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AIBU?

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Original poster

to think the world has gone mad?

237 replies

macdoodle · 10/04/2011 18:33

or AIBU??
We live in a quiet residential cul de sac. lots of children. DD1 (9) and her friends are going round offering to wash cars. DD2 (3) is with them.
They have just come in saying a neighbour (one I don't know) has told them to come in and put some knickers/trousers on DD2 Shock
She was wearing a long Tshirt and wellies Grin, she had been playing in the garden with no pants on. I thought nothing of it TBH, she is 3 FGS.
Surely its his own filthy mind he should be worried about rather than my 3yr old??
I don't know AIBU?? I've put some trousers on her now.

OP posts:
activate · 10/04/2011 18:57

of course you could see

he saw

so you could see

are you being deliberately obtuse?

Original poster
macdoodle · 10/04/2011 18:57

I am not determined to make him out to be filthy. I am just saying she really wasnt running around naked, it really wasnt all that obvious. But I accept that he obviously did notice and that the majority feel IABU.
Still sad. And says a lot about society IMO.

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AgentZigzag · 10/04/2011 18:58

You'd get too much grit in unwholesome places to be walking about in the buff all the time OP Grin

Not that I've learnt that through experience.

stillbroody · 10/04/2011 18:59

Surely its his own filthy mind he should be worried about

I stood at the door and watched them do my car and next doors, and still didn't notice, so I have no idea how he did. IMO that says more about him than me and her.

makes me very sad that we are so scared of being accused of being paedophiles, or he is covering himself which is a whole other discussion.

What are you insinuating? Because he told your DD to go home to put some clothes on he is a paedophile?
Do you read the Daily Mail, OP?

gorionine · 10/04/2011 19:00

If she was just wearing a long T-shirt, she just has to lift her arm up to lift the Tshirt enough for someone to see she had no underwear on without having to actually look.

stillbroody · 10/04/2011 19:00

I might have interpreted that wrongly, actually
My apologies if it is so

JaneS · 10/04/2011 19:01

Btw, isn't it a bit chilly to be wandering around like that? It is April, after all.

MrsPresley · 10/04/2011 19:01

Surely its his own filthy mind he should be worried about rather than my 3yr old??

He would have had to look pretty hard to even have noticed, as her Tshirt was quite long

IMO that says more about him than me and her.

or he is covering himself which is a whole other discussion

4 Statements from you that (to me) are syaing he was "in the wrong"

bamboostalks · 10/04/2011 19:05

YANBU. Nothing wrong with small children running around naked.

ChickensHaveNoEyebrows · 10/04/2011 19:06

YABU. Perhaps one of the other children gleefully told him that your DD was pants-less. Whatever, I don't see why you're offended that he sent her home tbh. He probably thought he was doing you a favour. I'd send home a toddler without knickers an' all.

Perhaps she peed in his begonias?

Bloodymary · 10/04/2011 19:07

I really do not know why the OP is getting such a hard time here.
The child in question here is a little girl of 3, and she lives in a cul-de-sac.
What is the problem??????

Original poster
macdoodle · 10/04/2011 19:07

I'm not so much offended, as suprised that is even as issue. It wasn't for me clearly. Obviosuly I am in the minority. She has just weed in the bushes though so has had to come in Grin

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ChickensHaveNoEyebrows · 10/04/2011 19:09

Suddenly my begonia theory gains weight...Grin

Easterfeaster · 10/04/2011 19:09

Still want to know OP what age you would stop dd1 from going knickerless outside in public?

Original poster
macdoodle · 10/04/2011 19:11

DD1 would be mortified at going knickerless Grin She is almost 10.
DD2 is child in question, she is 3 (just), in my mind still a baby. I think she would probably be more aware and want to have clothes on, before it became an issue for me.
As I said we are naked quite a bit, perhaps thats the problem Grin

OP posts:
Bloodymary · 10/04/2011 19:11

In my experience (which is considerable) they usually work out for themselves when not to wear knickers!

Original poster
macdoodle · 10/04/2011 19:12

exactly

OP posts:
Bloodymary · 10/04/2011 19:12

Sorry, I meant WHEN to wear knickers Blush

SkinittingFluffyBunnyBonnets · 10/04/2011 19:14

YABU.....1st the kids might be botheing peope and 2nd 9 is a bit too young to be doing odd jobs for money...especially whilst caring for a 3 year old....2nd the 3 year old needs underwear on!

Bloodymary · 10/04/2011 19:15

Or, perhaps I was trying to say, when to stop going 'knickerless' Grin

Skiboo · 10/04/2011 19:17

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exoticfruits · 10/04/2011 19:18

I expect that the neighbour was merely covering himself-he probably felt uncomfortable at having little girls in his garden with no pants.
If they knock on doors asking people to wash cars (expecting money?)they have to do it on the terms of the person having the car washed.

exoticfruits · 10/04/2011 19:19

I would imagine that the neighbour was very aware Skiboo-I remember someone getting very uptight on MN because a man happened to be sitting in his car, near a park eating his sandwiches. He was being careful-and I don't blame him.

Merryleggs · 10/04/2011 19:20

I expect his subtext was

"go home to your parents, small child. My car is not at your disposal for your afternoon's entertainment. I live in this 'quiet cul de sac' too and while I am happy for you to play out in this lovely weather, I would also like to enjoy the day and as such I would rather not have a toddler pitch up on my doorstep. Goodbye."

thefirstMrsDeVere · 10/04/2011 19:25

There is nothing wrong with a little girl having no knickers on.

Perhaps your neighbour thought it better that she was dressed if she was going to be wandering around with other children?

I know I would and I am definately not a peado on every corner sort of person.

I would expect any child to be dressed if they were on my property unless they were related or I knew their parents well.

Perhaps the man thought she wandered out and took her knickers off without your knowledge?

I think you are being very wrong to suggest he needs to sort out his 'filthy mind'. Its that sort of connection that makes men so bloody nervous around children.

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