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To not be ashamed...

304 replies

GirlFriendExperience · 22/05/2011 14:32

That I'm an escort girl/call girl/high class prositute (whatever you want to call it) ...

I love my job, I'm very good at it, I pay taxes, it's not illegal and I help a lot of people. So why should I spend my life apologising for it/lying about it/defending myself??

  • Yes have name changed in case I get flamed... which in itself is depressing!
OP posts:
Mamaz0n · 22/05/2011 14:54

I have a friend who is an escort. She will tell you she is happy with it, good at it and helping people.

Difference is that i know just what an emotionally damaged young girl she is. how utterly destroyed her soul is and indeed was to have made her chose this path in life.

BUt if you wish to live in dnial then that is up to you. If you are certain you are happy with your decision then why lie? or feel ashamed of it?

My theory is that people only lie if theyhave something to hide, people only hide what theyknow to be wrong.

If its not wrong then why hide it or lie about it?

izzywhizzyletsgetbusy · 22/05/2011 14:55

"So why should I spend my life apologising for it/lying about it/defending myself??"

Who is asking you to apologise, lie, or defend yourself for having chosen your current profession?

Our life choices may not always be unreservedly endorsed or approved of by others, but I would have thought that fact would be the least important of your particular occupational hazards.

bupcakesandcunting · 22/05/2011 14:56

Yay girl POWER!

Or something.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 22/05/2011 14:57

I think you do actually feel ashamed, otherwise why would you write the post in the first place? What difference will anybody else's opinion made? Hmm

strawberrymewmew · 22/05/2011 14:57

Selling sex is legal in the UK, as long as it is on an outcalls only basis or incalls with no more than one person working, otherwise where you work would be considered a brothel. It is also illegal to sell sex on the street.

If you keep it legal and pay taxes and are doing it because you want to and only because you want to, then I see no problem with it. Each to their own and all that jazz.

dickiedavisthunderthighs · 22/05/2011 14:57

Bloody hell, features writers aint half getting lazy.

frantic51 · 22/05/2011 14:58

Wow, you have the gift of second sight MamzOn? You know the state of people's souls better than they do themselves? As Onagar said you have to name change on here because certain folk will hate you for it and will interact with accordingly in all threads. She's a happy hooker. They exist. Deal with it!

Original poster
GirlFriendExperience · 22/05/2011 15:02

Ha defnitely not a journo!! will send you my website if you like!! Name changed because I post a lot and if people did get upset about it I didn't want it getting harked back to everytime I posted! Haven't been on Mumsnet long - sorry if this has been done-and-done-again...just buying a house at the moment and depsite the fact that I really do do everything above board (I used to be an accountant) I'm just so SICK of the raised eyebrows of the pissy little beaurocrats...

OP posts:
Mamaz0n · 22/05/2011 15:02

err yes actaully i do.

having spent hundreds of hours over the years listening to her cry her heart out. listen to her talk about relationships and her desire to just be loved.

She has equated sex with affection.

We have spoken at lengths and she agrees with all i have said to her. But she is yet to be in a position where she is able to save herself form her life.

3 suicide attempts in the past year etc.

so fuck off with your patronising.

Liek i said, if OP really was 100% happy with her life and her choices then fair do's. But if that were the case there would be no namechanging, there would be n lying and deceiving. she would be out and proud.

microfight · 22/05/2011 15:03

Helping people? Loose definition of a prostitutes job if there ever was one. It's no different than a banker saying their job is helping people which loosely they are.

dickiedavisthunderthighs · 22/05/2011 15:04

I don't really understand what you want to get out of this thread if that's the case OP?

MumblingRagDoll · 22/05/2011 15:04

Isn't this OP just stealthily advertising a website? Their username is also a well known website. note their offer to "send my website" Hmm

MumblingRagDoll · 22/05/2011 15:06

Oh no...I see it is the title of a movie.

frantic51 · 22/05/2011 15:06

Fine, if that's your experience of your friend MamazOn but where do you get off projecting onto the OP?

"BUt if you wish to live in dnial then that is up to you. If you are certain you are happy with your decision then why lie? or feel ashamed of it?"

So fuck off with your patronising. You started it Biscuit

strawberrymewmew · 22/05/2011 15:07

Mumbling Her username is a reference to a term used by escorts, so doesn't particuarly mean she is on that website.

And if they were just advertising a website, I imagine there are much better places than MN to do so.

LadyOfTheManor · 22/05/2011 15:08

this?

Original poster
GirlFriendExperience · 22/05/2011 15:09

PS LadyofTheManor and other cuplrits am well aware I work in the sex trade and AM a sex worker..not that naive, I just said 'high class' to differentiate myself from the 'working corners' (Thank you Deesus) in regards to safety, client base, hygiene and legality. Mazmus do not presume to comment on my emotional health!

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LadyOfTheManor · 22/05/2011 15:09

Frantic how many women do you think wake up one day, with their perfect lives and say;

"I'm going to be a prostitute today"?

LadyOfTheManor · 22/05/2011 15:10

You can differentiate all you like, but whether you advertise on the internet or advertise on street corners, you sell sex for a living. But like I said call yourself what you like.

PlentyOfPrimroses · 22/05/2011 15:11

Is the 'girlfriend experience' where you drag him round shoe shops for a few hours followed by dinner with your entire extended family?

Nancy66 · 22/05/2011 15:11

It can never be truly safe though can it - yes, the girls that loiter on street corners are more at risk - but you are too, surely?

Mamaz0n · 22/05/2011 15:13

I would think that there are very few women who have choices in life choose to sell themselves.

I think that the numbers of women who work within the sex industry for any length of time do so with good mental and emotional health.

And like i said "if you are certain that you are happy with your decision then why lie"

But to be honest i think this is bullshit and you are just looking for a reaction.

beesimo · 22/05/2011 15:13

I hope you never meet the 'client' who changes your mind about what you do, the one that ties you down and stubbs cigarettes out on you, or the one that introduces you to his mate Rex the asalatian dog, or the one that leaves you with a broken jaw or the one that throws your broken dead body out the back of his car on to the side of a motorway.

You play with fire long enough and you will get burned you silly stupid girl

Pagwatch · 22/05/2011 15:13

Nooooo.
The 'but I don't want people harking back to it' doesn't really wash.

If you are not ashamed that would not matter. Or you would not feel the need to start a thread about it.
It doesn't make sense.
So either you are ashamed or you have a different intent in posting from the one you intimate.

bupcakesandcunting · 22/05/2011 15:13

I would probably do it as a job but I don't suspect there are many men out there willing to pay to do "it" with someone whose thighs resemble two windsocks stuffed with bread poudding and bingo wings that have a life of their own.

Unless, I have uncovered a niche market...

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