I could really kill my ex hubby right now

[taylor74]

Arghhhhhhh I'm so bloody mad right now. Every Saturday I drop my DD at her dads for the night. He's since remarried and got 2 step children. Anyway last week when I picked DD up she kept going on about Disneyland and the daddy was going and why couldn't she go. She got very upset thinking she had done something wrong. So I called him asking what was happening as DD was in tears. Apparently his step kids had said that they were all off to Disneyland without her. Anyway the ex said it was true but he could not afford for DD to go. So me and DH said well as she really wants to go we will pay for her to go. The ex agreed so I said work it out and we will give you a cheque on saturday. Anyway dropped her off today and asked him how much he wanted and he said we need to talk. Apparantly his wife doesn't want my DD coming with them and spoiling their "holiday" I'm just so angry. She had her heart set on it and no way can we afford to all go, it was a struggle to find DD money for the trip but we managed. What do I tell her now as he's to cowardly to say anything.

Niceguy I'd never run the the SM down to my DD. My DD relationship is some what strained with my ex at times. When he first got with his wife he didn't see DD for 18 months. His choice then when he married her he wanted to see her more. It was once a week but some weeks he wouldn't turn up. This went on for another 6 months. He then said hed want more time and we agreed a Saturday night sleep over. So far it's been ok. Had the odd cancel here and there. Now I've asked my DD outright how she's treated there and she said it's ok, if I ever thought diff she would be out of there. I do know he spoils them more than my DD it's evident at Xmas. I did call my ex lastnight to say I had told her that she wasn't going with daddy and told him he's a gutless wanker. I did say this is the last time you will let her down.

Very honest post from niceguy, I'm so glad you 'woke up' as you put it.

Unfortunately though I think there is no 'waking up' to be done in this case - there is no way on earth that the girl's father isn't aware of this woman's feelings. He can't possibly believe that his DD is welcomed by her.

Op it won't be the last time he let's her down but it should be the last time you cover his ass!

Oh Taylor74, you sound a lovely person.

I think you have handled the situation wonderfully.

oohlaalaa thanks for your kind words. It would have been so easy to go round and both give them a smack but thats their level not mine. Don't get me wrong I have been so angry about it and shed more than a few tears and I am still upset now about it and I won't let their cruel behavior upset me or DD anymore.
My conversation with the ex yesterday I did tell him that this will never happen again,if he promises something he needs to mean it and follow it through. I said lucky for us we have a well rounded DD,thats my doing nothing to do with my pathetic ex. I said don't give your SC things and not our DD she maybe 7 but she still knows,you need to think more you and your wife. As it will come to a stage where I won't want her coming to your house,you will have to take her out for the day on your own. So think on. Your straining your own relationship with your DD because you can't take the aggro from your wife.

taylor74 - Your ex is an utter cock. But I think you know that.

Hope this all works out and that you, your DH and DD all get the holiday you deserve.

Yes he is an utter cock and he will have to live with his actions, that's if he as a conscious

OP it is a sad shame your DD has such a dead loss for a Father but you her Mam are 100% solid and I think you should be very very proud of yourself.

You now have a good Man who cares about your DD and I've got a feeling that you are all going to build a happy family life together and frankly King Cock and Queen Henny will matter less and less as the years roll on.

All the best to you, keep your head up and march on.