

You're just so modern aren't you? Hmm

Why not get a job where you use your intellect??

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GirlFriendExperience · 22/05/2011 15:20

:( just wanted to see what people in cyber space thought :( like I said sick of the raised eyebrows of shitty beaurocrats... sorry will slink off now.
Recruiting?? Why on earth would I want to recruit competition??

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strawberrymewmew · 22/05/2011 15:21

I am only going to post what I am about to say as a forewarning to the OP.

I worked as an escort for a short time, and when I had started doing it, it was really because I had no choice. However once in the job and making silly amounts of money, I started to tell myself that I actually enjoyed it and eventually I started to believe it. It was only in the later months of it, I truely realised I hated it and that the only reason I was telling myself otherwise was the fear of not being able to provide for myself.

In reality, I was mentally crushed. In the same ways Mamazon talks about her friend. I feel like I am only now starting to move on, but I would have been nicer to myself allowing myself to starve rather than do that job.

I am ashamed of what I did and would no longer try and make excuses to make myself feel better.

And Nancy In answer to your question. No sex worker is safe, no matter where they are working. My worst experience was in a very fancy hotel suite.

microfight · 22/05/2011 15:21

I agree dittany, the thought of having a man I didn't fancy penetrate me or writhe on top of me makes me want to vomit.

Nancy66 · 22/05/2011 15:22

strawberry - that sounds horrible. Well done for getting out of the business.

strawberrymewmew · 22/05/2011 15:23

And OP, I posted that knowing that I will probably be flamed and treated differently in threads from now on. If you were truely honest in what you say you wouldn't have namechanged. Or maybe you just haven't realised what you believe isn't how you actually feel.

CravingExcitement · 22/05/2011 15:26

Op, who are these "shitty bureaucrats" of who you speak?

dittany · 22/05/2011 15:26

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beesimo · 22/05/2011 15:27

I do actually care about what you do and hope you can one day find the strength and courage to turn away from this self destructive sad lonely way of life. You are treating your body with as much value as if it was a rotting piece of meat not your sacred self. I don't know the roads that have led you here put they are ways out I wish better for you.

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GirlFriendExperience · 22/05/2011 15:27

Why does not wanting to get flamed make any difference to whether I enjoy my job? If I knew I was going to get flamed for being an accountant or a careworker I would also name change despite not being ashamed! How you felt strawberrymewmew is not how I feel - what right have you to assume it is?

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GirlFriendExperience · 22/05/2011 15:29

dittany like I say - buying a house at the moment, and the council and the checks from the solicitors primarily!

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CravingExcitement · 22/05/2011 15:29

so are you saying you enjoy having sex with whoever will pay? Really? Whether you find them attractive or not? Whether they are a nice person or not? It doesn't sound like a fun job to me.

worraliberty · 22/05/2011 15:32

If you want to be taken seriously you should say this shit in your usual nickname....otherwise your thread reads like a million other troll threads on the internet.

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LadyOfTheManor · 22/05/2011 15:32

While I'm all up for the feminist movement and blaming men for everything possibly wrong with some silly women's decision making; however I'm off the opinion that some women make their own fate.

The OP chooses to be a hole for various men to rent. She is happy with this. She has posted on here, to what? Tell us that her property solicitor raised their eyebrows?

If she is happy to do such a scummy disgusting "job" and thinks it's perfectly safe, then more fool her.

LadyOfTheManor · 22/05/2011 15:33
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LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 22/05/2011 15:33

I agree with Dittany too, it's almost a 'misery loves company' comparison, in my view. :(

I feel very sad for women who do this and think they're the ones in control. They aren't, the men are.

aliceliddell · 22/05/2011 15:38

Lol Primroses - but that is what the sex industry tells men they can expect from a real girlfriend - a woman who doesn't mind being employed as a wank puppet, who is compliant with m,en's wishes and makes no demands on them. My cousin has a great job for a well known aeronautics firm, they sponsored his degree and he earns shed loads and has a (hideous) sports car etc. He as an individual did very well. Does that mean we support the arms trade? His particular firm is notorious for dealing with repressive regimes, the ones with occupied town squares that you see on the news. His work helps guide the missiles into the pro-democracy protesters. Do I want him to keep his safe, well-paid job? No. Do I feel wholly justified in my moral and political opposition to him doing it? Yes I bloody do! Do I think he has a right to do what he wants because 'it's legal'? No. Because what he does costs other people too much and he never has to see that.