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AIBU?

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To be somewhat pissed off to find someone in the back of my car?

213 replies

follyfoot · 10/04/2011 22:24

Opened my hatchback boot to let dog jump in yesterday morning to find a body in the back of my car. At first I thought it was of the dead variety, but turned out to be a semi conscious (ie pissed) teenage girl who had spent the night in my car.

Confused
OP posts:
doley · 11/04/2011 15:08

Thanksflippintired ~exactly .

Yes,just ordinary kindness for a fellow human right ?

YouaretooniceNOT · 11/04/2011 15:10

Maybe the OP isn't very streetwise at all and wasn't able to judge this teenager very well. If this happened to me in Birmingham i would be scared but not everyone is that bad they want to attack you etc.

doley · 11/04/2011 15:18

I don't think I am particularly judging the OP here :)

I am responding more to how everyone else is claiming they would send her on her way with a kick !

The OP was startled ,that I totally understand ~what has followed since is a little unnerving .

WassaAxolotl · 11/04/2011 15:33

I agree that offering to phone someone would have been kind.

However, had it actually happened to me, I would have been in too much shock to do anything other than watch silently and dumbfoundedly as she slunk off.

SuchProspects · 11/04/2011 15:47

I think I would have been too shocked to have thought about ringing the girl's parents. Though I can see that would have been nice if they'd been up all night and if the girl was prepared to give me their phone number. But I don't know any 16 (or 14) yr olds that don't have their own phones they could have called home on if that were something they wanted to happen.

The OP saw a situation which she read as a teenager having a few too many and sleeping it off in the OPs car without permission. It may have been a different scenario, but given the OP was the only one there, and hasn't mentioned any details that contradict her reading, everybody else's second guessing is unreasonable.

As others have noted "letting" a 16 (or 14) yr old walk home, even a long way, on a sunny day is not dangerous or unreasonable. And I don't buy this "If you think she's 16 she's probably 14" reasoning. I routinely think people are a lot younger than they are. If I think someone's 16 she's almost certainly at least 18, probably 20+.

It's always possible the OP missed a chance to provide support after a terrible incident. But it's not particularly likely and given the OP was caught totally by surprise and did not see any signs that indicated something had happened, it's silly to berate her for it. On the face of it the girl had a rollicking good night and a safe, if chilly and uncomfortable, kip somewhere she ought not to have. It isn't a terrible scenario. The sort of worst first thinking some posters engage in, insisting it is "bad" of the OP not to have been actively enquiring after the girl's welfare, is stifling and fails to let people take joy in the pleasures of youth and exploring the world.

But YABU OP. It's a funny story. There was no damage and it will give you plenty of laughs and a good tale to tell. Why be pissed off about that :)

MikeRotch · 11/04/2011 15:47

well Stealthy not in something i saw recently [knowing wink]

elinorbellowed · 11/04/2011 16:16

I've been judging the wrong thing here. I'm terribly upset that the OP is DRIVING her dog somewhere for a walk when she is surrounded by fields and woodland. Annoys me on an environmental level. Like people who drive to the gym.
Unless she was taking the dog to the vets. In which case, YABU. Wink

caughtinanet · 11/04/2011 16:41

elinor - the fields and woodlands are far too dangerous for teens to walk in and so would not be safe for the dog Grin

follyfoot · 11/04/2011 18:41

I was indeed taking the dog for treatment Elinor, she is a poorly woofer...

This thread is hysterical, it really is. I'm not streetwise? Now that really does make me laugh. I've had more dramas than an Emmerdale script writer in my life, but I take responsibility for them.

She got drunk, she slept it off in my car. She was on foot so must have come from nearby. There arent bad people on every corner, my DD takes the same lane to walk to school every day and she is remarkably unscathed. I believe that we all take responsibility for our own actions. My lodger should take responsibility for being so drunk she didnt get home that night.

I'm kind to people and animals, give money to charidee and everything. But I know I was remarkably polite to her considering.

Oh AND she has scratched my Jam CD Angry

OP posts:
Salmotrutta · 11/04/2011 18:53

Well then you were quite right to not give the little minx a lift - scratching your Jam CD!

MikeRotch · 11/04/2011 18:56

SCREECH OF BREAKS

she was listening to the JAM in your CAR?

i LOVE YOU this is getting even better

was it

MikeRotch · 11/04/2011 18:57
NetworkGuy · 11/04/2011 19:04

seemed fairly obv to me you were on way to vet's appt but some people got hung up on how you should be a good Samaritan and offer a lift, despite no apology or apparent gratitude for not throwing a tantrum when you found the young woman where she had no right to be (better than kipping in the road, but one hopes being out and getting legless won't be repeated any time soon)...

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