to have said 'No' to a friend who assumed they could use my house for her kid's b'day party?

[summerpixie]

I texted a friend asking how they were going to celebrate her DD's birthday. She replied with the list of events: Cinema, MacDonalds then .... round to mine to have a bit of a party to cut the cake.
Now, I know that text messages tend to be misconstrued but she did NOT put 'LOL' at the end of it. I told her my house is a mess and I wasn't having visitors round and to go to her in-laws who have a huge 100+ ft garden! She replied saying that she would have to ASK them and my house is always a mess! So, she didn't feel the need to ask me, not even related to her, but had to ask her in-laws?
She hasn't even invited my DS to the cinema either although he is a lot younger than her DD but she isn't taking her own DS either (same age as my DS).

The way I see it is that she's not even inviting us but want's to use our house to cater and accomodate for her afterparty. AIBU or is it just my hormones?

Today is the day and I checked the times of the film they are going to, should I go out elsewhere around the time it finishes as I think she is still assuming she can come round as she text my DH saying they would see us all on Friday. I am in no mood to deal with other people's kids during my Easter break.

OP - is this person someone you actually like? Do you want her in your life?

Why would you even bother to put a note on the door say you'd gone to legoland? Also surely it invites burglars in?

Why are people saying going to Legoland is a crap idea? Its a bank holiday, gorgeous weather and her DP/H is probably off work why wouldn't they want to do something together today :-)

Have fun OP.

YABU to call this user a friend.

Do not put a note on the door. Go out with your DS, forget about it all and enjoy yourselves.

Nobody needs a "friend" like this so do not worry about the consequences. I feel angry on your behalf She's taking advantage of you and you know it.

Wow I can't believe people like the OP's 'friend' exists!

Seriously why do you have anything to do with her? She is just a user!

I can't believe you're even contemplating having your friend's DD and her pals around for a party. The answer is "no".

She isn't a friend. She is walking all over you. It's so sad she is using you like this and you're trying to be a good friend helping her. You're way too nice for her.

If she comes round to your house on the day of the party tell her again the answer was "no" and close the door on her. Don't let her use you like that.

Bump!

Just marking my place. I am glad to you are going out. Stick to your guns.

Wonder how many people are watching this thread now... [bugrin]

OP, hope you are in the garden/at legoland/anywhere but serving your 'friend' and all her kids cake!

marking my place

I can't believe her brass neck! Hope OP is at legoland or somewhere lovely having a wonderful day...

I'm waiting to see what happens too!

Bloody hell. What an absolute cheeky pup! Do not give in. Stand proud, we're all behind you (metaphorically speaking) .

I bet OP is slicing birthday cake and smiling like a demented cheshire cat as we speak

I predict a cave. sorry op but this is easily dealt with some time ago with a "no" that I think your assertiveness is a little lacking!

yanbu ,a pal of mine once wanted to use my bed for a few hours ,so she could shag a bloke she was seeing wtf i did say NO !!

No, I have faith in the OP!

She will answer the door and say to Cheeky Cow,

"My house and garden is not available as your party venue. You are extremely rude and I do not wish to be friends with you as you do nothing but take advantage of me. Good day to you."

And she will shut the door and breathe a huge sigh of relief!

And then she will open it again, laugh crazily and say "Only joking! Come in! I have party poppers and balloons waiting! Oh the fun we're going to have!"

[grin[

too

What's happening SP?
You out or entertaining?

Hope you are having a fab FAMILY day op.

Reminds me of the time I let a friend stay in spare room rent free and she invited me to a party in my own bloody flat!!!

Shamelessly marking my spot [bugrin]

Hmm....I think the OP knows she will cave if she is there so has gone out.

If you are basically a nice person then it is hard to say no to someone who wouldnt know a hint if it smacked them in the mouth, and they are standing on your doorstep, I know I would go out too!

YANBU

I would probably go out too. It is only as my MN alter-ego that I'm in touch with my 'take no prisoners' inner bitch assertive and steadfast!

I keep checking this thread too so will mark my spot