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To think BIL and SIL have taken PFB to a whole new level?

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Humphreythehamster · 12/04/2011 12:16

we are all staying at PILs for Easter for a long weekend. They have a 4 bed house, we will be in DHs old room with DS in a travel cot. We assumed our 3 DDs would be in the spare room as usual with B & SIL and their 4mo DD in their room.

Nope.

Apparently DN can't possibly share a room with her parents as it will disrupt her routine and she also snuffles at night. So, the 3 DDs will be sleeping in the dining room (wooden floor) whilst DN has the spare room (the one with a set of bunkbeds and a single bed). PIL are flummoxed as to how to change back to normal as BIL and SIL both seem tO be struggling a bit with the new baby.

So do they win a special prize? :o

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saoirse86 · 12/04/2011 12:35

Oh my god! How ridiculous!

Maybe you should say you need a separate room for yourself because your DH snuffles too much too. In fact why don't we hire a mansion for the weekend and we'll have a room each.

I'm being forced into going on holiday with DP's family and we've found out it's been booked as one caravan for the 8 of use to stay in. There are 2 big bedrooms with double beds and a tiny room with bunk beds and no room for a travel cot or general baby stuff. Guess which one we've been told we're staying in?

Unwind · 12/04/2011 12:35

Why not let BIL and SIL sleep on the dining room floor, and give DN their room?

KatishaVinganegg · 12/04/2011 12:36

SO its actually THEIR sleep they are worried about?

pooka · 12/04/2011 12:36

Fine - move mattress from their room into dining room. BIL and SIL sleep in there. DN sleeps in cot in their room. Your kids sleep in spare room. You and DH share with the baby.

It is CRAZY for a baby in a cot to take up a room capable of sleeping 3.

KatishaVinganegg · 12/04/2011 12:36

WHy can't the baby in the dining room (with teh lead piping...) work?

saoirse86 · 12/04/2011 12:36

(I should've said there will be PILs in one room, and SIL and SIL in the other, no children at all in those rooms)

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Humphreythehamster · 12/04/2011 12:36

DH thinks it's hysterical. The DDs are a little confused as to why they haven't got 'their' bedroom at GPs but are very excited about the dining room idea as they can pop into the sitting room and chat to us if they can't sleep Hmm

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Loonytoonie · 12/04/2011 12:37

Yes, meant to add to my first post - it won't be fair if your kiddies can't have beds so say you won't go. I'm betting your SIL and BIL will be mortified and suitably embarressed if they considered how selfish this makes them sound. I still think though, maybe they just need a bit of gentle reassurance that there are 'other' ways of approaching babies (and I mean 'gentle' - I remember how defensive I was when anyone tried to 'tell me' how to raise my first born Blush Grin

activate · 12/04/2011 12:38

tell MIL you won't go unless the baby is in a cot in the dining room or it's parents' room - tell her that she is doing them no good pandering to them and you're not going to let 3 children be without beds because of one new mother going bananas - laugh about it though

Goblinchild · 12/04/2011 12:39

saoirse86, I'd sort out suitable accommodation for your family or not go.
It sounds like Boot Camp.

Loonytoonie · 12/04/2011 12:40

Merrrrr, have just caught up - so it's their sleep they are more concerned with. Stuff that then [flings halo at your BIL and SIL emoticon]. They need to wise up.

ChaoticAngelofDenial · 12/04/2011 12:41

"The DDs are a little confused as to why they haven't got 'their' bedroom at GPs but are very excited about the dining room idea as they can pop into the sitting room and chat to us if they can't sleep"

Which is exactly why I wouldn't have them in the dining room. They'll be in and out all night. If you do go I'd make it clear to DH that he's the one who will have to put them back into bed every time they come out.

Ephiny · 12/04/2011 12:41

YANBU, it's ridiculous that your DDs should have to sleep on the floor when there are perfectly good beds that no one is using.

Bramshott · 12/04/2011 12:41

Oh blimey - I though this was fairly bad when I first read it, and thought you were all staying with SIL and BIL. But then I realised it is actually your PIL house, and SIL and BIL are guests too!!

Your only consolation will be that in a couple of years, SIL and BIL will look back on this and absolutely cringe with embarassment Grin!

saoirse86 · 12/04/2011 12:43

Would you suggest your DDs stay in the room with the baby and see what your SIL and BIL say about that?

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Humphreythehamster · 12/04/2011 12:43

Saoirse that sounds like a nightmare :(

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Goblinchild · 12/04/2011 12:43

It does sound as if you'd be better off visiting at different times until the PFB syndrome has lost a bit of its edge.

KatishaVinganegg · 12/04/2011 12:48

Still don't understand why baby in the dining room can't work?

JenaiMarrHePlaysGuitar · 12/04/2011 12:53

YABU.

They're not being PFB, they're being selfish twunts.

dearyme · 12/04/2011 12:54

what did SIL/BIL say when you said it was ridiculous

hairfullofsnakes · 12/04/2011 12:58

Why on earth have pil agreed to this?!

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Humphreythehamster · 12/04/2011 13:00

I am suggesting nothing to them. Its PILs house so It's up to them to sort things if they can. Hopefully it will just be somethin to rib them bout in a few years.

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nenevomito · 12/04/2011 13:03

Shock and the maddest thing is that they'll think they're being perfectly reasonable.

If I were you, I'd go along with it and then subtly drop into conversation the recommendation to room share till 6 months.

Hammy02 · 12/04/2011 13:03

I would put my foot down with the PILs saying you are not having your DDs sleeping on the floor when there are 3 empty beds upstairs. They are being ridiculous. I would be so outraged I wouldn't go.

griphook · 12/04/2011 13:03

definaltely put the Bil and sil in the dinning room on the cold wooden floor, dc's back in the spare room and DN in Bil old room