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To be upset that a restaurant asked me to take my crying baby out ofthe restaurant

606 replies

40Weeks · 13/04/2011 11:32

went for a meal yesterday eve at a local Zizzi's restaurant. Ds3 is 6 weeks and was a bit restless, crying on and off. The restaurant was quiet as it was 6pm and was there with dcs (mine and dsis) kids had eaten most of their meal and we had not long started ours (ordered it a bit later than the kids meals) and were taking it in turns to soothe him and dmum and dbil were there too. Apparently some customers complained about his crying so the manageress came and asked us to quieten him down or take him outside!

Aibu to think this is disgraceful?

I had breadtfed him but was facing away from other customers so don't think it was because of this. The complaining customers said that their daughter took their dgc to the ladies in such situations. Nice.

I am still reeling from this and not sure if I am bent oversensitive or if it's really weird to be offended by a baby, crying or not!

OP posts:
Bucharest · 13/04/2011 15:39

...and she still thinks she was right....
OP, if your child's welfare had been paramount, you'd have removed him toot sweet from what I imagine is a noisy (even without his contribution) brightly lit, hot fast food place at 6pm and taken him home.
But you didn't.

Goblinchild · 13/04/2011 15:39

I'd have walked over and said
'Would you like me to look after your baby for a while and take him outside to calm down?
A bit of walking up and down, and singing outside away from a busy environment always worked with mine, and you are obviously struggling to manage.'

Would that have worked for you OP?

Innishvickillaune · 13/04/2011 15:40

Gee, poor you. Having to act as though you have a six week old!

You still think it is unreasonable, even though now your story has changed and you were wolfing your food down and making every effort to leave? Hmm

Don't talk crap. No one would have complained unless your baby was making quite a lot of noise and now it was raining? Interesting how that didn't come up in response to the MANY questions asking why you didn't take him out for a walk. You said you were with extended family - none of them could have helped?

Hammy02 · 13/04/2011 15:41

It sounds as though you aren't planning on modifying your behaviour in future, despite the overwhelming number of posts saying YABU so there wasn't much point in posting?

Goblinchild · 13/04/2011 15:41

'of course my priority was my childs welfare, over a pair of strangers. Would be again even after your posts. '

You let your child scream and cry for fifteen minutes.

Bucharest · 13/04/2011 15:41

Then there would have been a "wouldja just believe this nasty old woman with her interfering busybody ways....why I just wanted to lamp her" thread. (even if you're only 17 goblin because all people who even look at other people's babies are "old" dontcha know.)

violethill · 13/04/2011 15:43

I agree Bucharest.

I don;t think the OP was prioritising her child's welfare - I think her priority was to stay put for the rest of her meal (albeit maybe eating slightly faster than she's have liked) so that she could make a stand for her "rights" to inflict her child's crying on other people. She was probably already plotting her AIBU thread as she ate!

SoupDragon · 13/04/2011 15:43

What has the presence or not of your DP got to do with it? Weren't your mum and sister there?

Goblinchild · 13/04/2011 15:43

No, you are OK there, I am indeed old and judgy.

crunchbag · 13/04/2011 15:45

So 40Weeks you are actually upset with the complaining couple rather than with the restaurant who had no choice but to follow up the complaint.

Still YABU

Bucharest · 13/04/2011 15:45

There were 100s of people Soup, so many they had to take it in turns to nosh.

ProfBrianCox · 13/04/2011 15:46

15 mins for a six week old is a very long time. Clearly its welfare wasn't your first priority

ChristinedePizan · 13/04/2011 15:47

I don't understand why you ordered your food after the children either.

Bucharest · 13/04/2011 15:49

Probably so the children could run riot andfuckeveryoneelse--off play nicely with their handcrafted Steiner toys while the grown ups indulged in scintillating conversation.
But Junior was having none of it.

JimmyChooChoo · 13/04/2011 15:50

I hope OP in years to come when your LO's are grown up that you go out and theres a screaming baby present while you try and enjoy your meal and have a conversation.
Hearing a child screaming is extremely stressful.Why on earth should other diners have to go through that?
Not once have you said that maybe you were in the wrong for not taking your baby out.You could have settled your LO handed him over to your friend/family and asked the waiter to heat your dinner up.Then you wouldn't have to 'wolf it down' as you keep on reminding us.If LO didn't settle then you could have asked the waiters to put the food in a take out box and enjoy it at home.
You come across as selfish.You put yourself first.And you should have apolo0gised to the diners fo the noise.

Bucharest · 13/04/2011 15:50

Buggery formatting.

ChristinedePizan · 13/04/2011 15:50

:o Bucharest. Never bloody works!

DumSpiroSpero · 13/04/2011 15:51

Surely with a 6 week old baby it would have been more sensible to eat out at lunchtime rather than 6pm? Hmm

JimmyChooChoo · 13/04/2011 15:54

I don't believe it started raining.Even if it was a hot summers day you wouldn't have got off your arse with your baby.You silly woman.

springlambkin · 13/04/2011 15:57

Ok guys, I do think the OP was being unreasonable.

BUt can we give her a break now please? She's only 6 weeks post natal and juggling 3 kids. Tough times eh? Leave it out a bit?

Goblinchild · 13/04/2011 15:58

Grin I'm done.

atswimtwolengths · 13/04/2011 15:59

ProfBrianCox you say: "15 mins for a six week old is a very long time. Clearly its welfare wasn't your first priority"

That is really out of order. How dare you say that to a woman who's just had a baby?

SoupDragon · 13/04/2011 16:00

I don't live a million miles away from the OP and it didn't rain enough to melt a baby yesterday.

atswimtwolengths · 13/04/2011 16:00

I hate the bullying tones of some of these messages.

springlambkin · 13/04/2011 16:00

You sill woman was pretty out of order too.