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AIBU?

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to have said 'No' to a friend who assumed they could use my house for her kid's b'day party?

209 replies

summerpixie · 22/04/2011 08:44

I texted a friend asking how they were going to celebrate her DD's birthday. She replied with the list of events: Cinema, MacDonalds then .... round to mine to have a bit of a party to cut the cake.
Now, I know that text messages tend to be misconstrued but she did NOT put 'LOL' at the end of it. I told her my house is a mess and I wasn't having visitors round and to go to her in-laws who have a huge 100+ ft garden! She replied saying that she would have to ASK them and my house is always a mess! So, she didn't feel the need to ask me, not even related to her, but had to ask her in-laws?
She hasn't even invited my DS to the cinema either although he is a lot younger than her DD but she isn't taking her own DS either (same age as my DS).

The way I see it is that she's not even inviting us but want's to use our house to cater and accomodate for her afterparty. AIBU or is it just my hormones?

Today is the day and I checked the times of the film they are going to, should I go out elsewhere around the time it finishes as I think she is still assuming she can come round as she text my DH saying they would see us all on Friday. I am in no mood to deal with other people's kids during my Easter break.

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januaryjojo · 22/04/2011 16:13

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NoobyYahYahYah · 22/04/2011 16:15

Go out - but just make sure you lock the door. If she has that much brass neck she'll probably try to get in, and you'll get back to a housefull!

Bunbaker · 22/04/2011 16:20

I am hoping that the OP hasn't put any more posts on here because she has gone out. This woman's cheek really takes the biscuit! How many other people does she ride rough shod over? Perhaps she doesn't get on with her MIL because her MIL has the cheek to stand up to her and her unreasonable demands.

wizzler · 22/04/2011 16:23

Marking my spot.. desperate to know what happens!

empirestateofmind · 22/04/2011 16:28

lurking too...

BringBackGoingForGold · 22/04/2011 16:29

Rhinestone, have you ever said 'Good day to you' to someone? I'd LOVE to but don't know if I'd be brave enough Smile

WestCoastLotus · 22/04/2011 16:30

Marking place.

[bushock] the cheek of her [bushock]

fanjolina · 22/04/2011 16:30

marking spot too. Bet she's broken into your house for a party!

AmazingBouncingFerret · 22/04/2011 16:30

I hope this isnt one of those threads where the OP never comes back..

HibernoCaledonian · 22/04/2011 16:41

Me too. I can't believe the cheek of the friend.

HeadfirstForHalos · 22/04/2011 16:46

I'm marking my place too, I can't wait to hear what happens with this cheeky "friend"

Rhinestone · 22/04/2011 16:47

Bringback - no, but I'm longing for the opportunity to do so!

I would say it in the manner of someone very posh on Midsummer Murders (who is clearly the murderer despite their uber-poshness) as they shut the door of their semi-stately home in indignation at being questioned over the death of Colonel Bashford-Trumply!

onceamai · 22/04/2011 16:49

I hope you check the thread amazing bouncing ferrett. How are you? Have you had the op? How did it go?

MadamDeathstare · 22/04/2011 16:51

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SauvignonBlanche · 22/04/2011 16:57

I want to know what's happening!

DuelingFanjo · 22/04/2011 17:00

me too!

JaxTellersOldLady · 22/04/2011 17:04

me three!

albania · 22/04/2011 17:06

Me four :o

Alibabaandthe80nappies · 22/04/2011 17:07

And me!

Beamur · 22/04/2011 17:08

I wonder if the 'friend' has turned up yet...

Mumofaflump · 22/04/2011 17:09

Here's a question for you... If you hadn't of texted to ask if she was doing anything do you think she would have gotten in touch to let you know her intentions, or, would she have just pitched up?

desperatelyseekingsnoozes · 22/04/2011 17:10

The person I feel sorry for in all of this is the little girl who may end up very humiliated on her birthday.

pigletmania · 22/04/2011 17:11

What a cheeky mare I would tell her straight away no, and don't offer to look after her kids

toddlerama · 22/04/2011 17:12

Me too desperately. I agree that no way should you have to do this, but imagine the kid's disappointment when there's no-one in if she thinks she's having a birthday party Sad

MortaIWombat · 22/04/2011 17:14

After she's had a cinema trip and a MacDonald's trip?
I think she'll cope.