to be gagging for a no-strings-attached one night stand?

[Celibacyisnotforme]

Excuse the pun...

Name changed for obvious reasons... and it's not even Friday but here goes!

It's been three months since soon-to-be-XH was unceremoniously kicked out and our decree nisi has just been approved. This sounds like a short time to be moving on BUT the last time we were intimate was before DD was born - two and a half years ago!! I cannot tell you how lonely and miserable it was to be locked in a marriage with no love or sex... no friendship either - only violence, but that's another story that I've posted about on here before.

So I've been unintentionally celibate for a looooooong time and now that I'm finally free all I want is some SEX! It has been too long since I felt the warmth of another body and I am completely smitten with the idea of some affection. I do NOT want to get into a relationship of any sort - I am so happy being an independant woman, with just DD and myself to think about - none of that Wifework for me! All I want is dinner for two, loads of wine, candles and a good hard pounding from a throbbing member... is that too much to ask?


Any ideas on how to go about getting this will be greatly appreciated...

[note to self - must stop reading Mills & Boon]

[LostMyIdentityAlongTheWay]

Um... Do be careful.

Just saying, is all...

(AKA the boring old fucker who is reading your thread and thinking , yet also .

[FreudianSlipper]

keep us updated

i met a fb off match it was great for a while then he got a little demanding and we parted but not on bad terms and it was great fun. think its time i found another one its been a while and some interesting sites have been mentioned :o

[Celibacyisnotforme]

Weds eve it is... [wibble]

He has sent me a pic of his member - and it's making ME throb! Holy guacamole! This is unreal!

[Lisatheonewhoeatsdrytoast]

oh dear lordy! How exciting, well remember stay safe, let someone know what you're doing and above all else, enjoy the shag! Oh gosh and let us know or i'll be

[Gster]

So this is what women get up to when they think there aren't any men about.....

Good to know it's not just men who are after the odd casual shag.

[Rosemallow]

Celibacy - you are in east Surrey, eh? If my extremely tasty FB was anything to go by (Reigate area) you'll do alright!
Am very very
Have a fab (and safe) time on Wednesday!

[mummydoc]

am jealous as not had time with fb for several weeks, the txts today have been funnier and funnier as we try to out do each other with innuendos and teases ( this is part of the build up we always go thru ) i really need to get a whole night to be shagged every which way ....as you put it. might have a chance next monday night. god enjoy weds and please come back and tell us all about it.

[Celibacyisnotforme]

And I've just had my very first dirty webchat - no cameras but loads of texting! I am having so much fun!

On a serious note, I do want to be careful so what do I need to do? I'll take some protection and am meeting him at the hotel so he doesn't know where I live... I'll let all you lot know when I'm expected back (as well as the friend who will be babysitting) and of COURSE will pop in as soon as I'm home to update all you lovely ladies!

Whoever suggested AFF is a genius - I've been on there for only a day and yet the response has been amazing... I thought that a slightly jelly-bellied 31 year old with baggage would be a total turnoff - apparently not!! It is a bit freaky that a guy as superhot as Calvin Klein model would go for a woman like me but hey, if he's keen, I'm keen! Bring on the throbbing members!

[Celibacyisnotforme]

Rose - Reigate is just down the road... anyone in particular I should look out for?

[BertieBotts]

Do you have a trusted friend who you could give the hotel details, and then text her at an agreed time to let her know everything's fine, if it's not, then she knows to alert someone. Unlikely though :) Start off in the bar, I suppose, so it's a public space and if you get any weird vibes you can always leg it before you get to the room.

[saffronwblue]

Have fun. Just remember that nobody looks as good as their photos and that there can a bit of a jump from fantasy to reality.

[Celibacyisnotforme]

So here's the crucial question - WHAT do I wear? Do I go slutty? Casual? Take a nightie? Or my usual twinset & pearls?
So many men... so little time...

[lucykate]

i'd go smart casual, but with ultra sexy underwear on and indulge in some personal grooming iykwim

[whatsallthehullaballoo]

Definately some nice dark coloured jeans and jacket. Look smart casual with heels. Sexy underwear and suspenders. No nightie - maybe just a dressing gown. Take all your shower gear, condoms so you know they have been tampered with and your mobile phone with battery charged!!

Also a camera so that we can have a good gawp....or even a video camera so as to be more accurate

[Celibacyisnotforme]

Sexy underwear - check (thank you Ann Summers sale!)
Heels - check
Bag with shower stuff - check
Condoms - to buy later!

Golly gosh - can I just say Thank You to all the amazing ladies who are being so supportive... I never thought I'd be arranging a sex date with a super-hot Calvin Klein model, with new knickers, in an hotel - just three days after posting! Yay! You've all been inspirational... thank you.

[oohlaalaa]

I have a friend who was on match.com, he said it was mostly women wanting no strings attached sex, rather than meaningful relationships. He had lots of fun with them, but is now married to a girl he met on the net, who did want a relationship.

[ohboob]

This is so exciting. You have to tell us how you get on in great detail.

[oohlaalaa]

Celibacy, just saw your last post, let us know how you get on.

[ScousyFogarty]

Be careful Cel, some attached strings are invisible.

[MamaChoo]

So delighted to get SpringChicken's guidance on how to spot a classy swinging event. So there is some kind of correlation between the better type of sausage rolls and, well, the better type of sausage rolls?!

[northernrock]

Woah there mama!
Are you really going to go and meet some fella who you don't know from Adam, and yet who has sent you photographs of his intimate parts??
And they may not even be his!

Quite stunned by how many of you think having a "fuckbuddy" (yak, horrible term) is "great fun"...
The only times I have ever, unintentionally, got myself into that situation it has just made me miserable.
It's like having a boyfriend but without the romance or the passion. Call me Olde Fashioned but I like a bit of heat, and lurrve.
I can't bear the term casual sex either. It makes me think of people grinding their genitals together while checking their text messages and keeping one eye on the telly.

Although, if you want to find a plain old one night stand I would go for a normal dating website. Go on a date, and if you think he's fit, shag him.
They are all up for a one off shag, however they might pretend to be caring and sensitive!

[LilyPickle]

'Golly Gosh', it's all happened so fast - and what luck to pull a super fit younger man.

[JanMorrow]

I'm so jealous!!

All you need to do is let your babysitting friend know which hotel you're going to (if they're in on it) and do a couple of texts to reassure them. Meet him in the bar first so you can have a drink and then if you don't fancy him, or it turns out it wasn't him in the photos- you can beat a hasty retreat!!

Have fun!

[pickyourbrain]

SGB you cracked me up earlier in the thread with "a good buffet" hahahahahahaahahahaaaa that appeals to me more than the sex

When I split up from my ex I went out and snogged a random guy in a club and practically hit him over the head and dragged him back ot a hotel. He left before I woke up which was exactly what i needed as there was no awkwardness.

fuckbuddies have never worked for me as I am quite intense and overthink everything, I know people for whom they work really well though.

Good luck

[northernrock]

Hmm. I just don't really get the appeal of the FB concept I think.
If you have slept with someone more than twice, still fancy them, like them, and have fun spending time with them...then why wouldn't you want to fall in love and go out with them properly?
Unless you were married/having an affair, in which case I guess I can see the benefit.
Still want to hear all the gory details though celibacy!