to ask how you cope with teens in a city ? schools ...gangs etc ?

[doley]

We left SW London 5 years ago .

Now we live in a very rural area in the states ,but ,will be returning to the UK (country this time ) later in the year :)

How do your teens cope /and enjoy life ? ~what do they get up to ?

I couldn't see my boys fitting in /coping with London life again after a much gentler slower place of life .(they are not un-streetwise btw, just now 'from here ' )

AIBU to think I would be a nervous wreck each time they left the house for fun, or just a daily journey to school ? Male gangs particularly concern and frighten me .

I do not read the Daily Mail that much

This goat is actually a model.

It's just so.....fake.

Kungfu then I must have imagined it all ~ you seriously know the worst thing to come out of Putney in recent years has been shoplifting ?

BTW ,I am not middle class ~but I can pass if there was a test .
Maybe that is why I have been so misunderstood ?

I lived in the Putney area from'72 (child ) till 2005 ...I know it very well .

I live [with my 3 sons] in london all the time

I wish all i had to worry about was the odd day trip some time in the future.

doley Tue 26-Apr-11 19:41:32
Kungfu then I must have imagined it all ~ you seriously know the worst thing to come out of Putney in recent years has been shoplifting ?

Um, no. That's not what I said. I said that serious crime is so rare in that area that I could have a good go at listing anything more serious than shoplifting.

For example - one of the victims of the M25 rapist was attacked on Putney Heath where there was also a stabbing a couple of years later.

There was an arson at a flat on the Lower Richmond Road.

There was a drive-by shooting that turned out to be an air-gun by the leisure centre.

There was a woman attacked on Putney Hill.

There was a stabbing on the very fringes of East Putney.

Through work I am aware of an attempted robbery on Putney High Street.

There was a murder on Lower Putney Common.

These are the most serious crimes that have made the news over the last few years - Putney is not one of the areas of London where people are generally afraid to walk the streets at night. These are isolated incidents that make the news precisely because of their rarity in that area.

Good lord...seriously ?

I really have no idea why my post is taken so personally ?

My life is no bed of roses ,moving my family across the pond to a totally new life to stay with my father ...

I think some hear / see the words Dorset/moving /America AND assume I am rolling in $$$$$$$$ and a middle class snob .

And amberleaf it is on those "day trips"that things tend to go wrong PERIOD .

"And amberleaf it is on those "day trips"that things tend to go wrong PERIOD ."

Absolute rubbish. The real risk, as others have said, is to the kids who live with the shadow of crime day in, day out.

kungfu thank you ....I think those 'little things' that you have listed are enough to give cause for concern wouldn't you ?

Maybe it is because I did live in the shadow of crime that I have my views then ?

Oh well ,I really am finished here .

Good lord, OP. Do stop twisting/mis-quoting comments.

No. They are not "little things" - please do point to where I said they were.

However, as a list of an area's serious crime, going back several years, it says a lot about the general safety of an area. It is considerably less than most areas.

If you are determined to borrow trouble, at least worry about somewhere a little more menacing than Putney.

doley are you serious?! God i think you really are.

Do you genuinely think that your sons one day in the future day trips will put them at more risk than the risk my sons face daily just going to and from school and at school but thats another thread and living in an area where gang activity is a real and daily occurance?

Obviously we have it easy [eyeroll]

lying cow

I know this is the most stupid thread I ever read I worried about coming to London lest the gangs I have read about in the daily mail steal my gold on the way back from Kingston lol

Is this a joke only those who are in gangs, tend to get involved

I live in London and and have never come across a gang I jus t don't mix in those circles to be fair the latest high profile killings happened no were near London roul mot anyone

If you have a son who likes getting on with the wrong sort moving out of London won't help I can tell you now Bristol and bourmounth and such places have an almost higher drug rate than london

Its extremely rare someone who is not in any way connected with a gang or some bad doing gets hurt thats why when it dose happen it's in the papers and so schocking

There are a nasty bunch of witches here ,playing their own 'special' game .

Have fun pagwatch and the like .

I am totally done with this forum .

oh ,and maypole learn to spell .

Honestly, my ds has been to London on daytrips lots of time without any incident whatsoever, but they're mainly hanging around Oxford St, Covent Garden, Camden lock etc.

I don't know Wandsworth at all, but basically if they're not in a gang themselves they're unlikely to get into any trouble. Obviously you tell them to hand over their phone etgc if anyone tries to mug them, but you'd say that everywhere in the world.

BTW I want one of those cows.

Oh don't go doley.
It's just fun really.
And you got loads of very sensible answers.

I do want that cow though. Great website.

Doily isn't interested in people telling her it is pointless to worry though mumble chum. She just wants a fight!

Omg isv this op really trying to hold putney and richmond as some kind of Compton getto ha ha ha ha

I think this is a joke has to be next she be wanting to carry
Pepper spray in wilmbeldon village lol

FGS OP getting a bit of a pasting here. I'd have given it up for a bad job ages ago. It's one of those threads where OP tries to explain a point someone picks up on and then her post is picked apart, told it means something else, criticised and ridiculed.

Look at the OP again. It's positively inviting being told she's BU to worry too much. She asks what teen boys get up to, and although uses the word "gangs" clearly doesn't mean it in the inner-city-violent-criminal-gang sense, she means "large groups". She asking more what social/community (for want of a better word) consists of for city teens in the UK.

I don't have teen boys (yet) but I think the posts along the "teach streetwisdom/worry more about alcohol and sex" lines are what she was hoping for. Not what she got.

I don't think she likes being laughed at much for her mistakes.
MN humour takes a bit of getting used to. I hope you don't leave the forum doley.
I'd rather have a real goat TBH. Here in the leafy green gang-free suburbs I have a serious grass problem. It's as high as an elephant's eye.
So a goat on speed would be useful.

She is not asking any such thing

She could of said what clubs and social events are on for teen boys in London that's NOT WHAT SHE SAID or shall we go round putting our own meaning on what someone actually said

Although I said I was done gohelpmeI just had to thank you ~you understood :)

Yes,and it is SO funny that I also happened to be a model ....ha ha ha !

just like school ...although I like to consider myself tough, you bunch of bitches have almost made me cry .

Women it seems, are still their worst enemy sometimes .