To be somewhat pissed off to find someone in the back of my car?

[follyfoot]

Opened my hatchback boot to let dog jump in yesterday morning to find a body in the back of my car. At first I thought it was of the dead variety, but turned out to be a semi conscious (ie pissed) teenage girl who had spent the night in my car.

Loshad, I'm the mother of teenaged girls. TBH I wouldn't collect them from the cells if they were arrested for being drunk either... my DDs know that I would find this totally unacceptable behaviour and that if they got into that position they must take responsibility for their OWN actions. It isn't because I don't care, it's quite the opposite... it's because I'd want them to learn a lesson.

the fact it was unlocked would not affect it in court

at all

she still knew it wasnt her property

I think it is the girl who should have been checking that the OP was alright after giving her sich a nasty fright!

I think I'd be too shocked to offer a lift TBH. I can imagine just mumbling something like "WTF" and shaking my head in disbelief.

Obviously if the girl seemed distressed in any way it might be different.

Those of you who think the girl has not done anything wrong (ie. she didn't 'break in' as car was unlocked) and that the OP is BU....what would you think or do if you'd accidently left your front door unlocked and found someone asleep on your sofa?

I like to think I would have shown concern to the girl, asked her if she was ok, offered to phone someone etc. But I think I would have been so shocked at finding a "dead body" in my car that I don't know what I would have done.

If the girl had looked distressed/hurt then I'm sure that would have overridden the shock. As she wasn't I really wouldn't judge the OP.

But we all love a bit of judging. I'm
In love with the OP

Meh. I looked 16 until I was about 22. She was pissed and chancing her arm. You didn't call the police or give her a bollocking. I think you did ok, personally.

You were absolutely right to not give her a lift OP, she is perfectly old enough to endure the walk of shame, it will have done her good!!
Can't believe how many people are having a go at you for this!!
It's fairly hilarious to make her walk, in the daylight... christ it wasn't like you turfed her out at 2 in the morning fgs!

She will have an excellent story to regale her friends with today!

I think this is one of my all time most unlikely favorite threads.

Op- I think you sound quite mean actually.
How would you feel if this happened to your child?
Before you say my child wouldn't behave in that way, then lucky them and you. You don't know the circumstances for her sleeping in your car and you don't know that she got home safe.

Fwiw my dh once spent the night in a hedgerow sleeping, pissed up. he was 14 a very kind neighbour took him in and cleaned him up before taking him home to his mother. The reason he didn't go home (apart from being pissed for the 1st time) was his violent, controlling father would have most likely kicked the shit out of him. Hence the kind neighbour waited till he was presentable before sneaking him home without his father seeing.

Agreed Mike especially the yoga mat bit! ha ha ha ha!!

Ithink the OP has been having a hard time. Asked my quite hardline DH what he would have done. he would have asked WTF they were doing and where their parents think they were and may/may not have phoned the parents depending on the answer. Def wouldn't have given a lift home. Girl was trespassing!

I don't think the child is in the right Mike, just that she didn;t break in, and if I'd left my front door unlocked and there was a kid on my sofa I would ring the police, and later think what a twat I was for leaving my house unlocked.

She broke into a car, scared the OP by thinking she was a dead body (one of my worst fears is finding one), then didn't bother to say sorry, I think she was very lucky the OP acted the way she did.
Stuff giving her a lift home, accusations seem to stick these days and I sure as hell would not want to be known as 'her that abducted that poor girl' just so the silly girl could escape punishment from her parents.

Bloody hell!

No idea what I would have done but imagine the shock of finding someone in your car might well mean you don't even think about calling parents/giving a lift until after the event. Think people are being quite harsh to the OP. It was broad daylight and the main road/pub aren't far away.

I've been an irresponsible pissed/hung over teenager. Not that I did anything like this, but I was perfectly capable of doing the walk of shame back home the morning after. The Grannies on the bus were always most disapproving.

That's what I was thinking oldlady

She didn't break into the car it was left open. If she had stolen it I don't know if the insurance company would pay out as they would class it as the owners fault. My sil left her patio door unlocked, had a break in and the insurance company refused to pay out. Apparently there was no proof that my sil hadn't invited the burglars in and so technically no crime had been comitted in their eyes.
Will double check that my car is locked in future.
On the funny side can you imagine if you had just gotton into the car, without seeing her drove off and then a head appeared in your rear view mirror!!!!

No, I wouldn't have given her a lift either. I don't think the OP was mean. I've given lifts to unknown teenagers who were so pissed they were a danger to themselves and everyone else in the road, but in this instance I think letting her slope off home was the right thing to do. I'd probably have been in too much shock at finding her in my car to do anything else.

funny thread, i laughed at the yoga mat too, personally i would have given her a lift, but im a soft touch, the OP can do what the fuck she likes, doesnt mean shes wrong or heartless

Please. I'm with you OP I'd have told her to get walking and sharpish. Because I remember being 16 and getting hammered. I would have been mortified if smeone offered to ring my mom. This isn't the first time she's been that drunk (who tries car doors?? someone who's been drunk a lot that's who). Plus I was one of those girls that got ID'd at 24 for cigarettes so wouldn't automatically think she could be younger than 16.

Sorry, I am laughing at this.

That girl will have an excellent story to tell ... maybe the OP's shocked face will put her off doing it again! Don't think I would have given her a lift either, I'd have been far too shocked.

"i wasnt equating car sleeping and knifing.
just saying thats a typical mn over soft approach"

Well then, you used a silly - dare I say hysterical - analogy. On anyone's sliding scale of rights and wrongs, sleeping in someone else's car is really quite far away from sticking them with a knife. I don't think there's anything "oversoft" in checking that a child who has been sleeping rough overnight is OK before you send them off with a flea in their ear.

i dont give a shit about the kid

i was more concerned abotu the yoga mat

( and we arnet even sure its a kid are we?)