To be somewhat pissed off to find someone in the back of my car?

[follyfoot]

Opened my hatchback boot to let dog jump in yesterday morning to find a body in the back of my car. At first I thought it was of the dead variety, but turned out to be a semi conscious (ie pissed) teenage girl who had spent the night in my car.

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Oh ffs! Give her a lift home? A total stranger? She could be unhinged and dangerous for all you know! I wouldn't give a 16yo girl a lift if I saw them hitchhiking on the road, much less if I found them sleeping in my car. And yes, I do have a teenager.

Seems some of you forget the OP had an appointment to keep, so diversion to drop of an ungrateful teenager would have been stretching tolerance pretty thin, I think, unless the OP felt the girl was vulnerable rather than plain silly for being in the state she was...

Anyway, given it was Saturday morning, would allow girl to stop off at some friend's house and concoct a cover story, before going home. Annoying for OP, but surely not a bad outcome, and hopefully a "lesson learned" about not getting into similar situation again.

follyfoot u did the right thing.

I doubt I'd have offered a lift either - I'd have been too busy recovering from potential cardiac arrest after discovering a "dead" body in my car!

I'd have watched her walking away and, if she appeared compos mentis, in broad daylight with a main road etc. nearby, I'd have let her get on with The Long Walk Home.

Someone earlier asked about what the OP would have done if she'd not found the girl and a head had appeared in the rear-view mirror whilst she was driving along - if that happened to me I'd swerve off the road in utter shock!

Imagine if you'd just got into the car and driven off before hearing a long, low groan as this drunk girl wakes up, then maybe a bit of hungover dry retching before she finally sits up with a pale face, mascara all down her cheeks and scratty hair. You'd be convinced the zombies had come, shit your pants and probably crash the car! The girl in question is lucky that the OP didn't take her head off with a shovel.

Oh gash Banal I hadn't thought of that!

I would have S**T myself and probably crashed the car!

Will be checking my back seat today before I drive anywhere!

I often check the back seat of my car .

Especially at night in quiet car parks......................... you never know do you?

hahaha @ banal.

I think this must be hugely shocking. If I found a pissed kid in my car I would probably yell 'piss off' and send her packing.

I would then sit there in a fugue of guilt and self loathing after telling people on mumsnet about it and being told to give her a lift home.

I think telling the police would be pointless, and ringing her parents might be the worst thing to do.

A kid that age knows, despite being pissed, that sleeping in a stranger's car is wrong.

Sounds like the walk home in daylight on a sunny day is the most mundane part of the girl's adventure. Would have given her chance to collect her thoughts and work out her excuses for her parents. When I was that age I used to walk for miles on my own in the countryside to see my friends, it was normal. I'm sure she'd have been quite safe, probably safer in her eyes than accepting a lift with a stranger.

I can't say what I'd have done in this situation. In my surprise I'd probably have done the same as the OP.

I am amazed that some posters think the OP should've given the girl a lift home??? The girl was lucky the OP was so tolerant and didn't ring the police.

or whack her on the boco

He he he. Text book MN thread. Funny anecdote, OP behaves in reasonable and very human way, avalanche of MNers swiftly arrive to announce how Jesus-like they are in their compassion and pass judgement (in a not so Jesus-like way) on the OP.

Follyfoot - try telling the same anecdote in the pub and see how many people there berate you for failing to drive the girl home. My guess would be, erm, none

It makes me wonder where all the people saying give her a lift home live, where are these godforsaken areas in which people who may or may not be teenaged and may or may not still be drunk aren't safe to stagger home on a Saturday morning after one too many the night before.

I agree with MikeRotch and formerdiva, I'm laughing at how po faced some of you are being to the OP.

Very funny story which amuse for generations I'm sure.

What a weird thread .

We have established she should not have been in the car ~fine .

Shame that so many adults are so narrow minded and to not look beyond (what they ) consider to be obvious reasons for why she was there .

I do agree it would have been a terrible shock ~that ,I get .

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formerdiva... exactly!

I'm suprised so many people think checking a teenage girl is alright and offering to call someone for her is "Jesus-like" rather than very ordinary kindness. You must flip out every time someone offers to help get your buggy up some stairs.

"MikeRotch Mon 11-Apr-11 09:25:40
the fact it was unlocked would not affect it in court

at all

she still knew it wasnt her property"

I thought the law was that breaking and entring was a crime, but if someone enters through an unlocked door it's not a crime?

Also, I would never have spent the night without my parents knowing where I was until I was about 18. Yes the impression I got was that my parents were very strict and that other people do it all the time. I'm guessing from this thread that that was utter rubbish?

A couple of years ago I pulled people up on here because there was a spate of threads about the behaviour of their various boys/men ranging from about 19-24. So many allowances were made for them it was getting on my tits but I was told in no uncertain terms that people of that age could still get away with acting like kids because they were young and impressionable and foolish etc.

So why suddenly is 16 not a child? Make your minds up.

follyfoot
I'd have done the exact same thing as you.
A lift home? No chance.

"I'm suprised so many people think checking a teenage girl is alright and offering to call someone for her is "Jesus-like" rather than very ordinary kindness. You must flip out every time someone offers to help get your buggy up some stairs."

ha! yes, too right Rita. Some of you seem totally fixated on the lift home, but only a couple of people said that - most of us do-gooders are only suggesting the OP could have done as Rita said.

Have some bloody compassion FFS. Whether you hold her responsible or not for her actions , she is still only just an adult and actually I would not really call her that. Jesus, when I was well into my 20's I was making absolutely ridiculous errors of judgement.

Compassion, looking out for your neighbours or in fact for other people generally is what a strong society is made from. Not being mean and insular, turning away because it isn't your 'problem.
So she 'shouldn't' have slept in the car. God hardly the crime of the century though is it?
In the same situation I would have been shocked then pissed of and a bit 'outraged' most likely ,. If I'd had any bosoms I'd have hoiked then up and pursed my lips, felt sanctimonious then I would have checked she was alright and could get home ok. It's alright to be pissed off with someone and do then right thing, the 2 are not mutually exclusive.

OP you might say your DD would never do this so you don't need to consider how you would feel if she did.
Well either count your lucky starts OR get a reality check. YOur DD will be up to stuff and at some point will benefit from the kindness of strangers as we all have done.