To be somewhat pissed off to find someone in the back of my car?

[follyfoot]

Opened my hatchback boot to let dog jump in yesterday morning to find a body in the back of my car. At first I thought it was of the dead variety, but turned out to be a semi conscious (ie pissed) teenage girl who had spent the night in my car.

What you lot fail to realize is the girl probably didn't WANT her " caring mum" to know. You all think everyone lives normal lives. They don't! If she had said " I'm wining your mum/ the police" the girl would have been in serius shit.
Hence she legged it and op was shocked and angry.

Of course it's the job of a teen's parents to know where she is.

Trouble is, it's not always possible.

"If I had been sitting up all night waiting or out searching, a phone call from the irate person who found her in their car would be ...shall we say...a relief."

I totally understand and agree with that but ultimately I would have to blame myself for not knowing where Dd was , not the person who found her in their car and did not think about calling me.

Sorry was meant to be "also" in my previous post, not "although".

There is NO WAY I'd have driven her home! You must be joking! It was so lovely and warm yesterday, a good walk in the sunshine would help sober her up and she might just consider the stupidity of her actions.

All the posters saying, 'Oh but she could be in trouble/a runaway etc' yes she could have been. We don't know that. Or she could have just been a lazy pisshead. We don't know that either.

Taking it at face value, I would have done the same as the OP.

whos to say if the OP did try to help the girl would have been co-operative, she could have got a mouthful of abuse, the girl could lie/run away and OP certainly couldn't detain her.

The teenagers round my way are delightful and no way would i offer them a ride home.

I would have phoned the police though, especially as it would have been one of my DCs getting in the car and not a dog.

Mumsnet us very good at finding endless " maybes"

Maybe she was just pissed and guilty of an offence!

Who said you could not have any autonomy just because your parents have an idea of where you are.

I used to go out in my teens, used to drink a bit as well (not enough to completely lose sense of what I was doing though) but my parents knew where and who I was with, I managed that pre mobile phone and am assuming that in this day in age, it is even easier to let your parents know that you are fine and not to worry. I am not saying that teenager should always be in full sight of their parents but a vague knowledge of their whereabout yes.

Agree with Mike.

Who knows what the girl's homelife is like - taking her home could be worse for her.

I would have probably given her a right telling off though.

I can just see the reverse AIBU

AIBU to be annoyed at the woman who's property I trespassed on in order to sleep in her car because I was pissed. She didn't even give me a bacon sarnie and a lift home, stingy cow!

well she had managed to get to the midle of nowhere pissed through woodland up a track, so she had experiance. She also had enough nounce to try car doors when pissed to see if they where open to find soemwhere to sleep and find yoga mat to use as makeshift blanket.

i would say she was more than capable by op's account

@ TheSkiingGardener

I'm not sure whether I would have given her a lift home, but I would certainly have attempted to call her parents and let them know where she was. There may well have been a mother sitting up all night going mad with worry about where her 16 yo daughter was.

gorionine - do you have teenage children?

No (eldest Dc is 12 so soon to come) but I have been one myself years ago.

I wouldn't have given her a lift unless she was hurt in someway and extremely apologetic. She could have been much older even if she just looked 16 and to have the cheek to sleep in someone elses car (even if it wasn't locked) is shocking. I don't know if anyone elses car on my street is locked or not because I don't go around trying to open the doors!

If she found her way there on her own she can be a big girl and get herself back home.

I think the only thing I would have done is make sure she didn't try to find her way into my house!

actually if the OP estimated her age at 16, I'd say it's more likely that she could be younger than older - I was getting served in pubs from 14 onwards. I wouldn't have tried to sleep in someone's car... I think that's a fairly extraordinary thing to do, and in the OP's position I'd want to check there wasn't something more worrying going on.

its NOT the ops job to be some kind of social worker!

bloody hell if she was knifed do you expect her to ask where he got hte knife from?

She was lucky it wasn't me or my dogs which had found her and that it wasn't my car. Far from letting her get out the I'd have damn well dragged her out!

I'm buggered if I'd have been taking her home or calling her parents... although the police, maybe. She got herself into the OP's car by trespassing onto the OP's property unaided by the owner of those things, she can bloody well get herself out again.

lol at the idea of showing some basic human decency = acting like "some kind of social worker". And sleeping in someone's car is hardly as bad as stabbing them... get a grip.

Age 13-16 isn't adult, but it isn't 100% child, either. The distinction isn't black and white.

I'd be more concerned about her welfare if she was elderly, tbh. But then I'd also be less concerned about my own safety in that case, too.

agree with Valhalla, and the OP - no way would i have offered a random teenager a lift home. Very dodgy thing to do imo.
Old enough to be out getting pissed and not keeping in contact with her parents - old enough to make own way home. (Mother of 3 teenagers, teacher to about 290).
It will be turned into an epic story for her, i've heard loads of them - ther kids come in boasting "i was so drunk I slept in a kennel" (and that's the nice kids) etc etc, and to be honest half the time the parents don't care or don't want to know. I was chatting to our "school copper" the other day, and he was saying that even when he arrests a drunken teenager (under the age of 16 so he has to notify parents before releasing them) mostly the parents refuse to come and collect them from the nick.

BEAR in mind the op was slightly shocked and rightfully angry!

i wasnt equating car sleeping and knifing.
just saying thats a typical mn over soft approach

this girl had BROKEN IN to someone elses property. if that had been her house shed be hot footing it to prison by now.

She didn't break in, it was unlocked.
OP should have checked she was ok, given her water or something. 'Looked 16' could be 14 or younger.