To think that someone who cancels a date on Bank Holiday Saturday is a bastard? Should I be wary or keep trying??

[Missingfriendsandsad]

Short story is met guy in pub, we got on really well and I was really thinking there could be something to it - or at least we would have a good date - his friend said ask him to take you for dinner - I said, 'wow, would love to' he looked a bit shocked but passed his card over. even writing his number on again to be sure.

I texted after pub and asked direct, he said 'that would be lovely' we agreed a time and date and then on day I texted to say 'table booked, would you like to meet for a drink first' then got a text back saying 'oh something came up' I sent back a text saying :) I thought at least you'd do better than that (excuse), least you told me early enough...

Then I got a weird text saying 'sorry, I don't know who this is' is that weird or what! Its obviously it is a blow-off, but why say 'lovely' to dinner straight away and complement on choice of restaurant etc? All this happened since wednesday.

What annoyed me is a) I haven't had a date with a really lovely guy for a long time - attractive guys yes, intelligent guys yes, but none with both that I actually felt like there could be a connection with. and b) I gave up a bank holiday saturday for this date and was left miserable :(

I do think that its a shame because it its not like we had a bad date or anything he has decided to finish it before we even know if anything might start or whatever.

He did say he was divorced but is that really a reason for being like this?

Ok,so seen you put that as a hilarious joke. You are unhinged or drunk or both.

He hasn't played the field though, you are not in a relationship with him! Not even the beginnings of one.

But what if he is secretly in love with me and is just a bit frightened (do we have a 'poopet' emoticon?)

Also, OP. He didn't behave in an odd way at all. Fairly typical I believe, when a guy gets stitched up by his friend. He wasn't odd, he wasn't cold, he just didn't want to go out with you and chose a cowardly way of saying it. It doesn't mean he's a tart or has a string of women on the go at once - it just means he doesn't want you.

Errrrmmm.........

ACtually I haven't been trawling bars, and I am happy with myself and friends and men ARE following - that is why I had a date on Saturday.. perhaps he is a bit fragile too did you think of that?

But what if he is secretly in love with me and is just a bit frightened (do we have a 'poopet' emoticon?)

When do the schools go back, by the way? Pesky kids staying up late, making stupid threads...

Good lord you are a fucking lunatic

You do realise everyone on his Facebook and the ones that can see the link from yours are going to be pissing themselves laughing at what fruitcake you are.

Hope you have none of your work colleagues on there!

I'm sure everyone reading this thread will have had instances where men have generally behaved like arses over dates or at the v early stages of a relationship. This.isn't.one.of.them.

The only one who's sounding fragile here is you, OP. If you've got so many friends and men, why the hell are you obsessing over this guy.

(That is, if any of this even happened. Sounds like a fifteen year old with a very overactive imagination.)

No idea what a 'poopet' is but seriously OP let it go.

If the guy was reading this thread he'd think he'd had a lucky escape!!

I'm sure you're lovely really but you do need to stop being so intense

oh ok... perhaps I should just accept - I still think it was a nasty way to do it...very odd to chat away by text then suddenly say 'I don't know you' Mind you I did accidentally send him a text meant for someone else as well which might have pissed him off abit. oh well...

oh sorry 'poppet...'

OP you sound very fixated on a total stranger.

Missingfriendsandsad, are you the same person who had a thread on relationships about stalking your friends on fb and how they all hated you because no-one had got in touch?

Don't know what a poppet is either [dumb emoticon] so wasn't having a go at your typing.

Actually weren't poppets a type of sweet? You got raisin ones and biscuit ones...

I thought you sent a text. He sent a text in reply. You sent another text. He replied saying he didn't know your number. Hardly 'chatting away by text'!

Clip clop,clip clop .......
Can't believe I fell for it,good one though lol

If so, flippinada, I think we can all see why... [cats bum mouth]

Ah filpp, I remember that thread, she was crackers on there as well, if it's the same op!

actually have just realised i might be being a bit loony - i think he looked like two of my exes sort of rolled into one.... attractive and intelligent with lovely dark eyes, and also sort of puppyfat about the jowls (from the other) perhaps THAT is why I felt a connection. Perhaps I was staring too hard and telling him too much about myself

flippinada- I was about to post the very same!! Def same poster, I think.

The OP is frightening me!

Puppy fat about the jowels! snort

I'm thinking that you should infact call him and ask him why he had the cheek to stand you up. On a bank holiday weekend, no less!